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Bunny Has Six Legs - Bunny Young

Bunny Has Six Legs - Bunny Young

What an intriguing conversation. Bunny was diagnosed with a heart condition as a teen and has a service animal – Great Dane named Guinness. So many thought-provoking points are made in this podcast episode. Bunny works with soldiers to deal with PTSD and the disabled who require service animals. She also teaches burnout prevention to law enforcement personnel and provides business therapy to business owners. Among many other things, she talks about her emotional/spiritual line of credit called the Pomodoro technique. She also states if you don’t have clarity on what your purpose is no job will fulfill you even if it is in the realm of your purpose. Lack of clarity tends to blind us. Bunny has written four books, has a youtube channel, and an Instagram account. She runs a retreat at her ranch teaching some of the concepts mentioned here and more.

www.abetterplaceconsulting.com

Instagram: Bunny Has Six Legs

Youtube: Bunny Young/Business Therapist

Books:  

  • Crossing the Line Amazon/Barnes& Noble
  • How to Stay Sane During Unsane Times (Found on the website)
  • How to Own Working From Home Amazon/Barnes& Noble
  • Paw Prints on My Heart Amazon/Barnes& Noble
Transcript
WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.560 --> 00:00:07.320 Hey, Dr g here. Thank you for listening to moving up stream without 2 00:00:07.320 --> 00:00:11.119 a paddle. I would like to work with businesses, authors, coaches and 3 00:00:11.119 --> 00:00:15.960 the like who understand the importance of shifting perspectives to obtain the results we're looking 4 00:00:15.960 --> 00:00:19.800 for, and pleased to announce that moving up stream without a paddle is now 5 00:00:19.839 --> 00:00:24.920 offering commercial spots to be aired during the episodes. If you believe your organization 6 00:00:24.920 --> 00:00:29.079 would benefit from advertising on the PODCAST, I would love to have you be 7 00:00:29.160 --> 00:00:33.840 a part of this continuously growing show. Let's get connected and inspire the world 8 00:00:33.920 --> 00:00:43.840 together. Hello everybody, I am back again and this time with a with 9 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:50.479 my guest, bunny, young so stunt woman turned businesswoman, and I love 10 00:00:50.479 --> 00:00:53.159 how she put that. It really is the best way to start a bio 11 00:00:53.240 --> 00:00:57.600 and but after she was diagnosed with a hard condition at a very early age, 12 00:00:57.880 --> 00:01:02.359 Um she was depending on the service dog to really achieve a higher quality 13 00:01:02.359 --> 00:01:06.760 of life. Bony Folk, bunny, bunny, this might be an interesting 14 00:01:06.760 --> 00:01:11.719 conversation if I can't talk. But bunny focuses on using each day to fully 15 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:15.920 deliver our purpose within the world. She founded her a company a better place 16 00:01:15.959 --> 00:01:23.159 consulting to empower and educate businesses and organizations about the impact of work life alignment. 17 00:01:23.840 --> 00:01:29.040 She enjoys breaking the codependency found between professionals and their companies, and she 18 00:01:29.200 --> 00:01:34.959 also enjoys teaching burnout prevention to law enforcement, military and correctional officers. She 19 00:01:36.159 --> 00:01:42.680 is a third generation entrepreneur and international speaker, retired therapist, Sir for army, 20 00:01:42.840 --> 00:01:45.359 army wife and cow girl, and on top of all that, she 21 00:01:45.400 --> 00:01:49.359 speaks four different languages. But through all that, she is most proud of 22 00:01:49.359 --> 00:01:53.959 her incredible family of two daughters and what she's who, she says, her 23 00:01:55.040 --> 00:01:59.599 super sexy, supportive husbands. So we're gonna have an awesome conversation with money, 24 00:01:59.640 --> 00:02:04.640 and is going to come up right after this. Welcome to moving up 25 00:02:04.640 --> 00:02:07.560 stream without a paddle, the podcast that helps develop a mindset for success. 26 00:02:08.000 --> 00:02:12.479 I'm your host, Dr Garrett Goggins, but most people call me Dr g. 27 00:02:13.159 --> 00:02:16.280 Now I've dedicated my life to helping others understand that if you have the 28 00:02:16.360 --> 00:02:23.120 proper mindset, you can propel yourself up that proverbial stream with no paddle needing. 29 00:02:23.759 --> 00:02:28.039 After constantly feeling like you're going against the flow but you're never happy with 30 00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:31.599 your results, it's really time to flip your mindset. If that's something that 31 00:02:31.680 --> 00:02:36.400 you're ready to do, you've come to the right place. Now let's get 32 00:02:36.439 --> 00:02:54.560 to it. Hello, Mommy, welcome to the show. Thank you so 33 00:02:54.639 --> 00:03:00.159 much. I just have to compliment that intro. That was beautiful. Thank 34 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:04.560 I get that a lot. It's Ah, it's the music. I love 35 00:03:04.639 --> 00:03:07.319 the music and and you know it fits me like if you it's just my 36 00:03:07.400 --> 00:03:12.360 personality. That's just how how I roll. So it's uh, I love 37 00:03:12.360 --> 00:03:15.400 it too. So thank you for that. Um, but us, we're 38 00:03:15.400 --> 00:03:19.319 not here for my intro. We're here for you, right, and you 39 00:03:19.639 --> 00:03:24.599 m well, yeah, I mean talk about an intro right, like every 40 00:03:24.639 --> 00:03:29.360 time. I just have to have the listeners know every time that, as 41 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:32.599 a speaker, you listen to somebody introduce you, it doesn't get any more 42 00:03:32.719 --> 00:03:38.080 comfortable to be like you remember that we have to write these things and give 43 00:03:38.120 --> 00:03:40.719 them to somebody and make it sound interesting and when you listen to it, 44 00:03:40.800 --> 00:03:46.960 you're like, I also made like scrambled eggs for breakfast this morning. So, 45 00:03:47.319 --> 00:03:53.400 like my life is also that. So just know that I still clean 46 00:03:53.479 --> 00:04:00.719 toilets, I muck stalls like that's let's that literally the highlight reel. Yeah, 47 00:04:00.800 --> 00:04:04.599 definitely, but I think to me that's what makes a lot of that 48 00:04:05.719 --> 00:04:09.919 so amazing as well, because there's still life that happens with all of that 49 00:04:09.960 --> 00:04:13.439 stuff that's going on. And but let's, I mean let's get into it 50 00:04:13.479 --> 00:04:16.680 though. Let's really I love to give my guests center stage right out the 51 00:04:16.680 --> 00:04:20.879 gate and let them tell their story, because it just really drives the conversation 52 00:04:20.959 --> 00:04:25.800 from there. But Um, so if you want to just give the Reader's 53 00:04:25.839 --> 00:04:30.160 digest version of of, Um, basically what I just said, then Um, 54 00:04:30.279 --> 00:04:34.160 we can go from there. Yeah, I am going to choose the 55 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:40.600 Reader's digest version of my teenager self, because I really think that sometimes, 56 00:04:41.120 --> 00:04:45.920 like as a therapist, I know that most of our programming happens before the 57 00:04:45.959 --> 00:04:50.160 age of seven, which is kind of mind blowing. And as a teenager, 58 00:04:50.519 --> 00:04:55.040 one of the most pivotal moments of my life, and I'm not saying 59 00:04:55.079 --> 00:04:59.199 just as my life up until a teenager, because I laugh when I hear 60 00:04:59.319 --> 00:05:02.240 some of my friends, Um Children, say like Oh, this was the 61 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:06.279 worst day of my life, and it's like, you're thirteen, I can 62 00:05:06.360 --> 00:05:13.839 assure you there's more ahead. Um was the diagnosis of my heart condition and 63 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:18.399 I remember kind of like the energy and the feel of the room was very 64 00:05:18.560 --> 00:05:25.600 solemn and very concerned and very like sad. And you know, here's this 65 00:05:25.639 --> 00:05:30.920 teenager with a heart condition. And I walked out of there with UH lightness 66 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:34.439 that I felt like I had permission to live my life, because it wasn't 67 00:05:34.480 --> 00:05:36.920 like, Oh, I have to do this stuff and then I can enjoy 68 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:44.959 my life. I remember having a conversation about retirement as an entrepreneur, you 69 00:05:45.000 --> 00:05:46.399 know, selling your company, and like, you know, we're going to 70 00:05:46.480 --> 00:05:50.600 do this hustle for three, four or five, ten years and then we 71 00:05:50.639 --> 00:05:54.360 can retire. We can sell the company and retire. And I remember thinking 72 00:05:54.399 --> 00:05:58.399 like that's that's got to be backwards, like why not enjoy life now? 73 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:02.240 And for me with a heart condition, mindset really was shifted in that moment 74 00:06:02.319 --> 00:06:08.639 too. I'm going to enjoy my days now. I'm not going to wait 75 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:13.959 and for some random day in the future that maybe I will have enough, 76 00:06:14.519 --> 00:06:19.319 because I have enough life right now to live. So I'm just gonna not 77 00:06:19.399 --> 00:06:25.600 wait for enough money or enough time or enough of insert whatever here, and 78 00:06:25.639 --> 00:06:30.879 really just make a commitment to start now and start today and enjoy life. 79 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:33.800 And that's what led to the rest of the stuff in that bio, including 80 00:06:33.800 --> 00:06:39.079 the opportunity to be a stuntwoman. That's not advisable when you have a heart 81 00:06:39.079 --> 00:06:43.879 condition. That's definitely not an occupation that your cardiologist is like yeah, why 82 00:06:43.879 --> 00:06:46.079 don't? Why don't you go take up being a stuntwoman and jumping off the 83 00:06:46.120 --> 00:06:51.079 buildings and, you know, doing a forty foot face first Australian repel, 84 00:06:51.279 --> 00:06:57.199 like let's let's do that, that sounds like a good idea. And yet 85 00:06:58.399 --> 00:07:04.120 it was almost as if like why not? And so the other mindset shift 86 00:07:04.279 --> 00:07:11.199 that has really evolved as as I make decisions as an adult is asking myself 87 00:07:11.240 --> 00:07:15.360 at first started with the question of what can I control? And and when 88 00:07:15.399 --> 00:07:23.639 I say control, it's not in a like manipulative or in a literal sense. 89 00:07:23.680 --> 00:07:27.519 It's really just the things that I'm stressing about, because you know, 90 00:07:27.600 --> 00:07:30.519 I know that stress only exists in the future and in the past, because 91 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:33.800 in the present there's there's no stress or either anticipating something happening or your brains 92 00:07:33.839 --> 00:07:40.480 operating out of programming in response to something you've already experienced. And so when 93 00:07:40.519 --> 00:07:45.319 I look at my day and I start to spin out, I'm like, 94 00:07:45.360 --> 00:07:50.439 okay, what can I actually impact like what is there that I actually can 95 00:07:50.439 --> 00:07:57.680 take a look at, and that's something that has really differentiated my mindset versus 96 00:07:57.759 --> 00:08:05.199 a lot of other CEO of multiple companies, because they constantly feel the responsibilities 97 00:08:05.279 --> 00:08:09.680 of absolutely everything, and yet we can only impact or control a certain amount 98 00:08:09.720 --> 00:08:16.319 of things. And then recently I upgraded it to also and that what cost 99 00:08:16.879 --> 00:08:20.079 because I found out there was a lot of things, especially as the owner 100 00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:24.040 of a company and a mom, and you know, I'm an only child, 101 00:08:24.120 --> 00:08:28.759 so I'm stuck between raising my amazing brilliant kiddos. Uh, as you 102 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:33.240 said, I'm an army wife, so it's frequently like I'm I'm on the 103 00:08:33.240 --> 00:08:37.519 battle front myself, by myself, and then I also have amazing parents that 104 00:08:37.720 --> 00:08:45.000 are experiencing their own health progression, and so, you know, it's kind 105 00:08:45.000 --> 00:08:50.679 of like at what costs, like I am taking inventory of how much bandwidth 106 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:56.480 I have and where I'm at, and then once I know that and I 107 00:08:56.519 --> 00:09:01.440 make sure my cups pull, is the only time that I can really pour. 108 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:07.120 And I worked with my own coach on this concept of like an emotional 109 00:09:07.639 --> 00:09:11.279 and spiritual like line of credit. So in business we have a line of 110 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:16.399 credit that, like if you're going to get paid in a twenty days. 111 00:09:16.399 --> 00:09:18.679 Like you essentially take the money out of the line of credit, you pay 112 00:09:18.679 --> 00:09:22.200 your people to do the work and then when the money comes in from, 113 00:09:22.240 --> 00:09:26.799 you know, your client, you pay the line of credit back. And 114 00:09:26.879 --> 00:09:31.240 that's how I operate from an emotional, mental spiritual state. Is Like I 115 00:09:31.279 --> 00:09:35.360 have this line of credit that I constantly am making deposits into, and then 116 00:09:35.360 --> 00:09:39.879 when something happens that's not necessarily traumatic, but my daughter, you know, 117 00:09:39.960 --> 00:09:45.720 needs to be picked up from school or Um unexpectedly, there's this random, 118 00:09:45.799 --> 00:09:48.720 like I can't find the past word for fifteen things at once and it's super 119 00:09:48.759 --> 00:09:52.360 frustrating. It's not going to push me over because I have that line of 120 00:09:52.399 --> 00:09:58.519 credit that I can draw into. And for your listeners, like the story, 121 00:10:00.120 --> 00:10:05.320 my life is about a lot about failure and a lot about figuring out 122 00:10:05.360 --> 00:10:09.440 what it was that I didn't like doing and giving myself permission to figure out 123 00:10:09.480 --> 00:10:15.679 what my purpose was and is and to do more of that and kind of 124 00:10:15.759 --> 00:10:20.919 challenge that question of you have to have a job. Well, why do 125 00:10:20.000 --> 00:10:22.240 you have to have a job? And and trust me, I was not 126 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:26.120 born this way, like I I know I'm with their generation entrepreneur. But 127 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:30.039 I was positive. The only thing I was ever not going to be was 128 00:10:30.080 --> 00:10:33.840 an entrepreneur. I went to school, I got my master's degree, I 129 00:10:33.919 --> 00:10:35.960 was going to be a therapist, I was going to live happily ever after 130 00:10:37.120 --> 00:10:43.519 as a therapist. And there was this G Naine two for something more. 131 00:10:43.679 --> 00:10:48.200 I loved therapy, I loved mental health, I loved Behavioral Sciences, I 132 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:56.600 loved psychology and yet, in fifty minutes once a week like a therapist box, 133 00:10:56.679 --> 00:11:01.799 felt very restrictive on the actual impact in somebody's life that I could have 134 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:05.480 and the changes that we can make. And I couldn't ignore the fact that 135 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:09.120 I was literally raised in companies, and so when so many people were dissatisfied 136 00:11:09.120 --> 00:11:11.200 with their jobs, I was like, well, let me talk to your 137 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:16.519 company, let me talk to your boss, like let's let's do business therapy. 138 00:11:16.200 --> 00:11:20.720 And so I told my supervisor exactly how I was feeling. I said, 139 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:24.200 you know, I've done social services and I poured my heart out into 140 00:11:24.200 --> 00:11:28.799 social services and the highest salary I was ever going to make in social services, 141 00:11:30.159 --> 00:11:33.840 working with child protective services, was like thirty two thousand dollars a year, 142 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:39.679 which would not have paid back my student loans and I've tried private practice 143 00:11:39.759 --> 00:11:43.480 and I just feel stifled as far as the impact that I can make. 144 00:11:43.000 --> 00:11:50.120 And so what else could there possibly be? And now here I am with 145 00:11:50.440 --> 00:11:54.320 multiple companies. And you had said the books are not in the Bio, 146 00:11:54.519 --> 00:11:58.799 but you know, like a bio is, there's only so much you want 147 00:11:58.799 --> 00:12:03.360 to read before the bio become the book. Right. I hope that helps. 148 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:07.679 As far as this the evolution, it's not necessarily a story of bunny 149 00:12:07.720 --> 00:12:11.399 young, but it's definitely the evolution. Yeah, and it's it's a great 150 00:12:11.440 --> 00:12:16.039 evolution and there's a lot of key points and a lot of my listeners are 151 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:22.519 are in Colora Springs, Colorado, so we're a huge military town and so 152 00:12:22.600 --> 00:12:26.200 I think that they'll resonate with this. What what you're talking about, because 153 00:12:26.240 --> 00:12:30.919 a lot of people who aren't part of the military, you know, or 154 00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:35.440 military wives, or military husbands for that that matter, when your spouse, 155 00:12:35.799 --> 00:12:39.519 they're gone a lot and that falls upon you to take care of all the 156 00:12:39.519 --> 00:12:45.679 stuff that's going on and again have this life. So I'm really interested because 157 00:12:45.720 --> 00:12:50.480 this is the first time I've ever heard about this line of credit, and 158 00:12:50.559 --> 00:12:56.159 so let's let's dig a little bit deeper on that and talk how how is 159 00:12:56.200 --> 00:13:00.120 it that you're making those deposits to your line of Credit and then and of 160 00:13:00.159 --> 00:13:03.840 what that looks like with with the with the withdrawals. Yeah, well, 161 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:09.000 let's be clear. It's not like with massages and pedicures, like or nine 162 00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:13.000 holes of golf, that that doesn't it doesn't magically restore your line of credit. 163 00:13:13.879 --> 00:13:20.000 Chances are, if you're listening to this, you're running a credit card 164 00:13:20.120 --> 00:13:22.360 line of credit instead of, you know, the traditional line of credit, 165 00:13:22.440 --> 00:13:28.080 and so you probably already have a balanced Ode, and that's true for the 166 00:13:28.120 --> 00:13:33.559 majority of humans. Right now is that, especially after this year, we're 167 00:13:33.600 --> 00:13:41.840 experiencing post traumatic stress from the past year and that is something to kind of 168 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:46.120 recognize and have an awareness. So the first step in establishing this line of 169 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:50.960 credit is an honest awareness of where you're at right now, today, and 170 00:13:52.000 --> 00:14:00.799 then know that you're not going to magically restore it to today. And where 171 00:14:00.840 --> 00:14:05.879 can you start? Is it by waking up five minutes earlier? Is it 172 00:14:05.000 --> 00:14:11.759 by doing a meditation in the morning, and is it by, you know, 173 00:14:11.360 --> 00:14:18.120 meal prep? How can you take time back in your day, and 174 00:14:18.200 --> 00:14:22.399 I actually I so. If you want to know what my day looks like 175 00:14:22.519 --> 00:14:24.840 or what I what I do to kind of do this. Um, I 176 00:14:24.919 --> 00:14:28.279 put a download on my website because clients were asking me like, well, 177 00:14:28.440 --> 00:14:33.480 what do you do? And so I use things like the pomdorma technique, 178 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:37.360 which is, it works with the way your brain works, to do like 179 00:14:37.759 --> 00:14:43.399 five minutes on and then a five minute break. That five minutes is putting 180 00:14:43.480 --> 00:14:48.440 that deposit back into my line of credit. It's really truly that simple. 181 00:14:48.919 --> 00:14:54.639 And then that twenty five minutes I'm making withdrawals. And if I'm doing something 182 00:14:54.679 --> 00:15:00.399 that's within my purpose, if I really feel like I'm making that world a 183 00:15:00.440 --> 00:15:03.960 better place, it doesn't take as much out as if you told me, 184 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:11.759 all right, bunny, it's time to Um go and file all of your 185 00:15:11.799 --> 00:15:16.440 tax paperwork. That would be a massive withdrawal for me. And so like 186 00:15:16.919 --> 00:15:22.200 that's kind of the consciousness to know when I go to the ranch we have, 187 00:15:22.320 --> 00:15:24.360 we have horses, and when I go to the ranch and I'm working 188 00:15:24.360 --> 00:15:28.480 with the horses and I'm exercising them or cleaning or doing anything like that, 189 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:33.200 it's a lot of work. I'm like drenched in sweat, and yet it's 190 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:37.919 not a withdrawal because I'm doing activities that are actually adding to it. And 191 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:41.279 there are a lot of activities like waiting in line at the bank and all 192 00:15:41.320 --> 00:15:45.480 of these kinds of things that are part of our daily life. Traffic that 193 00:15:45.559 --> 00:15:50.320 are they're going to take withdrawals whether you want them to or not. And 194 00:15:50.360 --> 00:15:56.360 in that moment, how can you recognize that and have that awareness and maybe 195 00:15:56.399 --> 00:16:00.360 put on a podcast, maybe put on, you know, your favorite Dr 196 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:07.039 g and listen and be able to also recognize that you can make deposits throughout 197 00:16:07.039 --> 00:16:11.840 the day as well. Yeah, and I think that I always call it 198 00:16:11.879 --> 00:16:15.720 stacking. So if you can stack something with something that you're already doing, 199 00:16:17.320 --> 00:16:22.080 that makes it so much easier. And it because because a lot of people 200 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:23.879 are looking at okay, well, how do I squeeze the time and to 201 00:16:25.000 --> 00:16:27.399 do that piece? Well, you have it. You just have to like 202 00:16:27.440 --> 00:16:30.639 you were saying, and it's it really is that easy when you have the 203 00:16:30.759 --> 00:16:34.159 times when you're in traffic. Or I used to love I used to work 204 00:16:34.919 --> 00:16:40.120 in live in Denver, but drive to Clarado Springs, which is about with 205 00:16:40.159 --> 00:16:44.480 traffic about an hour and that was a great reset time for me, Um 206 00:16:44.600 --> 00:16:47.799 in the morning and in in in the evening. So it was a really 207 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:52.320 good time for me to use that drive time to prepare myself for the day 208 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:56.919 and then to recuperate from the day as as I drove home. But you 209 00:16:57.000 --> 00:17:03.240 have to take those moments and really stack the things in there to to to 210 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:07.680 make those deposits for you. Um, but the other piece I kind of 211 00:17:07.720 --> 00:17:10.920 want to go back to that I love that you brought up was this idea 212 00:17:11.039 --> 00:17:18.559 that, uh, you utilize the things that you found that you didn't like 213 00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:23.279 to really determine what it was that your purpose in life. And I want 214 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:26.640 to maybe just talk about that a little bit. And I think that with 215 00:17:26.720 --> 00:17:32.319 covid happening, a lot of people are readjusting what they're there. There wants 216 00:17:32.319 --> 00:17:36.039 and desires and and, you know, the job that they have that they 217 00:17:36.079 --> 00:17:41.319 didn't they now don't have the really reevaluating these this who they are, where 218 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:44.039 they want to go and what is their purpose in life? And and this, 219 00:17:44.200 --> 00:17:47.920 and I've talked to a lot of people where they're I don't know what 220 00:17:47.960 --> 00:17:49.839 I want, and my response to them is it well, what is it 221 00:17:49.960 --> 00:17:53.960 you don't want? Yeah, because from that list we can we can maybe 222 00:17:53.960 --> 00:17:57.680 determine what it is that you want out of life. Yeah, so really 223 00:17:57.880 --> 00:18:02.880 good. I literally just finished filming a Youtube video about this yesterday. So 224 00:18:02.960 --> 00:18:06.680 it's so interesting that we're having this conversation because it's very fresh in my mind. 225 00:18:07.160 --> 00:18:11.039 So something that you can do is think about the past four positions that 226 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:18.440 you had and make a list of things that you really enjoyed about those positions 227 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:22.839 and make a list of those things that you really didn't enjoy. And so 228 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:26.839 right now, in the time that we're recording this, there's this great resignation 229 00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:33.599 that's happening, and my cautionary tale for that great resignation is I am thrilled 230 00:18:33.640 --> 00:18:40.559 that you are valuing yourself enough to say just because it was the job that 231 00:18:40.599 --> 00:18:44.640 I showed up for day in and day out, over however long it was, 232 00:18:45.480 --> 00:18:47.880 and now I have a taste of what it's like to work in my 233 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:52.799 jammys and I want more of that. Like, that's a great awareness. 234 00:18:52.839 --> 00:18:57.400 However, if you don't yet have the clarity on what it is that you 235 00:18:57.480 --> 00:19:02.839 do want or what you'R is, no job is going to be fulfilling, 236 00:19:03.279 --> 00:19:08.440 even if it is actually fulfilling your purpose, because you you're as humans. 237 00:19:08.480 --> 00:19:15.200 We can't make that correlation. That we're getting what we want until we have 238 00:19:15.440 --> 00:19:21.720 that unconscious and subconscious awareness and acknowledgement that it is what we want. And 239 00:19:21.799 --> 00:19:26.559 so there's like that infamous story about the family that's in the flood and the 240 00:19:26.559 --> 00:19:30.880 man standing on the roof and he's like praying to God for God to rescue 241 00:19:30.960 --> 00:19:33.279 him, and the boat comes by and is like Hey, get in the 242 00:19:33.319 --> 00:19:36.039 boat and the guy's like it's okay, like I'm praying to God for him 243 00:19:36.079 --> 00:19:37.640 to rescue me, like God's going to rescue me. And then, like 244 00:19:37.720 --> 00:19:41.759 the Coast Guard comes by and it's like hey, like we're here, like 245 00:19:41.799 --> 00:19:42.519 get in the boat, and he's like, oh no, it's fine, 246 00:19:42.599 --> 00:19:45.559 like God's coming to rescue me. And then a helicopter comes and, like, 247 00:19:47.119 --> 00:19:48.799 you know, it's like here, I'm here to rescue you, and 248 00:19:48.839 --> 00:19:52.039 the guy gets up to heaven because, you know, it doesn't get off 249 00:19:52.079 --> 00:19:55.119 the roof and he's like God, why didn't you rescue me? And God's 250 00:19:55.119 --> 00:19:56.839 like I sent you a boat, the coastguard and a helicopter, like why 251 00:19:56.839 --> 00:20:03.559 didn't you take it? And so like sometimes the help and the thing that 252 00:20:03.599 --> 00:20:07.960 you're looking for is there, you just don't yet recognize it. And so 253 00:20:08.119 --> 00:20:14.839 what you said is a really great question and it's it's a really great exercise 254 00:20:14.880 --> 00:20:18.079 to say what it is that I don't want and I think to put some 255 00:20:19.519 --> 00:20:25.920 boundaries around that and make it a little bit simpler. In your professional life, 256 00:20:26.720 --> 00:20:30.000 look at your positions and what it was that you enjoyed about those and 257 00:20:30.039 --> 00:20:33.839 that major life easier, that made deposits in that line of credit, if 258 00:20:33.839 --> 00:20:37.559 we're going to continue with that analogy, and the same can be done with 259 00:20:37.640 --> 00:20:42.200 relationships and the same can be done with vacations. I mean it's how we 260 00:20:42.319 --> 00:20:48.599 ended up on a cruise was because the logistics of planning my husband's parents, 261 00:20:48.079 --> 00:20:53.640 my parents are kids, I have a service animal and like planning activities for 262 00:20:53.720 --> 00:20:57.240 everybody and where everybody was staying and where we're going to be eating. I 263 00:20:57.359 --> 00:21:00.599 was like, you know what, we're going to go on to cruise, 264 00:21:00.839 --> 00:21:03.960 because then I don't have to do all the logistics and I can just enjoy 265 00:21:04.039 --> 00:21:11.240 my vacation. So that's that exercise can be applied in a lot of areas 266 00:21:11.279 --> 00:21:15.759 of your life. Yeah, you don't have to respond if you don't want 267 00:21:15.799 --> 00:21:19.920 to, but how did this, because I was really intrigued when, when 268 00:21:19.960 --> 00:21:25.000 I first contact you, about the service dog piece of it. How did 269 00:21:25.079 --> 00:21:30.319 how did that? How does that play into your your journey, and did 270 00:21:30.359 --> 00:21:34.759 that help you with your mindset of where you're where you were going in life? 271 00:21:36.680 --> 00:21:41.720 So, first off, thank you for your awareness and sensitivity to Um, 272 00:21:41.759 --> 00:21:45.440 an individual with a disability and my service animal, and I'm happy to 273 00:21:45.599 --> 00:21:52.079 answer it in the aspect that I wasn't aware that service animals could assist with 274 00:21:52.160 --> 00:22:02.200 cardiac conditions. I also had a whole mindset and identity ship shift around being 275 00:22:02.519 --> 00:22:07.960 a disabled individual and kind of accepting that I prefer differently abled. And even 276 00:22:07.000 --> 00:22:11.880 then, if I probably sat with it long enough, with enough therapeutic intervention, 277 00:22:11.400 --> 00:22:17.359 I could, you know, really integrate the being disabled. I can 278 00:22:17.400 --> 00:22:22.799 now say I am a disabled individual Um and not have that kind of level 279 00:22:22.839 --> 00:22:26.880 of resistance that I first had so much of, because it's it's not necessarily 280 00:22:26.920 --> 00:22:32.200 bad, it's just Um. It's just a word, you know, and 281 00:22:32.279 --> 00:22:37.720 it's just kind of a state for right now. And then there was another 282 00:22:37.799 --> 00:22:41.759 mindset and identity ship to being an individual of six legs, and so if 283 00:22:41.759 --> 00:22:45.839 you go to my instagram, which is bunny has six legs, people are 284 00:22:45.880 --> 00:22:48.400 like, why do you have six legs? Like that's so weird, and 285 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:52.279 I'm like because I have a service animal, and so it went from the 286 00:22:52.400 --> 00:23:00.599 reason that it's funny has six legs. Is My true her of my friends 287 00:23:00.680 --> 00:23:07.119 and my family members wouldn't not invite me places because they didn't want the complications 288 00:23:07.119 --> 00:23:12.799 of accommodating a service animal. They started to realize that, and I'm so 289 00:23:12.920 --> 00:23:19.160 thankful for this, that I have six legs, and so it's not just 290 00:23:19.359 --> 00:23:23.200 including me, it's including all of me, which includes my service animal, 291 00:23:23.200 --> 00:23:32.160 Guinness, and there was a lot of of perspective shifts and mindset shifts along 292 00:23:32.200 --> 00:23:34.559 the way. I have a great Dane. He doesn't look like a lab 293 00:23:34.640 --> 00:23:41.160 or Golden Retriever, which is what people are used to, and my mother, 294 00:23:41.640 --> 00:23:48.839 my mom always Um assists men supports me in my patients around this because 295 00:23:49.200 --> 00:23:55.200 a lot I am a part of a nonprofit that does service animal education. 296 00:23:55.359 --> 00:23:59.720 And yet at eleven o'clock at night, when I'm walking through the Atlanta airport 297 00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:02.599 and I late for my connecting flight and it's the last flight and the night 298 00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:04.720 and I don't want to spend the night in the Atlanta airport, when somebody 299 00:24:04.839 --> 00:24:07.079 runs up to me and it's like, Oh you know what, can I 300 00:24:07.119 --> 00:24:11.599 pet your dog? Like I had a great growing up, like, my 301 00:24:11.640 --> 00:24:15.880 answer is no, and like I'm quite hurt about it. My Mom's like, 302 00:24:15.960 --> 00:24:19.119 you know, that's an opportunity to kind of, you know, educate 303 00:24:19.160 --> 00:24:25.759 them about why we don't pet service animals because they're working and you don't distract 304 00:24:25.799 --> 00:24:27.480 them. And and I also told my mom, like, and I'm also 305 00:24:27.559 --> 00:24:32.519 a human who's late for a flight and it's not my responsibility to educate the 306 00:24:32.519 --> 00:24:38.079 world. So I think that it's helped me in so many more, so 307 00:24:38.200 --> 00:24:45.440 many unexpected ways, far beyond just being able to have assistance with my heart 308 00:24:45.559 --> 00:24:52.400 condition, and I'm really truly and honestly grateful for that. And I will 309 00:24:52.440 --> 00:24:55.799 tell you that it's a lot. He's a hundred and sixty five pounds. 310 00:24:55.799 --> 00:25:00.759 We're going we're heading on a flight in a couple of days and it's anxiety 311 00:25:00.839 --> 00:25:03.000 producing thinking about all of the questions that I'm going to be asked. In 312 00:25:03.039 --> 00:25:07.440 the Phoenix airport. I had somebody literally jump on his back and try to 313 00:25:07.559 --> 00:25:12.119 ride him because he's a great Dane, and we've been asked to leave restaurants. 314 00:25:12.440 --> 00:25:17.759 We you know, it's a lot of logistics to manage, and so 315 00:25:17.920 --> 00:25:25.480 my mindset around it now is accept me with all six legs or you don't 316 00:25:25.480 --> 00:25:27.319 get the benefit of having me as a part of your life. 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Like look, I'm here and this is this 335 00:27:11.119 --> 00:27:12.160 is a part of this is all of me. This is where I'm at, 336 00:27:12.240 --> 00:27:15.480 this is where I'm going and and yes, you have six legs and 337 00:27:15.480 --> 00:27:18.640 and, but someone may not have the six legs, but this, the 338 00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:22.200 cent to principle still applies, like either they're gonna be with you on that 339 00:27:22.279 --> 00:27:26.920 journey or they're not. That's their choice and you're gonna show up full, 340 00:27:26.960 --> 00:27:32.119 authentic you, and I love that. We you give them the choice to 341 00:27:32.160 --> 00:27:36.359 do that. I am a little dumbfounded that someone tried to ride your dog, 342 00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:41.359 whether it's a serving dog or not. That's just awkward. But Um, 343 00:27:41.640 --> 00:27:45.680 but I love, I love the the perspective that you flipped on that 344 00:27:45.720 --> 00:27:52.319 too, because, yes, and I think that even even in a coaching 345 00:27:52.400 --> 00:27:56.759 piece with a life coach and and how we are, that there's there's there's 346 00:27:56.799 --> 00:28:02.480 a fine line between I'm a servant to you all too I'm still human and 347 00:28:03.519 --> 00:28:06.279 you know, hold the space for me to be human as well, and 348 00:28:06.359 --> 00:28:10.599 so I love that you brought that up. Yeah, yeah, and and 349 00:28:10.920 --> 00:28:18.000 in my professional space, all of my experiences and all of my knowledge is 350 00:28:18.039 --> 00:28:22.359 what makes it valuable for me to be in a coaching relationship with you or 351 00:28:22.480 --> 00:28:27.359 working with a company on burnout. You know, people are shocked to hear 352 00:28:27.480 --> 00:28:36.519 that burnout prevention specialist has burned out. How do you think I know anything 353 00:28:36.519 --> 00:28:41.720 about burnout? So you know, it's that is or you know, a 354 00:28:41.759 --> 00:28:48.400 therapist experiences anxiety and it's like that. That's that is where we get to 355 00:28:48.519 --> 00:28:56.240 lean in and welcome all of the experiences in our life and know that they 356 00:28:56.279 --> 00:29:03.079 actually strengthen us and do make us more valuable, particularly from me personally in 357 00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:07.119 the coaching space, because they I'll be in a coaching session and USK would 358 00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:11.480 it be helpful for me to share with you an experience that I've had versus 359 00:29:11.559 --> 00:29:15.440 me just telling you what to do, because if I tell you what to 360 00:29:15.480 --> 00:29:18.519 do, and if you're working with a coach like this is totally my soapbox, 361 00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:21.720 but if you're working with a coach that's taught, that's constantly telling you 362 00:29:21.720 --> 00:29:26.440 what to do, even a therapist for that matter, it's not that valuable 363 00:29:26.440 --> 00:29:32.000 of a relationship because you're creating codependency. Every time you have something come up 364 00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:33.160 in your life, you need that person to tell you what to do, 365 00:29:33.839 --> 00:29:38.079 or you need that therapist to tell you what to do, and so the 366 00:29:38.160 --> 00:29:45.200 better relationship is to find somebody who can reduce your learning curve and help equip 367 00:29:45.240 --> 00:29:51.440 you with tools for you to be able to up level your own life. 368 00:29:51.640 --> 00:29:55.920 And that doesn't mean that it's not a therapist, because our mental health is, 369 00:29:56.559 --> 00:29:59.200 you know, one of the most important, most important things in our 370 00:29:59.240 --> 00:30:03.480 lives, and our mental health is an amazing asset. And we talk about 371 00:30:03.519 --> 00:30:06.680 physical health, where there's a jam on every single corner, but we talked 372 00:30:06.680 --> 00:30:10.000 about mental health and it's like, oh no, we actually we don't talk 373 00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:14.279 about that, like we don't tell people we see a therapist. And particularly 374 00:30:14.319 --> 00:30:18.240 in the military community, I'm really glad to be able to see and be 375 00:30:18.279 --> 00:30:22.880 able to work with a lot more individuals in the military, active duty, 376 00:30:23.279 --> 00:30:30.200 being working with the government, working with the military to help the recognition that 377 00:30:30.240 --> 00:30:37.039 post traumatic stress it's not it's not necessarily that we're going to cure it, 378 00:30:37.119 --> 00:30:41.720 but by being able to acknowledge and have the awareness that we're talking about and 379 00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:48.559 during and have some tools during service, during active duties, service can greatly 380 00:30:48.799 --> 00:30:56.559 improve your overall mental health, whether you're in the active duty or retired or 381 00:30:56.119 --> 00:31:00.839 um you know, after active duty. And so that's been a really amazing 382 00:31:00.920 --> 00:31:04.279 kind of shift to be able to not just say it's okay if your active 383 00:31:04.319 --> 00:31:08.160 duty and you, you know, need to talk to a therapist, but 384 00:31:08.240 --> 00:31:14.519 being able to see that the tools that are being issued for mental health in 385 00:31:14.559 --> 00:31:18.799 the military are starting to become more and more abundant. And when you go 386 00:31:18.880 --> 00:31:23.799 back to the conversation around purpose, that's one of the most powerful occupations to 387 00:31:23.880 --> 00:31:30.279 have. Is because in boot camp, you know, in basic training, 388 00:31:30.839 --> 00:31:36.799 you are issued a purpose, you are issued core values. These are things 389 00:31:36.839 --> 00:31:41.519 that a lot of humans who have never served in the military don't know with 390 00:31:41.640 --> 00:31:45.440 such conviction. They don't have it like brainwashed into them, which it's. 391 00:31:45.759 --> 00:31:52.440 It is brainwashing, but it's it's formulaic brainwashing for both the safety of the 392 00:31:52.519 --> 00:31:56.920 individual defending our country and for the safety of of our country, one could 393 00:31:56.039 --> 00:32:02.240 argue. And so that you're issued a purpose and core values and a mindset 394 00:32:02.319 --> 00:32:07.720 to have and how to think and so, you know, being able to 395 00:32:07.720 --> 00:32:13.599 to really maybe not send everybody through basic training, I think that there is 396 00:32:13.680 --> 00:32:17.920 a certain level of basic training, like they send military family members through basic 397 00:32:17.920 --> 00:32:22.880 training. We have our own basic training that we can engage in virtually to 398 00:32:22.960 --> 00:32:28.079 be able to ready ourselves for what military life is going to look like. 399 00:32:28.200 --> 00:32:34.720 I'm I'm a army granddaughter, niece, daughter and wife, and so I 400 00:32:35.400 --> 00:32:38.680 grew up kind of in this ethos of what it looks like to serve our 401 00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:45.759 country and have that level of purpose and, you know, a mindset of 402 00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:50.839 writing a blank check payable with up to your your life in service of our 403 00:32:50.880 --> 00:32:54.079 country, and I think that that also helped me in developing my company's to 404 00:32:54.200 --> 00:33:00.480 really find a purpose that was that strong that I'd be willing to put my 405 00:33:00.559 --> 00:33:06.720 whole life on the line for it. Yeah, that's yeah, I haven't 406 00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:09.880 mentor he said at all the times like we were always. How did I 407 00:33:09.880 --> 00:33:13.200 have to see how he puts it, because is escaping now because it's so 408 00:33:13.240 --> 00:33:15.079 great. Their ways is that we always were, always dying for the things 409 00:33:15.119 --> 00:33:20.200 that we don't want. Let's start to die for the things that we do 410 00:33:20.400 --> 00:33:22.759 and and and do it with passion and purpose. And so what is that 411 00:33:22.839 --> 00:33:27.400 you want? And well, let's let's get into that piece. So we 412 00:33:27.440 --> 00:33:30.920 haven't talked about the business therapist. We've talked about all this stuff moving up 413 00:33:30.920 --> 00:33:37.240 to that, but I mean even the terminology a business therapist is not something 414 00:33:37.279 --> 00:33:39.680 that a lot of people. I know I haven't heard it. So but 415 00:33:40.680 --> 00:33:43.720 once you say you're like, Oh, that makes a lot of sense. 416 00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:52.319 So what what does business therapy look like? So in a better place, 417 00:33:52.359 --> 00:33:55.000 consulting, which is one of the companies that I founded. We work with 418 00:33:55.319 --> 00:34:00.920 companies on work life alignment and burnout prevention in like the traditional well, any 419 00:34:01.000 --> 00:34:07.240 anything we do in that company is not traditional, but in a workshop format 420 00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:10.400 or in a course format, and it's kind of like a choose your own 421 00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:15.519 adventure. So it's very experiential, because the kind of therapists and therapy that 422 00:34:15.559 --> 00:34:22.480 I specialized in was experiential Um therapy and animal assisted therapy and learning. And 423 00:34:22.519 --> 00:34:28.519 so I'm all about being able to try these tools in a safe environment and 424 00:34:28.559 --> 00:34:31.719 then have pure discussions around them. And again, that comes from what we 425 00:34:31.760 --> 00:34:36.159 discussed about with I don't want to build a codependency. How many times have 426 00:34:36.280 --> 00:34:38.280 we come in and had like a consultant come in and teach us something and 427 00:34:38.320 --> 00:34:42.880 then the consultants on the elevator and we've already like thrown all the tools out 428 00:34:42.920 --> 00:34:47.960 the door. So I really wanted it to be something that could be folded 429 00:34:49.000 --> 00:34:54.880 into the company's current culture and environment and have those team members empowered to use 430 00:34:54.880 --> 00:35:00.639 those tools. And so we teach tools for work life alignment and we teach 431 00:35:00.679 --> 00:35:04.880 tools for burnout prevention. Um, when we talk about the fact that work 432 00:35:04.920 --> 00:35:08.760 life balance is not the end all, be all, and in fact balance, 433 00:35:08.800 --> 00:35:12.400 if you think about it from a teeter totter, is not fun. 434 00:35:12.559 --> 00:35:17.000 You know, it's the ups and downs that actually really do make life so 435 00:35:17.159 --> 00:35:23.639 enjoyable. And then I do work one on one with business owners and with 436 00:35:23.800 --> 00:35:29.280 professionals and executives on work life alignment, and so that looks like, you 437 00:35:29.280 --> 00:35:32.599 know, you get to a level of success, to your point with so 438 00:35:32.679 --> 00:35:37.000 much sacrifice and you kind of stop and say, okay, what's next? 439 00:35:37.039 --> 00:35:38.840 I want to grow, but I want to enjoy my life too, and 440 00:35:38.880 --> 00:35:44.599 so it's about that growth with enjoyment of life and being able to identify what 441 00:35:44.800 --> 00:35:49.280 is important, because it's not just about the corner office or it's not just 442 00:35:49.360 --> 00:35:52.840 about growing your company to seven figures, eight figures, nine figures, whatever. 443 00:35:52.880 --> 00:36:00.719 It is being able to be really clear about having aligned goals and taking 444 00:36:00.719 --> 00:36:05.199 that aligned action and not just setting up metrics and achieving metrics and then, 445 00:36:05.400 --> 00:36:07.840 you know, doing it again and again and again, which is what we 446 00:36:07.880 --> 00:36:12.519 typically do. I mean as predators, like I joke that againness, my 447 00:36:12.519 --> 00:36:15.840 service dog, if you asked him to sit for a hot dog, like 448 00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:19.159 he would sit and you would give him a hot dog and then two minutes 449 00:36:19.239 --> 00:36:22.920 later he'd do it again for the same reward, like we just do it 450 00:36:22.000 --> 00:36:25.360 over and over and over again because we get that hit of a reward. 451 00:36:25.960 --> 00:36:29.719 And you know, at the end of the day, he didn't get anything 452 00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:32.559 from sitting like. He would rather have just been left alone to go sleep 453 00:36:32.559 --> 00:36:37.719 on the couch. So but like there was a reward involved and so in 454 00:36:37.760 --> 00:36:40.280 his head he's like, okay, I'm gonna do it. So that's what 455 00:36:40.480 --> 00:36:44.599 we do with a better place consulting. And then the biggest thing that that 456 00:36:44.960 --> 00:36:51.599 I do is create content and resources that are free um or low cost, 457 00:36:51.840 --> 00:36:55.440 like the books, so that it can permeate into the entire world, because 458 00:36:55.480 --> 00:37:01.159 I can't be everywhere at once, and so through podcasts, through my youtube 459 00:37:01.239 --> 00:37:07.159 channel, through the resources on the website, being able to let anybody anywhere 460 00:37:07.480 --> 00:37:13.039 get started on their own sanity and on their own work life alignment journey today 461 00:37:13.280 --> 00:37:17.039 is really like. Now I've taken kind of that step back as the CEO 462 00:37:17.239 --> 00:37:22.880 running the company to continue my vision of creating the resources and then allowing the 463 00:37:22.920 --> 00:37:29.079 company to pump those out in whatever way to as many people as possible. 464 00:37:29.800 --> 00:37:34.840 And that's really where business therapy came from. was, instead of sitting behind 465 00:37:34.840 --> 00:37:38.519 the desk and listening to how many people are so unhappy with their jobs, 466 00:37:38.920 --> 00:37:43.400 let's go change the jobs, let's go change the work environment, let's go 467 00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:47.239 change, you know, the mindset around a forty hour work week and around, 468 00:37:47.599 --> 00:37:52.679 you know, Um constantly being available and checking your email and all of 469 00:37:52.679 --> 00:37:55.000 these kinds of things that we say, Oh, well, you know, 470 00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:59.159 my boss expects me to check my email at eleven o'clock at night, and 471 00:37:59.159 --> 00:38:04.480 it's like, well, who set that expectation? And so one of four 472 00:38:04.559 --> 00:38:08.559 of the pillars that we focus on our boundaries self care, purpose and grit 473 00:38:08.800 --> 00:38:13.199 and grit is that line of credit. That's really what we're talking about with 474 00:38:13.239 --> 00:38:16.519 grit is being able to, you know, have something to take out of 475 00:38:16.599 --> 00:38:21.280 the bank to get you through those times that are going to come. It's 476 00:38:21.280 --> 00:38:22.760 not if they're going to come, it's when they're gonna come. I mean 477 00:38:22.840 --> 00:38:31.159 hello, right, right. There's a piece in I was on a call 478 00:38:31.320 --> 00:38:36.760 the other day, Um, and we were talking about integrity and there's an 479 00:38:36.760 --> 00:38:40.480 interest in the second definition of integrity. Is talking about the structural integrity, 480 00:38:40.519 --> 00:38:45.800 and I had this concept hit my mind and it almost sounds like it really 481 00:38:45.800 --> 00:38:50.719 would tie into what you're talking about. That, you know, a lot 482 00:38:50.760 --> 00:38:54.000 of us go for financial goals, which is fine, right, but we 483 00:38:54.119 --> 00:38:58.000 and we move up the success ladder. Entrepreneurs, you know, they have 484 00:38:58.119 --> 00:39:00.079 the business or whatever it looks like. If you're an employee and you're moving 485 00:39:00.159 --> 00:39:06.880 up within the company, but there's this unhappiness piece that you're that you're referring 486 00:39:06.920 --> 00:39:10.000 to. And in my mind, when I was looking at the structural integrity 487 00:39:10.039 --> 00:39:14.360 of a human being, is that there's other aspects of our lives that have 488 00:39:14.519 --> 00:39:17.679 to be focused on as well, and it's it seems like this is that 489 00:39:17.760 --> 00:39:22.119 piece, right. And so if we're not looking at the spiritual piece of 490 00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:24.760 our lives, if we're not looking at the physical fitness of our lives, 491 00:39:24.760 --> 00:39:30.400 the mental fitness of our lives, as well as the financial abundancy that we're 492 00:39:30.400 --> 00:39:34.159 having. If we're not abundant in everything, we're gonna feel lacking. And 493 00:39:32.960 --> 00:39:37.199 and it sounds like this is kind of that, that alignment, and you 494 00:39:37.199 --> 00:39:42.360 could correct me if I'm wrong, that that could be very um a piece 495 00:39:42.360 --> 00:39:45.920 that if people would just apply that within their job, they could find a 496 00:39:45.960 --> 00:39:52.079 happiness that they're looking for. Yeah, and you know, happiness isn't isn't 497 00:39:52.159 --> 00:39:58.840 interesting goal because chemically, in the brain happiness is is short term, it's 498 00:39:58.880 --> 00:40:06.440 temporary. So it's it's not an extended um state of being right. It's 499 00:40:06.480 --> 00:40:10.239 it's really if we if we take it down to the very root of it, 500 00:40:10.320 --> 00:40:14.360 what we're looking at in our brain, or what our brain is looking 501 00:40:14.400 --> 00:40:19.599 for, is just to not be eaten, like just to know that we're 502 00:40:19.599 --> 00:40:22.760 safe. That's really what what when the brain is is at its best, 503 00:40:23.159 --> 00:40:28.480 is just when it knows that it doesn't have to do the fight or flight 504 00:40:28.960 --> 00:40:35.440 and it also doesn't have a bunch of Um senses to process at that time 505 00:40:35.599 --> 00:40:39.119 because Um, our conscious brain correct you. You might know this Dr g 506 00:40:39.400 --> 00:40:44.760 Um. So our conscious brain, I think every two seconds, processes forty 507 00:40:45.000 --> 00:40:49.599 pieces of information and our subconscious brain processes, what is it? Twenty million? 508 00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:59.840 Yeah, yeah, and so alignment is about that energy of going about 509 00:41:00.000 --> 00:41:05.880 your day and feeling like you're on the right path. And you know your 510 00:41:05.920 --> 00:41:10.920 your conscious brain will feel happy at times, but that unconscious and that subconscious 511 00:41:10.920 --> 00:41:15.599 brain just feels in alignment. And so so here's here's the picture I want 512 00:41:15.639 --> 00:41:19.599 you to to draw. Um, if you have a piece of paper, 513 00:41:19.639 --> 00:41:22.000 if you're not, if you're not, if you're driving, don't do this. 514 00:41:22.079 --> 00:41:25.360 That will be met disclaimer. Um. So if you draw like a 515 00:41:25.519 --> 00:41:29.719 road with two, you know, lines on the side of the road, 516 00:41:30.159 --> 00:41:32.480 those are your core values. That's kind of like the guide posts on the 517 00:41:32.519 --> 00:41:37.800 side of the road to make sure that you don't violate your core values and 518 00:41:37.840 --> 00:41:42.119 go for wheeling. And then at the end of the road is your vision, 519 00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:45.320 that's your purpose. It's like your Nirvana. So if you accomplish this, 520 00:41:45.920 --> 00:41:50.400 you would be at your destination, your life would be completely fulfilled. 521 00:41:50.800 --> 00:41:53.000 And then your mission, and we do this within a company, because so 522 00:41:53.039 --> 00:41:58.960 many companies just past their mission up on a sign somewhere, but nobody actually 523 00:41:58.960 --> 00:42:01.599 ever pays attention to it. Your mission is the vehicle that gets you there, 524 00:42:01.719 --> 00:42:06.320 and that could be your job, that could be serving our country, 525 00:42:06.440 --> 00:42:10.280 that could be, you know, raising children, and so that's the car 526 00:42:10.519 --> 00:42:15.400 that you've built or the motorcycle, the vehicle that's getting you closer to that 527 00:42:15.519 --> 00:42:21.000 vision, and you'll know when you're off roading because you're you're kind of violating 528 00:42:21.039 --> 00:42:23.920 those core values. It doesn't guarantee that you're going to be happy on this 529 00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:29.000 road, it doesn't guarantee that you know there's not going to be speed bumps 530 00:42:29.039 --> 00:42:32.559 along the way, but it does give you a mental framework to know what 531 00:42:32.599 --> 00:42:37.440 that alignment looks like in your life. And the other really popular kind of 532 00:42:37.519 --> 00:42:43.400 visualization is that, I think it's called the wheel of life, where you'll 533 00:42:43.400 --> 00:42:46.800 take these aspects of your life and, on a scale of zero, being 534 00:42:46.840 --> 00:42:52.239 at the hub intend being out here, you'll draw kind of where you're at 535 00:42:52.440 --> 00:42:57.280 feeling, on your finances, on your sex life, on your emotions, 536 00:42:57.440 --> 00:43:01.280 on your spirit spiritual life, on your mental health, your physical health, 537 00:43:01.639 --> 00:43:06.360 and if you're like out of seven or four or three or two or nine, 538 00:43:06.960 --> 00:43:10.800 and then you connect them. This is your wheel for life and most 539 00:43:10.840 --> 00:43:16.280 people's wheels kind of would not roll down the road very well. And and 540 00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:20.000 I had one client be like well, if I'm a one on everything, 541 00:43:20.039 --> 00:43:22.400 then my wheel is gonna work, and I'm like yes, but you're not 542 00:43:22.440 --> 00:43:27.199 gonna get very far because you have a very small wheel. And so the 543 00:43:27.239 --> 00:43:30.920 idea and the concept is not tag ten out of ten on everything, but 544 00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:35.400 it's to have a little bit more balance and to get closer to that outer 545 00:43:35.559 --> 00:43:40.719 rim. Yeah, I love that. I love that we're getting close to 546 00:43:40.840 --> 00:43:44.800 time, but I want to talk about your books. I mean because you 547 00:43:44.800 --> 00:43:47.000 have four, um, and if you if you nothing else, if you 548 00:43:47.039 --> 00:43:51.360 just want to rattle off the titles and just brief descriptions, if you can, 549 00:43:51.719 --> 00:43:52.880 or if you want to focus on one, that's good too, whatever, 550 00:43:53.119 --> 00:43:55.599 but I want people to be able to get to because you're right, 551 00:43:55.639 --> 00:44:00.599 the resources there, there, and so let's let's get people those sources. 552 00:44:00.039 --> 00:44:05.119 Yes, so I I'm going to give you um one that should inspire you 553 00:44:05.320 --> 00:44:07.159 anytime you think that you should write a book. Um, when I was 554 00:44:07.199 --> 00:44:10.239 going through a Master's program, this is not the book you're most likely going 555 00:44:10.280 --> 00:44:14.719 to buy, but when I was going through a Master's program as a therapist 556 00:44:14.800 --> 00:44:19.559 and an animal assisted. You know, Um intervention therapist. There wasn't a 557 00:44:19.639 --> 00:44:22.760 manual for how to combine the therapy part of it with the equine part of 558 00:44:22.760 --> 00:44:25.880 it, like the cow, the cow person part of it, cow girl 559 00:44:25.960 --> 00:44:29.719 part of it and the therapist part of it. So that's the manual that 560 00:44:29.760 --> 00:44:34.280 I wrote and it's called crossing the line, Um and it's it's basically the 561 00:44:34.360 --> 00:44:38.559 exercises that we use when we do these Um uh professional development retreats at a 562 00:44:38.639 --> 00:44:43.719 ranch, and so schools use that manual. It's got really cool drawings in 563 00:44:43.760 --> 00:44:45.199 it, but it's probably not the one you're gonna buy. Um, the 564 00:44:45.199 --> 00:44:50.360 one that you have absolutely no excuse and is totally my gift to you is 565 00:44:50.440 --> 00:44:53.559 how to stay sane during insane times, and that one's on our website, 566 00:44:53.599 --> 00:44:57.559 a better place, consulting dot com, and it's also at bunny young dot 567 00:44:57.639 --> 00:45:00.400 com. That's completely free. I wrote that last year for you. It 568 00:45:00.480 --> 00:45:06.119 has exercises and videos in it. Um. Again, it's very experiential, 569 00:45:06.199 --> 00:45:09.960 so you can actually feel and um since, what it's like to do work 570 00:45:10.039 --> 00:45:15.519 with our company and and get started, so that that is no excuses. 571 00:45:15.599 --> 00:45:19.920 You can go get how to stay sane during insane times and then on Amazon 572 00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:22.079 and Barnes and noble and pretty much anywhere else. The other two books are 573 00:45:22.119 --> 00:45:25.719 how to own working from home that I wrote with my business partner Chris Harris. 574 00:45:27.119 --> 00:45:30.800 So that's a mixture of he's a productivity guru, Um, and really 575 00:45:30.840 --> 00:45:37.519 a researcher, and then my psychology brain and therapy brain and mindset, um. 576 00:45:37.800 --> 00:45:40.639 So, and that's on Amazon and everywhere. That literally just came out 577 00:45:40.719 --> 00:45:45.880 June one. And then the last one is the service animal awareness book and 578 00:45:45.880 --> 00:45:49.679 it's the story of my last service animal, Um, named goose, and 579 00:45:49.719 --> 00:45:52.360 it's called pop prints on my heart, and if you search for pop prints 580 00:45:52.360 --> 00:45:57.760 on my heart, Um, bunny young, on Amazon or Barnes and noble 581 00:45:57.880 --> 00:46:01.440 and your favorite bookstore, Um, that is where you will find that. 582 00:46:01.639 --> 00:46:06.480 So it's funny because this is like the first year I actually wrote a business 583 00:46:06.519 --> 00:46:09.519 book and I've been at this business thing for so long. But it's it's 584 00:46:09.880 --> 00:46:15.639 you can see where my heart is. Horses, dogs, sanity. Hey, 585 00:46:15.719 --> 00:46:20.239 you know what? That's great? I mean that people need all those 586 00:46:20.280 --> 00:46:22.840 horses. I don't know how horses like. I've never I'm not the cow 587 00:46:22.920 --> 00:46:28.000 folk, I'm the city folk. Right, so you still love the power 588 00:46:28.039 --> 00:46:30.880 of retreat. Anytime it's non mounted, there's no riding. So anytime you 589 00:46:30.880 --> 00:46:35.679 want to come out and do it, let me know. So let's let's 590 00:46:35.679 --> 00:46:38.960 talk about that real quick then too, because what aspects is it? Would 591 00:46:38.960 --> 00:46:43.679 that be found on on your website as well? It is, it is 592 00:46:43.800 --> 00:46:46.480 I think about it. As you know, sometimes, like with retreats or 593 00:46:46.519 --> 00:46:52.079 conferences, we go to learn more and take more information, and this is 594 00:46:52.119 --> 00:46:57.360 a retreat to go inside. It's to take everything that we have already learned 595 00:46:57.639 --> 00:47:00.559 and actually give yourself some time and space to integrade it without cell phones, 596 00:47:01.000 --> 00:47:06.800 in a very unfamiliar environment with a group of strangers, which sounds about as 597 00:47:07.199 --> 00:47:12.039 least relaxing as you could possibly get. And yet, you know, we're 598 00:47:12.599 --> 00:47:15.880 humans, were designed to be a part of a larger group, and so 599 00:47:15.159 --> 00:47:22.000 being able to go and learn from herd animals that have been doing this for 600 00:47:22.960 --> 00:47:27.320 five million years successfully, when humans have been doing it for about two hundred 601 00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:30.599 thousand years and one would argue that we haven't really done it super successfully. 602 00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:36.360 It's it's a great day to do all the things that you and I just 603 00:47:36.440 --> 00:47:39.320 talked about for the past forty five minutes and and do it in a single 604 00:47:39.440 --> 00:47:45.119 day and experience it and then have it transform your life that day. M 605 00:47:45.280 --> 00:47:50.760 Hmm, that's awesome. That is amazing. I Um, we are at 606 00:47:50.800 --> 00:47:52.199 time and I want to thank you, bunny. That was I mean, 607 00:47:52.199 --> 00:47:58.800 there's a lot of points covered here and it was an amazing conversation. I 608 00:47:58.880 --> 00:48:01.000 just want to thank you for taking the time to come on here and I 609 00:48:01.039 --> 00:48:05.800 appreciate the wisdom that you shared with me, because I've learned. That's what 610 00:48:05.920 --> 00:48:08.199 I love about the podcast. I learned so much. Just just me right 611 00:48:08.519 --> 00:48:13.079 and so um, but to share your wisdom. So thank you for coming 612 00:48:13.119 --> 00:48:16.239 on absolutely it was my pleasure. It's an honor to be here and thank 613 00:48:16.280 --> 00:48:21.239 you, everybody that's listening, for making the world a better place. Yes, 614 00:48:21.480 --> 00:48:24.639 and with that I would like to thank all the listeners. I called 615 00:48:24.719 --> 00:48:29.480 them my Armata, right, so I'll break this down for you, because 616 00:48:29.480 --> 00:48:30.880 this is kind of cool. So we were looking at what do we call 617 00:48:30.960 --> 00:48:35.920 the listeners, because they're all these light warriors, is what we call them, 618 00:48:36.039 --> 00:48:37.719 and since we have the moving up stream without a paddle, my six 619 00:48:37.840 --> 00:48:40.480 year old son said you should call them the armada. I'm like, well, 620 00:48:40.519 --> 00:48:44.199 that's just that's a fleet of worship. How do you know about that? 621 00:48:44.480 --> 00:48:45.679 He's like, Oh, don't worry about that. So the Armata, 622 00:48:45.719 --> 00:48:49.679 that's what we came up with. So I called them the Armata of Light 623 00:48:49.719 --> 00:48:52.119 Warriors, but I want to thank them because they consistently show up and, 624 00:48:52.280 --> 00:48:55.760 Um, I appreciate them so much. So with that I'm gonna tell my 625 00:48:55.840 --> 00:48:59.960 armada and you as well, bunny, thank you for coming on, thank 626 00:49:00.000 --> 00:49:02.119 you for your time and we will catch you guys next time on moving up 627 00:49:02.159 --> 00:49:08.719 stream without a battle. Thanks for tuning in. If you've found value in 628 00:49:08.760 --> 00:49:13.559 this episode, the best thing you can do is to subscribe, rate or 629 00:49:13.599 --> 00:49:16.480 review this podcast. If you would like to further investigate how you can clip 630 00:49:16.559 --> 00:49:22.039 your mindset, feel free to contact me through my website at www dot garrett 631 00:49:22.039 --> 00:49:29.920 goggins dot com. Can't wait to catch you on the next episode. m