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Hey, Dr g here. Thank
you for listening to moving up stream without
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a paddle. I would like to
work with businesses, authors, coaches and
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the like who understand the importance of
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for. And please to announce that
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a part of this continuously growing show. Let's get connected and inspire the world
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together. WHAT'S UP, everybody?
Back again and this time with a very
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special guests and Alex Bales. Alex
as a personal trainer, turn transformational,
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try I can't say that, transformational
life coach who focuses on teaching people how
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to overcome self sabotage and addictions in
their life. His mission is to show
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adults howto seamlessly break from that negative
from the negative cycles and too self fulfillment
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and reinvent their lives to create authentic
happiness. Now, I had a pre
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interview with Alex and he has a
pretty phenomenal story, so I'm really,
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really anxious to get into it and
let you guys here, so we will
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be doing that right after this.
Welcome to moving up stream without a paddle,
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the podcast that helps develop a mindset
for success. I'm your host,
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Dr Garrett Coggins, but most people
call me Dr g. Now I've dedicated
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my life to helping others understand that
if you have the proper mindset, you
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can propel yourself up that proverbial stream
with no pad on needing after constantly feeling
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like you're going against the flow,
but you're never happy with your results,
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it's really time to flip your mindset. If that's something that you're ready to
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do, you've come to the right
place. Now let's get to it.
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Hello, Alex, welcome to the
show. Yeah, Hey, thank you
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for having me. I'm so excited
to be here and I'm really grateful for
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the opportunity. I came across your
podcast a while back. You're interviewing someone
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I knew, Amber Miller, and
I listened to it and I thought it
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was amazing, so I reached out
and yeah, you know again, I'm
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just so grateful to be here at
such a great opportunity and I appreciate that
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you get that. You're given that
to me I mean, after hearing your
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story, though, I had to
is like because it's it's a piece that
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I mean we've had some similar types
of stories on here, but they're just
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always so motivational and you know,
in Amber's amber's episode is probably one one
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of my most listen to. So
it's it's a I'm glad you glad you
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listen to and you liked it and
I'm really happy that you came on the
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show. But I mean, let's
get into your story, because it's really
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how I start everything off and it
really drives the conversation and I feel like
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it's going to connect with people in
ways that I don't even think we could
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imagine. So if you don't mind, just take the MIC and let's just
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go over the what you do,
why you do it and how you got
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there. Sure, absolutely so.
I've got kind of a long story,
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but I'll try and make it as
clear and concise as possible and hit the
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main points as I go. So
right now I am a full time personal
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trainer and I run that full time
during the week and then I ought just
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recently run launched my life coaching business. So you can find me on instagram.
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THAT SOBER FIT ALEX or on facebook
at Alex fails. The focus of
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my life coaching business is all about
helping people seamlessly break free from addiction and
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emotional trauma in their life to help
them create a life of health and enjoy
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that they've always dreamed of. So
really, ultimately, that's all rooted in
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and my story and how my pain
has become a passion in my purpose.
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So you know, as a young
kid I was always a super shy,
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sensitive, intuitive and empathic kid.
I actually used to get sat home and
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sent to the social worker because I
would like cry before I would get on
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the bus and I would I would
cry when I would go to school because
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I didn't really feel like I fit
in with the other kids. It was
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super embarrassing and kind of became problematic
because that was growing up. I didn't
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really aspect actually fit in with like
a lot of the guys that were like
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playing with like toy cars and swords
and things like that. That being said,
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at a very young age I actually
took to sports. We found out
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that I was pretty athletic and I
started like getting involved in that and I
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played travel sports growing up as a
kid. So I spent my ntaw entire
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childhood traveling around on different travel teams
during the summer, and then I played
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school sports as well. As I
got into early high school, I was
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having a lot of success in sports. So I actually was on Varsity as
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a freshman for football. I didn't
play, but I went to a really
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big high school that puts out a
lot of really good, high level athletes,
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so for me to even be on
Varsity as a freshman was a big
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deal. The being said, as
time went on I always kind of struggled
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with my mental health and during this
time I had an individual that I was
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involved with during my time in multiple
sports, in both baseball and football,
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and my relationship with this individual was
extremely traumatic and looking back, it's really
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been the catalist of all of my
issues with mental health and my run with
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addiction. You know, some people
handled it, some of the guys handled
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it just fine, but for me, being very sensitive, intuitive and empathic,
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it was extremely problematic for me.
So this individual would like shame me
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and the rate me and say things
that were very degrading and very hurtful to
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me, and it really took a
toll on me over time to a point
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where I was like scared to make
mistakes. I instead of like playing,
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I was I was like acting in
a way that I just didn't want to
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mess up because I was like I
felt like I was playing sports and quicksand
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like I couldn't move because I was
so traumatized and in fear. So my
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performance drops so bad that I ended
up actually getting, quite embarrassingly so benched
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as a junior in both baseball and
football, and then I didn't even end
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up playing football as a senior and
I played baseball as a senior, but
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it didn't go very well. You
know, initially I always thought I was
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going to play Division One sports,
but ended up actually just taking an academic
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scholarship to a division three school.
I think they just pulled some academic money
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because at division three they don't give
athletic money. So I was like,
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okay, you know, this is
a no brainer, I'll just do that.
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That summer graduating high school as a
senior was the first time that I
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started drinking. So, in reflection, I don't think I've ever drank and
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not gotten drunk or black out,
and it wasn't like an everyday thing at
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that point, but it was the
first time that I like started dabbling with
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that thing and going down that path
and I ran myself and I ran myself
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into the ground. I wasn't really
taking care of myself. And the ironic
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thing was that I was like a
goody two shoe kid grow up like I
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grew up in a very traditional,
conservative Christian family. I was always against
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like drinking and substance use, and
that's what all the guys were doing when
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I was in high school, like
so I didn't really fit in and that
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regard either. As I went on, I pretty much lost all my friends.
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So I was alone and then when
I started dabbling with this stuff,
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I finally found a crowd of people
that accepted me, although they didn't really
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accept me. I just fit in
with what they were doing. So I'm
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drinking and partying all summer for the
first time and I go away to college
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and two weeks into being away at
college I get what's called Epstein Bar Virus.
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So Epstein Bar Virus is basically an
extreme version of Mano. I would
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take antibiotics and then it would go
away. As soon as I cease the
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antibiotics, Epstein Bar would come back. My throat would swell shot, I
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would be spiking. He's a hundred
and two, a hundred three degree fevers.
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So it took them about six months
to figure out that it was Epstein
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Bar virus. I ended up transferring
home. I had to have surgery,
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I lost about fifty pounds and it
turned into chronic fatigue for about a year
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and a half. At that point, I was back home, didn't have
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a whole lot going for me and
I had some friends that I had played
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sports within high school that were now
in the fitness scene and they were like,
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hey, why don't you dabble with
steroids and on a bolocks? Maybe
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this could be something that you could
take two and it would be a good
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way for you to get your health
in your strength back at high speed.
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And I was like sure, why
not? Like this seems like an okay
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idea. I didn't have anything else
going for me at the time. So,
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like anyone with that is an addict
or an alcoholic like myself, you
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know, a ten week cycle of
it turned into a three year span with
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it and and I really believe that
that that was really what opened the door
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to a lot of my demon so
to speak. I don't think that necessarily
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that the anabolics were bad, but
when you start injecting yourself with things,
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I think you really start to open
yourself up to a lot of possibilities because
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you've kind of crossed that line of
fear. If you'll inject yourself with something,
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what won't you do? Like anyways, I'm moving forward, get into
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a really nasty relationship, verbally abusive, intaxic, both on my end and
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hers. Left my home. My
family did not approve of the relationship,
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so I just ditched out and left
and went and lived with her family and
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the relationship wouldn't completely sour to a
point where, I'll be honest, I
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was a coward and I didn't know
how to deal with my emotions at the
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time and instead of facing up to
the problems and facing up to the relationship,
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I actually left, and just left
in the middle of the night one
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night and I moved back home,
and this is where things really started to
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get bad. So I'm super depressed, super apathetic and I basically started using
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activity to fill the void. So
I was working out, I was training
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Jiu Jitsu, I was working a
high level supervision position for a company and
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I was going to school full time
and doing quite well at that, along
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with partying and drinking two bottles of
wine a day or or popping, you
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know, six to ten pills a
day just to get through the day.
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And I ran myself into the ground
and I got to a point where I
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woke up one day and I felt
like detached from my body. I couldn't
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even function. I was in a
fog, I couldn't think straight. So
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at this point, I basically let
go of everything besides the job that's paying
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the bills and the substances that are
numbing me to the world around me,
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and I was going to work.
I would work all night long, I
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would come home, I would drink
two to three bottles of wine straight out
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of the bottle, I would drink
an entire container of night well, then
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I would sleep all day long.
I would wake up and I would either
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use coke or Amphetamans to wake me
up and to get me through the night.
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So I'm running the cycle for about
two to three months straight and I
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never took the time to deal with
the issues that were going on inside of
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me. I had built this big
body, I had built this lifestyle in
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this appearance, but internally I was
broken and so I got to a point
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where I couldn't take it anymore,
and so I was suicidally depressed and I
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was planning the way, my way
out. I was going to kill myself
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and in my darkest moment, I
had a spiritual awakening and I was going
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to do it, and God said
to me, like no, this is
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okay, like this is going to
be the best thing that ever happened to
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you. Now, now you know
what you what you don't want to be
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and who you're not. So now
you can go out and create who you
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do want to be. And I
always thought like to die, to physically
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die and put myself in the ground, would be such a release. But
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I realize that all I really needed
to do was to die to the old
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version of myself and all the old
ideas of myself that were no longer serving
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me. Like I realize we can
die to that person that we were fifteen
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minutes ago and create ourselves new again
at any given moment. And now that's
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what I want to do. I'm
here to I'm here to share my message
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with people that there's another way,
like you can do this, and we
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all have pain and we all have
trauma, but you can really transform that
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and it's really necessary for your growth
and when you just embrace it and and
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allow it to become your path,
your passion and your purpose, I think
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that that's where the powers out.
Yeah, so, man, that story
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like there's there's a lot there.
There's so much going on, and that
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you know. And then everybody goes
down that path, but I think everybody
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has these little triggers it. But
you were a path, you know,
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you you just spiraled and spiled and
spiraled and, and I love I mean
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just the death. And I think
that, and I'm pretty sure that's what
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you said and when I first taught
to you too, is because it resonated
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so much that there's this this time
that and whether you, whether you were
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have addictions or you just are hit
at a rock bottom state, there's there's
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a death, that happens and then
there's the rebirth, right, and that,
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I think, that's what just so
inspires me about your story, is
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that here you are, you go, well, now there's let this person.
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I do U sure to choose the
person that you wanted to be,
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or actually, the way you said
it, which I think is even more
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profound, is the person who you
truly are, so that the other person
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wasn't you. It was just you
were masking all these things with the drugs
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and all that, and so,
but you went through this whole story and
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then you're like, and then I
had this rebirth, but and yeah,
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it's all done. But I don't
I don't feel like your journey just ends
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there. And I think this is
really could. We had your mindset before,
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but now let's look at your mindset
now, from from that point when
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the rebirth or death and rebirth happen. What what did that look like like?
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Was it a struggle? That you
have relapses, I mean, but
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what was that journey like? Yeah, absolutely, and I you know,
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there's even more to my story to
like you know, I've been arrested all
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kinds of stuff. But, like
I said, I tried to hit the
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main points and as far as my
journey goes like so, I just talked
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about death. The first thing I
had to do was I had to surrender
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to my current state. So I
used to get down and I'm a believer
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in God and I believe in a
higher power, just personally, and I
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have no dogma as to what other
people believe. But this is just me.
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So I used to get down on
my hands and knees and I used
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to say, God, I am
desperate. Whatever you got for me,
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I'm willing to do it. Just
take this pain away from me, take
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this addiction away from me, take
the suffering away from me and just surrendering
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and dying to that. It's like
we but din to that there was with
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death comes life, like the life
came back into me because, for the
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first time, I was honest and
authentic about where I'd been, like,
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how I felt about things, what
had happened to me, who I had
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done wrong to and what that was
able to do, that I was actually
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able to receive. So, for
the first time in my life, I
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actually asked out for help and,
ironically, somebody that I was very close
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to had told me that they were
an alcoholic and they would talk to me
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about meetings and how it had changed
their life. So I reach out to
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this person and I'm like, Hey, this is what's going on with me.
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I feel out of control and I
just I really could use some help.
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I had no expectations and this individual
was like, Hey, this is
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going to be this is awesome,
like super, super cool, glad you
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called like let's go and I was
like, oh, that really wasn't what
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I was expecting. So I went
to my first meeting and it was super,
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super eye opening. I remember I
went to my first meeting and the
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bar that I would go to was
right down the road and I remember thinking
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I'm going to go to this meeting
and I'm going to walk straight down to
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the bar afterward when I'm done,
but I didn't end up happening. I
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went and for the first time in
a long time, I found it.
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I found a community in a group
of people that I fit in with,
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people that had more radical and extreme
stories than me, and they were just
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so welcoming and just even putting myself
out there was was extremely empowering at that
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point. So at that point I
started to work on myself and I developed
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my my tenets of health slowly over
time, but I think it's worth a
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mention that I made it eight months
two times in a row and then relapsed
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and fell off. So the first
time I relapsed, in reflection, I
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was really still in a state where
I was scared of judgment and scared of
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sharing my story. So I would
go out with people and they would talk
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about people in their lives who had
substance abuse problems or drinking problems or were
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addicts or alcoholics, and they would
judge them and I was scared to be
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honest and authentic about who I was
still at that point. So I relapsed
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and I went off the wagon,
but I came back and I tried it
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again, and the second time I
was I realized that that didn't that didn't
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matter anymore and I came back to
it and I gave it another try.
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And the second time I relapsed and
I thought I would just get sober.
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I thought eventually I would get to
a point where I would just be able
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to drink normally. I still wasn't
truly honest and authentic about who I was.
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And the second time I relapsed,
I realize that I can't drink normally
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or I can't use like everybody else. I don't have the power in the
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ability to just drink normally or to
use normally. And so I needed both
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of those because they broke down my
ego. They helped me to continue to
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really let go of these things and
to continue to surrender to who I wanted
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to be. And then this third
time I've really really nailed it down,
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and the big key and the big
component for me was working on myself,
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and I've developed my like my five
tenants of health over time. So my
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five tenants are, do you get
enough exercise and movement? What's your diet
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like? Do you have relationships that
cultivate you? Do you have a spiritual
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practice, and do you get enough
rest or sleep that allows you to feel
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good moving forward in your life?
And so I started working on each of
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these five tenants over time, and
one thing I had to do with that
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too, is I had to let
go of all the emotions of the past.
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I had to break free from those
chains. So we live in like
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a society where everybody's very caught up
in their emotions at this point. Everybody's
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feeling things, and that's okay.
Emotions are the language of the body.
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But that being said, you've got
to go out there and you got to
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start taking conscious action that aligns with
the person that you want to be,
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and that's what I think I did. I went out there and I took
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action and with that my mindset started
to shift. Yeah, well, I
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think that's that's I call it.
If the power of practice right, it
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practices, not practice, practice.
It's the alignment of your belief system and
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your in your attitude and everything with
your action. So you can have these
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these conscious beliefs, these conscious thoughts
and all that, but until your actions
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are in alignment with that, there's
not really much just going to happen.
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Right, and a lot of people
have this idea that when we think,
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the positive thinking of it's all great, and yes, it's a very important
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aspect and in moving forward in life, but you can think positively on the
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couch all day long and nothing's going
to nothing's going to happen is when your
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actions are in line with those thought
that's going on. That's when things really
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start. Your mindset shifts and and
you begin to notice, you know,
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the things start to line up the
way that you needed to to find successes.
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But I like going back a little
bit when you were talking about when
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you surrender to who you were,
and I think you know, with Aa
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and a lot about those other people, pieces of when they did with addictions,
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there's this piece at first you have
to admit that there's a problem,
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right and and even though you know
it is, there's something about it.
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When you can come out and say
look, this is my issue, this
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is where I'm at in life,
and I remember with with my alcoholism aspect,
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I did a lot of that in
secret. And it sounds like you
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did a lot of it in secret
and and all of a sudden when you
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just when you shed the light on
that, when you say look, this
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is what I've been doing, and
then you're like it's almost free right.
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It's almost like that alone takes a
lot of that burden off of you and
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it really kind of helps to shift
a little bit. But this the site
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that we just we don't admit that
to ourselves. We just keep going and
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we accept this idea that, well, this is just who I am.
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Well, that's not who you are. And when, and I love how
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you said, then you surrender to
the person that you you want it to
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be, or who you truly were. And then, and that's the inner
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part, and you said that too, like you started to work on the
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internal piece and that's when the external
starts to go. But when you surrender
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to who you truly are, that's
when you can start shutting off these limiting
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beliefs and because that's that's imposter syndrome, right. Is the things that we're
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doing there that are not generating the
successes that we have in life. Those
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are limiting beliefs. That's imposter syndrome
and you can remove that clothing surrender to
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that higher person that you're supposed to
be, you're meant to be, and
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then everything begins to get in line. And so you really just kind of
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just broke down the whole high level
process of getting that mindset right and really
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jumping into it. It's surrendering to
the person you're supposed to be and begin
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doing the action that are in line
with that person, and it's so important
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to do that. Yeah, absolutely, I think, like anybody who's going
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through something like that, like it
the effortless and easy if you allow it
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to be. So. I was
tell people the biggest thing with addiction or
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anyone with a substance abuse problem.
Everyone thinks that the the first step is
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admitting that you have a problem,
and I actually would contradict that and I
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would say that the first step is
giving yourself permission to be authentic and honest
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with yourself about who you are before
you even say it out loud. Giving
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yourself permission is really all about just
allowing yourself to receive what life has for
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you, and I think that that's
where the powers that we spend so much
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time trying to make things happen or
are trying to force things, but really,
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ultimately, I think the way that
we create a new reality for ourselves,
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and I think everybody can do this, as we just we have to
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get first clear and set an intention
on where we want to go, and
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then we we allow it by taking
the actions to move forward towards the direction
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of our dreams, but not being
so obsessed with how it comes I've had
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a lot of times where I've moved
forward in my journey and overcoming addiction and
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trauma. We're doors have gotten closed
on me and I've gotten super, super
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frustrated and felt like I was never
going to get where I wanted to be.
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But you never know what's going to
come into your life. Like you
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might go and take a job that
you initially didn't want to take. That
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doesn't seem like it makes sense,
but you don't know who you're going to
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who's going to connect you to the right
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person at the right place at the
right time. You might not want to
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today. Well, and that's that's
it's some well, first, let me
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go back. I love your first
step, because that's very true. You
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have to give yourself permission to do
that. Yeah, because that's that's really
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the release, that's the hope,
that's the step that allows you to move
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forward, and and and and that
aspect. And then I love we don't
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care about the how right. We
just go for what it is we want,
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set the goal go and and then, just people aren't in tune enough
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with they're in with those inspirations.
That happen as you're going through this journey
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and a door closes and we and
there's all these inspirational quotes out there,
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that you know when that door closes, it's not closing you to an opportunity
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is closed and you just something that
wasn't meant for you to begin with.
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And so let's let's do the pivots, and that's why pivoty is so important.
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And but then, but some people
have those inspirations for these jobs that
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they don't want to have to do. But that's the opportunity, that's the
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stepping stones, those are the pieces
that are really going to get you to
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the end result, because it like
you were saying it. Those are the
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the the the people and and the
resources and all the stuff that are coming
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into your life that is just going
to put the whole, the whole puzzle
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together. And so it's very important
piece and you can know what right because
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we have that internal voice that happens. Sometimes it screams, sometimes it just
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speaks softly, but you really have
to be in tune with what that is
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to really navigate through all these aspects
that you're talking about. Yeah, absolutely,
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and I think that that's how we
know, like we know the move.
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So I believe that our higher spot, higher power, speaks to US
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through synchronicity. So if something excites
you and it continues to show up in
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your life, that's probably the path
and that's okay. Like, like I
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said, it might not make sense
to you exactly in that moment what's going
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to happen or how it's going to
play out, but I promised that I
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believe that the universe or God,
whatever you believe, has a plan for
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you and that there's a path for
you. I'd also like to say that,
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like at the root of every addiction, ultimately is actually it's giving yourself
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permission for self love, when I
was drinking or when I was using,
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and I remember like I would take
sixteen or seventeen pills at a time sometimes.
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I mean it was insane. Ultimately, and reflection, what I was
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doing was I was actually giving myself
permission to love myself, because we're spiking
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our state when we do that and
it would make me feel better. I
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just couldn't get there on my own
at the time. So I think that's
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really powerful to acknowledge that, that
when you have those addictions and those things
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that you have to come those emotional
traumas, like, you have the acknowledge
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that you have the desire to love
yourself. That's what it is. You
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just need to figure out how to
do it on your own. Yeah,
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without the kid. Well, that's
true. It is a very valid point,
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because what is what are those doing? That? They're the they're breaking
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down this chemically breaking down the barrier, right, breaking down the walls that
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we put up because we don't want
to face things or we don't want to
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deal with things, and loving yourself
in that aspect. It's we're taught that
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that looks like it's a selfish it's
a selfish act. Right, then we
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don't want to be selfish. We
don't want to look at that in ways.
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One there's that Steg when that there
too. It's I don't know and
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I can't really there's so many aspects
that really do that were it just seems
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like it's a FOPA thing to to
care about who you are and but it's
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an important piece and and we can't
give we can't. A lot of us
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are dealing with this philanthropy aspect right. We want to give, we want
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to do so much for the world, we want to do so much for
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our family, for our kids,
for our friends, but we can't give
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what we don't have. And so
that's why it's so important to love yourself.
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You can't give love unless you have
love for yourself. This just,
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it's just. It seems weird,
but it's there's truth to that. is
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virtually impossible to give what you want
to give without taking care of yourself.
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That's why I say with selfless there's
always a big piece of selfish. You
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have to there has to be there. Yeah, yeah, there's like an
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I we and an we and an
all. Component the way I see it,
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and I think that someone I look
up to, Paul Chack has something
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similar, but this is something that
I've kind of thought of on my own.
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So like it has to start with
I like I have to be the
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one to heal myself first. Then
there's the Wei, which is people are
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in your immediate circle around you.
If you're healed, you can help other
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people heal around you. Once you
start to heal everybody else around you as
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a community, people start to come
together and expand the healing and then all
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of us can come together, heel
together and create something beautiful and powerful.
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Yeah, know, that's that's again
very a lot of great points. Is
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a lot of truth of that.
Didn't and think about what's going on there
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too. So when you when you
are focused on the eye, when you're
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where, you're healing the internal when
you're making all this happen, and we
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can start going to the vibrational state
right so when we're not in tune with
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ourselves, we're not healing ourselves,
we're not doing the self love, we're
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in a negative vibration. We start
to feel that and really put that in
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they were raising that vibration. We're
getting the right people around us because they
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were attracting the proper people who are
going to uplift us, and then that
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whole that then you have this whole
community where as one person rise, the
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other one is rising too, and
that's when people start off on entrepreneurship right
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and they start going to these networking
events and all this and they go,
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wow, I'm just getting myself around
all these people. That's because they're lifting
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you to their level now, and
that's networking in so it is so important.
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But you're going to only once you
leave that networking event, you'll just
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go right back down. So it's
important to start here, lift that and
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then it flows, just like you
said that then the we happens, then
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the whole community happens, and it's
just a truthful statement. Yeah, absolutely,
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and I think the important thing to
to realize is your healing is not
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going to happen in a day.
Yeah, so, like, going back
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to what I said, I talk
a lot about whether it be with clients
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or on podcasts that have been I
talked a lot about giving yourself permission.
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Giving your self permission means to allow. So start small and just do the
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best you can with the situation at
hand and then allow yourself to evolve over
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time. Allow, like I said, doors will be shut, but then
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just keep opening the next open door, keep doing the next right thing and
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over time you'll evolve. Everybody wants
the sexy answer. They want it right
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now and that's just not how behavior
change and healing works. You gotta you've
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got to work at it over time. When I coach, when I coach
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somebody, I will say, let's
focus on one thing at a time,
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you know. So, like I
said, I've got like five tenants.
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If somebody wants to build a spiritual
practice, so things that I use in
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a spiritual practice might be meditation,
prayer, journaling, anything of that nature.
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I say okay, like what would
resonate with you if they say meditation,
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okay, we're going to meditate for
three minutes a day and we're going
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to focus on getting present. We
do that for four weeks and then we
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move to the next thing and we
add something to that. It's not sexy,
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it's not what everybody wants to hear. But if you focus on changing
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one thing at a time, slowly
over time, twelve, sixteen, Eighteen,
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twenty, four months, two years
from now, you're a completely different
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person, and that's how change happens. I think a lot of times we
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look back on our life and we're
like, holy cow, how did I
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get here? And ultimiliar it just
comes down to did you? Did you
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allow yourself to evolve over time?
We get still so stuck in behavior patterns
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and ideas of the past that we
forget that there's there's a huge world out
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there for us and there's so much
opportunity if we a loted, to come
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into our lives. Yeah, well, and there's there's another aspect to that
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I think is important to bring up
with this is when you are focusing on
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those one little things and you are
starting to make little changes, the small
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changes in your life will again those
stepping stones to get you. I was
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actually talking with someone that we were
working on her little little pieces, right.
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So we generated this whole life spirit
of like define who, who?
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The person is that that you know
you want to be or that you believe
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is your true self. Let's defind
that was really break it down. Doesn't
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get very specific about what you want
in your life in totality, and then
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we'll say, like your seven tenets, right, and so that's kind of
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what I'm talking about. Now let's
take one of those little piece of that
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and let's start working a little aspects
of that. And what's interesting that I
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think most people will find is that
when you work on that little thing and
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you're moving up, you'll start to
see other little piece is of other aspects
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start to line up. Now it's
not going to be full, but your
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life begins to come in alignment as
you work on all these little pieces.
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But when you try to do everything, it's like people will tell you this,
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and it's true, multitasking is a
farce. You can't do it if
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you can only have one thought at
a time. So once you can generate
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that one piece, do that,
but then the the universe, God,
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everybody's hes going tolign other things up. So when you get to a certain
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point, then you're like, oh, I don't have so much work to
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do on this aspect because a lot
of it's already aligned with this. So
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but it is very important that you
do those little little steps. And the
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other major aspect with that is those
are small successes when you could focus on
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one little thing, then you're you're
stacking those successes and you start to feel
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better about yourself and every the confidence
comes in. So it's so important that
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to really, like you said,
do those one little aspects at a time.
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Yeah, and everybody is scared of
what they doubt know. We're all
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scared of the unknown, of going
into the dark cave or nobody knows what's
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going to happen. Are you know, our ego always wants to hold onto
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something tangible that it can control or
that you know, the illusion of control.
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And so I think stepping into that
place of like where we don't know
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what's going to happen, that's okay. That's where we can that's where we
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have the chance to create something that
we want, that's meaningful to us,
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and I think just allowing that to
happen is is where it's at. Yeah,
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yeah, so let's let's that's really
good conversation. I'm loving this talk.
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But let's go back to really to
your to your life, because you
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got out of that and I feel
like there's you went through and you had
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the the the relapses, and you
said the three, but you had this
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as you were doing that, I
feel and I want to talk about the
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relapses a little bit because it kind
of goes back into this we want something
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sexy, right, and again,
with these transitions and moving through life doing,
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you know, developing new habits and
overcoming these things. It's not sexy,
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though. There will be relapses,
and so where were you when one
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relapse happened? A lot of people
will just say I give up now,
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this is just way too hard.
I wasn't meant to be again. This,
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this being an alcoholic, it's just
who I am and and just then
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stop trying. But you didn't.
You went through three and you kept going
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making these small realization. So what
what was your thought pattern with that,
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with each of the with of these
relapses? You know, when I had
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my my awakening, when I initially
decided to get sober, I had quit
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on myself so many times in my
life. I should have I should have
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got it out and played football as
a senior just for my own sake.
519
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I should have continued to try to
come back and play college sports. I
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should have fessed up to where I
messed up in my relationship with my ex
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fiance. I didn't have the courage
to do that and when I decided to
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get sober, I made a firm
choice and a firm commitment to myself that
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I was never ever going to quit
on myself again, because I never wanted
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to feel that feeling ever again.
So each time I have fallen off the
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bandwagon and gone off the rails,
you know, that feeling of wanting to
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kill myself in those those suicidal ideations
have come back and I'm aware of it
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now and I just realize, okay, it's time to die. To that
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where did I go wrong? I
just use everything as a learning opportunity.
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I didn't look at it as if
I quit. I said, you know
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what, I'm just going to get
right back on the on the on the
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path and I'm going to keep the
party rocking. I'm going to keep moving
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forward and I will figure this out. I do not care how many times
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it takes, I do not care
what anybody says. It does not matter
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to me anymore. I'm going to
move forward and figure this out. I'm
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going to use every single failure and
downfall and everything that I've been through.
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I'm going to use it as a
catalyst to push me forward and to motivate
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me. And over time I did. I cultivated a warrior mindset, which
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is, I think, something that
a lot of people lack. I do.
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I'm honestly, I was very weak
minded growing up. I was.
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I was physically very gifted and physically
very tough, but very weak in mind
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and heart. And over time all
of this pain and all these relapses of
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helped me to cultivate a warrior mindset. I think that if we're going to
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do anything in life, we have
to be tough, like that's part of
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life. We have to keep moving
forward. So I've just taken every single
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every single pain, every single downfall, every single screw up in my life.
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I take complete ownership for it.
I say this is my fault,
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what can I do about it?
What can I learn from this? And
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then I just reframe it in my
mind as to how am I going to
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change this moving forward, and I
take the necessary action to move myself forward
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in the direction of my dreams,
which is where people mess up. Everyone
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thinks of what they want and they'll
get authentic about what they want, which
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is important. You have to do
that, but they lack the action.
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And I just keep taking action all
the time. And, believe me,
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I still fail at tons of things
every single day on a regular basis,
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but I've learned to love it like
I enjoy it. I'm like, all
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right, this is what doesn't work
and eventually, if I just keep chipping
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through these barriers, I'm going to
figure out what does right. And then
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is the reframing. I like how
you said that too, because that's that's
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a big piece when you look at
everything that's going on. I mean everything's
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a big piece like this. All
they're all puzzle pieces. We're just trying
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to make this, put this all
together. But the idea that you own.
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What happened? Right, this is
my fault. I did this.
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These are that the behaviors that that
need to change, and I have these
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behaviors. So that's the negative behavior. Well, what's the polar opposite of
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that? And I can say,
all right, then this is where I
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need to do. But those behaviors
are habitual, and this is again why
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it takes time. Habits. Let
you you know, we we form habits
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over time. We have to break
them over time. So when you can
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refrain, like you said, reframe
this idea and then go in that direction
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and rebuild that habit and replace it, you know, that negative with the
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positive, then you're stronger than you
can move on and these are the learning
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lesson. Then you're what you're learning. Most of what these learning lessons are
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is about you again, these are
the pieces that are attached to you that
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aren't your true self. And so
that's the awareness. Could you mentioned the
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term awareness and as such, an
an important piece, because you said I
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was aware. Now you're aware of
the triggers and things that happen to you
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and you're aware of all these little
aspects. And so is that awareness piece
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that really drive the change? And
then this love of you said, the
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war the the lawyer mindset and and
how a lot of people are lacking that.
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But they can have it. They
can, they can definitely have some
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people will just again, we lie
to ourselves and say, well, that's
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just not me. Well, it's
not you, because you keep telling yourself
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it's not you. Change the way
you talk, change your story and you
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can become that warrior. You can
have that warrior mindset. Yeah, I
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mean I always tell people I'm in
a constant war with myself in my mind,
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one of my favorite techniques, and
I actually like, like I said,
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so my failures and downfalls and my
character defects. I actually think it's
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like really fun when they try and
mess with me. At this point,
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I just sit with it, like
because I developed some weird habits and and
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my time with addiction, some OCD, and when that things like that come
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up, I just sit with it
and I just watch the story go by
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and I'm just like nice, try, and then I just take the action
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associated with the exact opposite direction.
Yeah, yeah, as this perfect,
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this perfect. So so now you're
good. We've gone through all the all
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these aspects, and then you started
this life coach. So like the the
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life transformation will just we'll just call
it that, because that's really what what
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you're taking people through. So when
people come to you, like what's the
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what's the starting process, and that
in that piece, like, what if
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people want to work with you as
a coach, like what should they know
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to bring to the table first?
Yeah, honestly. So I help people.
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My Niche is helping people who are
already sober staysober and then create their
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dream life, and I also help
people with emotional trauma, whether it be
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depression, anxiety, any type of
mental health is. You do the same
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thing. Create their dream life and
adapt their lifestyle and accordance with what they
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want to create. The first thing
you would need to do to work with
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me would just simply be to add
me on facebook or Instagram, and then
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you can either comment on one of
my posts or you can message me.
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The thing you would need to bring
to the table is just be very clear
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on your problem. You don't need
to have it figured out. The first
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thing you would do is just come
to me with the issue at hand and
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then I would basically hop on a
call with you and we can figure out
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what the necessary steps are going to
be moving forward. And usually I offer
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a thirty to forty five minute free
consultation called to start, and even if,
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at the end you don't want to
work with me at that point,
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I'll still leave you walking away with
a plan that's going to help you to
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move forward, going forward. That's
cool. Yeah, I mean, yeah,
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and do you? Do you incorporate, because you have, you were
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seeing, you have the five ten
so like when someone's coming to you and
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they say will do you incorporate the
all five and then and then break out
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the steps, or or is it
just we're only going to focus on one
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thing and then maybe will worry about
the risk? Or do you really define
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that that major piece and then break
out the steps of the five tenants?
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Yeah, so what we do is
we identify the problem or your pain point,
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and then we also get clear on
I look at it like a tree,
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so at the top of the tree
is what is your life purpose or
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what is your dream, and then
from there you've got your branches that come
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down so you'd like I said,
you've got your rest in your sleep,
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you've got diet, you've got a
spiritual practice, you've got relationships and you've
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got exercise or movement based off of
your problem and what you want to create.
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We go through and we determine which
ones we need to focus on immediately
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and which ones are going to go
on the back burn and then what we
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do is we optimize your life and
we give you exact APP action steps every
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single week that you're going to go
through and you're going to do. And
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then each week you come back to
me and you get a coaching call and
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we go through, we analyze what
you were doing, what's working, what's
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not, and we slowly break down
barriers and pain over time to a point
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where we get you to a place
where your soul whole, that your your
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have they the opportunity to create what
you want in your life. Yeah,
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that's that's awesome. That does that
is that's that's the way to get it
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done. This is the way to
get done. So, Alex, we're
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getting close to time here and love
your story. You mean, I just
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like I'm already pumped, I'm ready
to go, like I just when we
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have these conversations, I just get
so, so amped because of the journey
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that you went through, where you
came from and and how people can really
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learn from your mistakes. And so
if they're resonating with that and they like
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man, he's gone through some things
that I went through and I'm now.
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I'm sober now. I want to
stay sober, but I want that that
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support. And you said, what
they need to do is get in touch
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with you on facebook. So,
but what is what's your is it?
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Is it a group? Group?
Is of the page? How can I
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get in touch with you? Yeah, I run everything just off my regular
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facebook page. So you just search
Alex Baal's be a ls or you can
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find me on instagram. That's sober
fit Alex. you'll see all my contents
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of content. I'm posting stuff from
all the PODCASTS I've been I recently.
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Just add me on there, send
me a DM and, like I said,
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I'll give you a free thirty minute
consultation call. If, at the
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end you don't want to work for
me, that's totally cool. You'll still
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walk away with an exact plan and
some exact steps as to what you can
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do moving forward. Also, if
you want to just get ahold of me
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and you just want to chat,
I love just connecting with people and building
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a community. Obviously, I'm in
this too for the for the coaching,
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but I'm here just to serve as
many of you as I possibly can.
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So if you just want to shoot
me a message and ask me just a
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general question or or say hey,
this is what's been going on in my
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life. Do you have any suggestions, I'm more than happy to answer questions
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or to interact with all of you. I'm here to give you value and
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to share as much as I possibly
can. This is not about me,
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this is about other people and making
the world a better place. Awesome,
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Alex. thank you so much for
taking the time to come on to share
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your story and to just in your
wisdom that you found through through your journey.
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So I appreciate the fact that you
came on to the show to they
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yes, thank you so much for
having me. It was an honor and
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I I'm just so gripfull I could
connect with you and your audience. Awesome.
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Well, Alex, I'm going to
say a we're going to sign off,
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but I'll say thank you again and
for everybody else, we will be
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having conversations again real soon. Thanks
for tuning in. If you've found value
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in this episode, the best thing
you can do is to subscribe, rate
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or review this podcast. If you
would like to further investigate how you can
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fill up your mindset, feel free
to contact me through my website at Wwwa
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Gagginscom. Can't wait to catch you
on the next episode.