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Hey, Dr g here. Thank
you for listening to moving upstream without a
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paddle. I would like to work
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I am always, always, always
happy to do a corporate facilitation.
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I have a lot of corporate clients
who bring me in to work with their
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executives, to work with their management
team and their supervisory team so that they're
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giving better presentations, because that's the
worst thing about business and when you have
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to go into the board room and
get a lobotomy. What's everybody? Welcome
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Act to another episode of moving up
stream without a paddle. I have another
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amazing guest, but before we introduced
him, I wanted to send out another
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invite to all the listeners who are
going through their personal development, personal discovery
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journey and are looking to get connected
with some like minded individuals. See,
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I created the moving up stream without
a paddle facebook group as an extension to
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this podcast where we can get together, share some wins, you work through
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our struggles and anything else that might
actually uplift our community or or even ourselves.
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So you head on over to Facebook, look up moving up stream without
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a paddle the group and let's get
you plugged in. But with that,
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I'm really excited to introduce the Mr
Tyler Foley. Um. I think this
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is gonna be a really good conversation. But he's just he has really as
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a lot of my guests do.
He has a very interesting career. For
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the past three or five years he's
been a part of a slew of TV
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series and movies and Um, for
the past ten years he has been a
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safety consultant, instructor and keynotes presenter. He's also the author of the number
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one best selling book, the power
to speak naked, UM, which is
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a very interesting title and I can't
wait to dive more into his book his
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story. Um, he's thriving.
He says he's thriving today despite a medical
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incident that he had at the age
of seventeen that left him paralyzed on his
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left side. Um, he but
he does contribute all of his success primarily
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to his mindset. And you know, I really hope you're ready for another
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life changing conversation, because my talk
with Tyler is going to happen right after
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this. Welcome to moving upstream without
a paddle, the podcast that helps develop
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a mindset for success. I'm your
host, Dr Garrett Coggins, but most
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people call me Dr Chet. Now
I've dedicated my life to helping others understand
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that if you have the proper mindset, you can propel yourself up that proverbial
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stream with no paddle needing. After
constantly feeling like you're going against the flow
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but you're never happy with your results, it's really time to flip your mindset.
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If that's something that you're ready to
do, you've come to the right
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place. Now let's get to it. Hello, Tyler, welcome to the
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show. Oh, dctor Garrett,
I am looking forward to this one.
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I am too. I go back
her bio a lot and we were just
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brigefly. We're talking for and that's
not even know the full bio. That
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when we were introduced, that I
read. It's it's it's very entertaining and
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we were saying that this is going
to be an enter teeny discussion and I
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just the personality that exudes just from
you, know, the things that you
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sent me and what you've written.
I just I know this is gonna be
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true, but I really like,
Um, to start off the show with
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letting you take the center stage,
because it's you are the reason why we
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are all here. So if you
don't mind just taking the MIC and kind
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of give it this just more of
a deeper background than what I could possibly
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do. Is just that's your brief
bio. Yeah, no, sure,
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and I'm not going to take up
much more time because the bio covers it
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all pretty good. But I uh, I'm a former child actor. Started
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on stage when I was six years
old. I went to a fine arts
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high school. As you had mentioned, I had a medical incident when I
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was seventeen that left the left side
of my body paralyzed. Took over a
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year of really intense physiotherapy in order
to get that back. A lot of
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that had to do with, as
you mentioned, my mindset on that and,
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more specifically, be be able to
surround myself with people who had my
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best interest at heart. Medical Professionals, friends, family and have a really
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good support net that could keep me
afloat when I didn't feel like it anymore,
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who could push me forward, who
helped me find the metrics to see
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incremental change and and get better.
And then, when the Nice thing is,
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my face started working again, I
was able to continue acting in film
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and television. Stayed with that career
for an additional seven to eight years and
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then, at the right old age
of five, after having been in show
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business for twenty years, it's time
to retire. I went back got engineering
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degree, um or not a diploma, more specifically an engineering discipline at school
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and College, started my own company
doing aerial surveying and then moved from planes
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to carts on the ground and doing
interior more mapping, because planes are expensive.
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Unfortunately, my business was about ten
years ahead of the curve and there
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wasn't a lot of demand and what
we had to charge was significant, and
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that that business unfortunately went under.
But out of it I became a safety
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professional, which is nice because starting
the business we needed to put together a
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safety program and a friend of mine
encourage me to go along the safety route
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and then doing safety and training people
on how to give better presentations with a
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safety aspect ended up leading to this
wonderful career where now I don't have to
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do the safety anymore, which is
exhausting, and I get to train people
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on how to public speak better,
which is rewarding. And, as you
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had mentioned, we've got the number
one best seller out, which just came
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out September seven, so everybody out
there can get a copy of it,
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and I would strongly encourage anybody who
is listening if they want to, they
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can check that out on bookshop dot
org, because that's where you can find
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every book or title that you want
online, but connect you with your local
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mom and pop retailer shop and that
that does a lot to help out the
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people who could probably use the help
right now. So I don't care if
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you're buying my book, but if
you're buying books right now, bookshop dot
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org would be the place to go. And that that's me and how I
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came around security a sleeve, from
performer two engineer to safety professional back to
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performer and instructor. Now I love
it. I love it and I truly
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appreciate that you the bookshop dot org
because it's the local right and people don't
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do that anymore. We have these
amazons that are out there, but there
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are local mom and pop bookshops there. I mean there's some here, because
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I'm in Colorado Springs, Colorado,
and there's some that I've been here forever
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that we're almost shut down, like
they were just poor richards was a place
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that we as college students would always
go and hang out and have coffee,
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but it was a bookshop and it
was just but then, you know,
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covid hit and destroyed, almost destroyed, that place. So I'm glad that
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you pushed that out there because it's
so important to support your local community.
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And nothing against Amazon, but they
have better that. They're not going anywhere.
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So Jeff Bezos just flew to space. He has enough money. We
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don't need to line his pockets anymore. If you're buying books, and as
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you said, they're the people who
really need it the most and they're the
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ones who are in business for a
passion. You know, like you don't
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go into a bookstore because you're looking
to make money. You're you're there because
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you like the atmosphere, you believe
in literature. You know there's there's something
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about hard bound book that it's it's
magical to me, I mean, and
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I'm a kid who spent a lot
of time in a library, so uh,
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to me it's are the most wonderful
places on the earth, especially ones
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like you described, where you've got
the mom and pop shop where you can
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go, you can pick up your
book, you can get a nice artistan
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coffee, have a relax chat with
friends, browsed through the most recent title
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that has piqued your interest, and
and that's that's why I think more people
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need to go to bookshop dot org. It's the same online shopping experience.
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Your book just doesn't come to you
from a drone. So right, right,
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well, let's let's go backwards.
We'll go back, not backwards,
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let's go back to you, because
there are some points that you, you
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Um, you put out when you
were going when you were paralyzed, and
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you were talking about the support that
you had, and I like that piece
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because it's important in the mindset,
realm right too. All too often we
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go through these journeys and and we
feel like we're going it alone, you
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know, especially those who are chasing
entrepreneurialship or just this these high dreams that
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are these audacious goals. Right,
they just feel out there alone, but
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you don't have to be. You
can get the support that you need.
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That really helps develop the mindset,
because that self talk that happens when you
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feel like you're just in this world
trying to do this and there's no one
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else and that thing, it's it's
a lie, because there's so many other
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people out there. There are there
to support and we just need to find
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that support. So talk about how
that really did boost your mindset and help
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you um progress forward, because,
I mean, being paralyzed on one side
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could not have been a fun experience
for you. So I'm sure there was
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some self talk going on there going
out, this sucks and and where do
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I go from here? And and
and all that kind of jazz that happens
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with us. Yeah, no,
it was. It was a real and
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it and it was instant too.
So, New Year's Eve, designated driver,
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out having fun with my friends,
getting everybody home. I was out
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till morning. Yeah, ended up
bringing a friend's sister home with me who
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probably shouldn't have been out that late. Probably shouldn't have slept over at a
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boy's house, for sure, and
her parents finally tracked her down about in
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the morning when everybody was like,
well, where is she? There was
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a Welsh went with tyler and so
they phoned the house and mom came in
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screaming you have to drive her home, and I thought I probably should.
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Yes, but then I went to
get up and you know when you fall
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asleep on your arm and you get
that numbness that and just before you get
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the shooting pain that comes from it, it's just straight and numb. You
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can't feel anything. That's what I
woke up to and I figured I had
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just slept weird. It was New
Year's Day. But New Year's Day I
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woke up and nothing on this side
was working and I didn't really realize it
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at first until I got up and
I was brushing my teeth um and all
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the toothpaste was just pouring out the
side of my mouth and it was just
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folding and I couldn't I couldn't stop
it from coming out. I didn't understand
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why. And Mom's looking at me, going, are you drunk? I
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said no, my I don't drink. She's like no, I know you
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say that, but are you really? I said no, really, mom,
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I I was out all night.
I was the D D. I'm
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I am sober as a judge,
but this is not working. And then
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she really took a good look at
me and my eye was drooping, my
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mouth was drooping, I couldn't really
move my arm and when I was walking
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it was in this weird kind of
shuffling perambulation. And the worst part is
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is I drove a Honda accord at
the time, five speed manual. My
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leg wasn't working so I couldn't clutch. So I'm trying to get this girl
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little and finally a mom was like, okay, I'm getting you to the
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hospital, then I will get her
home and then I'll come back and check
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on you. And Uh, and
that's when the whole ordeal really began to
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unfold. And when you're seventeen and
you've been a performer in film and television
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at that point, for me eleven
years, my whole career had been mapped
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out for me. I knew what
my life was. I was going to
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go to New York or I was
gonna go to L A. I was
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gonna be on Broadway or I was
going to be in Hollywood. I was
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going to be a star name in
lights. I was going to be a
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performer and all of that got ripped
out from under me New Year's Day because
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when you're facing your body don't respond
to the commands and the cues that you
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wanted to do, it is really
hard to be an actor and I had
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to withdraw from the musical that I
was in. Um just everything kind of
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looked like it was tunneling in around
me and I got very, uh,
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single mindedly focused on the fact that
of all these things that I couldn't do,
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and by Grace and divine influence,
I have um a very large number
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of influential men in my life who
all kind of stepped up after my father
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passed away when I was six,
to be father figures, and Dr Robert
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Corbett and his wife, Dr Joanne
Corbett, Bob and Joe really stepped in.
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Um. They were kind of the
first to try and assess me because
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when I was initially at the hospital
New Year's Day and the subsequent week or
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two of tests afterwards, they really
couldn't determine what I had. They wanted
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to be able to rule out a
stroke but couldn't, but they also couldn't
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confirm it. Looking back later it
was likely more a palsy than anything else,
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just to the fact of my age
and how I could overcome it.
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But they couldn't confirm that as a
diagnosis either. Nobody could say why my
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face and my body wasn't working.
They just knew that it wasn't. If
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it had only affected my face,
it would have been likely more likely to
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be diagnosed as a palsy, but
because I had the rest of my body
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impacted, AH, they don't know
and probably never will. I don't.
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I mean I'm not seeking those answers
now. But Bob stepped in and really
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guided me on mindset. You know, one of the first things he said
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is listen, if we don't know
what it is, then you we there's
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no determination of if you can or
can't get better. So let's assume that
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you can, because we don't know
that you can't. You know, if
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it was x, Y or Z, you might be permanently like this.
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But since we don't know, you
don't know, and that unknown is probably
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your greatest asset. And that was
one of the first times somebody really started
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working on mindset with me. And
you know he was. He was great
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in finding Um the metrics for me
to hold onto. You know, he
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would, particularly when we were doing
testing on my face. You know,
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there was a time where they would
use one of those really sharp pin wheels,
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looks like a very small pizza cutter, and he runned across my face
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and I'd go allow, wow,
wow, out, no, no,
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yeah, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. And you know,
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because it was hemispherical like that,
that right side I could feel I
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could do everything, but the left
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gradually that line started to change.
I did start to get feeling back or
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I could move myself in different ways
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increase. And just being able to
know that, from last week to this
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week, these were the changes and
to be able to track that progression and
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know that I was getting better has
impacted basically everything I've done ever since.
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At that point I started tracking everything. I started tracking the auditions that I
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would do. So I can tell
you, from seventeen to every day I
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went to an audition, what I
was wearing, who the casting director was,
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if it was a film, television
or commercial role, time of day
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that it happens, if or I
did or did not eat prior to the
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audition, if I exercise prior to
the audition, like I knew all kinds
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of things because I was like,
what is the secret sauce to being able
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to work? Because when it was
taken away from me and I was told
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that I wouldn't act again, that
was one of the biggest motivating factors that
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I had. And when I was
able to get back in front of the
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camera, when I was able to
get back up on stage, that's when
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I appreciated it more than ever and
I was never letting it go. And
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I know the reality of being a
working actor and I wasn't going to be
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somebody who was struggling for less than
minimum wage and never making a go of
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it. And so, for basically
from the time I graduated high school until
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I was twenty five Um, I
was a full time working actor, definitely
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earning more than minimum wage, very
solid day player and and was on set
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very regularly, and I owe a
lot of that to the fact that I
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was able to find out what the
secret sauce was. Who should I be
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submitting who should I not be submitting
to? How long do I need to
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redescript? All of these things came
into play, and a lot of that
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came from the lessons that I learned
at seventeen trying to regain the functionality of
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my body and the mindset, lessons
that Bob and Joe and everyone else that
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was around me, my mom,
my friends, helping support me. It
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was critical to my covery and and
it's so important that just that that launch
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right from where he where he said. He's like, let's because most,
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most will just get in those positions
and let's just start focusing on the what
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was me aspect. Right, but
just it seems like just that one little
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statements like we don't know what it
is, so let's just be positive about
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this, let's let's go for the
right the right Um approach and and just
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believe that something's gonna Happen Right,
that you're just going to get better.
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And obviously it did and that's great. But I think that when when we
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have people, when we have mentors
and we have, uh, those figures
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in our lives that put us on
that path, it does tend to build
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up every aspect, other aspects of
our lives, and it's I think it's
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it's awesome that you took that and
you built this whole. It was a
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lesson learned, like yeah, this
sucks, but what am I gonna learn
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from this? I think that's the
key point to failures or circumstances that we
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get tossed into is is it's out
of our control sometimes, but cool.
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But what is in our control is
how are we going to respond to that?
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And I love the way you responded
and how you utilize that to push
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yourself forward in your acting career.
And I mean in the bio I didn't
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live. There's a list like you're
out there, man. That is like
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it's it's in the description, will
be in the podcast notes, but some
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really awesome TV series and movies that
that you are a part of, and
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so I love that. That is
how you transition through that that portion of
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your life well. And the Nice
thing is is I I had been used
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to that. I mean as an
actor, one of the Um the biggest
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words that you hear is no,
like no, you're not getting that rule,
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and in fact you don't even hear
it you go a new audition and
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then you just you either hear that
you've got it or you never hear again.
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it was probably helpful for me too,
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because I never looked at a lot. There's people who look at it
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as rejection. You were rejected,
they didn't like you, they didn't want
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you, you weren't good enough,
you weren't talented enough. I've been blessed
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to be on both sides of the
camera, so I've been both a performer
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in front of camera and on stage, but I've also helped produced shows,
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I've helped direct shows and I know
I've been a reader in the room for
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casting directors and I know from that
experience that talent isn't the thing that they're
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looking for. I know it sounds
counterintuitive, but if you didn't have talent,
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you wouldn't have gotten the audition.
Like you wouldn't have even been given
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the opportunity. The fact that you
were given the opportunity is proof that you
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have talent. Now it's the mystical
everything else. Are you the right high,
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right weight, right eye color,
right hair color? Do you have
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the right accent? Are you able
to do the right accent? Do you
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fit with the other cast? You
know if they've cast somebody who a leading
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actress who is five eight or five
nine, she's probably gonna look awkward up
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to me, because I graciously list
myself at five eight and the reality is
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I'm probably five seven in a little
bit, a hundred and thirty five pounds.
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So if you don't get somebody who
is slight, I'M gonna look ridiculous
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next to them. And depending on
you know, if I'm not the leading
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role, they're going to cast around
the lead, not around me, and
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so there's a lot of things that
go into play that that are so outside
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of my control, so outside of
my sphere of influence, that all I
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can do is, as you said, focus on what I can do and
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my reactions to them. I never
got. You know, I know people
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who get mad at casting directors.
You know, I've been to five auditions
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with her and she hasn't guy.
I haven't even gotten a okay. Well,
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if that's the attitude you're going into
the room with, there's probably her
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reason you're not booking and yet she's
bringing you back. So you've got to
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have the talent. The talent is
there, or they just, especially with
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that kind of attitude, they just
wouldn't bring you back. You'd get blacklisted
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so quickly. And so for me
I just realized, you know what,
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they're my friends, they're on my
side, they brought me into the room.
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They don't want their time wasted.
So I have to just do my
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best. I prep the best that
I can and give my best performance that
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I can and then everything else is
outside of my sphere of influence and that
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has served me going forward. You
know, in my business relations, in
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the entrepreneurial things that I've tackled over
the last five, ten years. I
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mean I run three companies right now
and I've had a fourth, one,
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fifth, two beyond the three that
I have going right now to have failed
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miserably. Well, we're excellent learning
opportunities because I know what not to do
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and subsequently my three that I have
going right now are thriving. But they
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wouldn't be if I hadn't learned the
lessons from that. So there's always there's
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always a lesson to learn. There's
always grace in the events that happened in
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our life. You know, I
my father passing away was tragic. It
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drastically altered the course of my life. But if it weren't for it,
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I would have never gotten on stage. If it weren't for it I wouldn't
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have had the extreme number of mentors
in my life that I did because everybody
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in my I grew up in a
very small town in rural Alberta, and
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everybody stepped up to support my mom. You know, they say it takes
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a village to raise the children,
while I had an entire town and you
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know, so many men and women
stepped up to the plate to help me
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and guide me and be there for
me and help me with things. You
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know, get me into hockey so
that I could play because mom couldn't afford
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the gear. Um Get me into
baseball, get me out and playing music.
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I started drumming because of some of
the guidance and mentorships that I had.
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So all of those things happened because
my father passed away and there was
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a void to fill and because of
that, Bob and Joanne were very large
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parts of my life and so when
I needed them the most, in my
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darkest time, they were already there, they were already prepped. We had
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a pre existing relationship. They knew
who I was and that is incredible grace.
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So I look at all the events
that have happened in my life and
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it's, you know, it's a
series of dominoes that are set up on
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a string and if one was taken
away, the whole thing would not cascade
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the way that it has right now. And I need each one of those
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events to be where I am it
now. And so it's finding Um the
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lessons in why those dominoes were placed
in the area that they were, in
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the orientation that they were and why
they've fallen the way that they have.
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And for me, just piecing not
together is my my daily challenge, but
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it's also my daily reward when I
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Well, and I like that piece
too, is that's that's that success
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stacting in my mind. And so, well, what's what's? What's the
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success? And that will I learned
a lesson. Amy, at least I
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learned it and I didn't have to
go through that, that whole lesson one
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more time. And but, and
I the other little pieces that you put
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in there to your attitude that you
had um in in these casting calls.
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and and how someone come to the
same casting director and and but there is
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an attitude then a lot of people
don't understand that too, like the energy
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that you're putting out. Um,
even though you have the talent, they
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may not have been Lin the VIBE. And so if you but with since
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you go into these things with this
this high energy and this high vibration,
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that's you're like yeah, man,
this is cool, you're my friend and
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and you're here to support that's that's
that's a connection. That um is not
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seen, but it's definitely felt,
and sometimes you can't just you can't pinpoint
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that. So I feel like maybe
a lot of those other guys are shooting
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themselves in the foot with the attitude
that they came into that with a what's
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cool with you? As you you
learned that and that was again that lesson,
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that tool for your tool belt for
when you transition from acting to now
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go into the entrepreneurship. So you
had this attitude going into that and still
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lessons learned. And you have the
two companies that failed miserably. But what
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kin I pull from that? Because
I'm not done, my life isn't over.
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I still need to progress forward.
So these are really good lessons for
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the listeners to hear because it's it's
it's quantifiable. But when more people come
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out and start saying these things that
look, we see it in memes all
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the time. It's an inspirational quotes. It is the failures are lessons and
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and look at how to to utilize
that. Well, now here's a real
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world of real world example on how
that works and why it works and and
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that it does work well and I
think what you the word that you use,
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quantifiable, is the most important.
I love metrics. Again, I
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have an engineering mind which is warped
because I also have a performance mind.
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So, trust me, I am
the odd man out in my engineering circles.
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Um, there's some dry characters where
I used to work. But you
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know, I like the numbers,
I like to know and it helps me
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with my tracking, because that's the
other thing too. I knew statistically when
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I was acting that I was booking
one in eight auditions. So if I
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go on a streak where it was
twelve or thirteen or fourteen auditions and I
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hadn't booked, I'd go, okay, great, that means I'm gonna I'm
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statistically bound for like the next two
or three to really fall into place.
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And you're right, the energy is
palpable. It's the thing that I missed
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the most right now, coming to
you from my blank gray void, you
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know, is that I don't have
that room to have energy in and I
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have. I have found that Um, as good a performer as I'd like
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to think that I am, and
statistically I have a resume to back that
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up. I'm booking less in these
virtual casting calls because you just get no
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sense of my personality. You know, I have a literally a five second
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slate where I get to say hi, my name is Tyler Foley, I'm
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represented by Roxanne and I'm reading for
the role of whatever, and that that's
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not enough to know who the essence
of me is. But you get me
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in a room and while they're setting
up and the cameraman's fiddling around and casting
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directors asking how your day is,
they get they know you and and so
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that's that's been really missing from this. I think I've had I'd have to
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check back, but it's fifteen or
sixteen auditions in the last year and I've
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literally booked one day player role and
the likelihood that I ever actually make the
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show, I'm paid for it,
so I'm happy, I don't mind.
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But the likelihood that anybody actually sees
me in that performance is a about five
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based on how that role went.
So you know, there it's not the
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size the role, it's the it's
the attitude of the actor and and I
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was so gracious grateful to be on
that set. It's a show that I've
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been trying to get on for literally
fifteen years. So yeah, day player
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role, but I got to say
that I was on it. It's tact
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upon my resume. Now I've booked
a thing and maybe, maybe they'll start
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to come through the way that they
used to. But I also know that
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I'm missing this, I'm missing the
connection and I bet when I get back
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into the room, well, I'll
slay it then, I don't doubt it.
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Let's let's what was the transition like
for you then, because you came
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out of acting and you went to
and I love your analytical because you so.
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I have my my doctor is actually
in computer science, and so it's
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the same as far as computer science
guys go. I have a personality that
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then, and that's that's I mean, it's it's not, it's not.
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That dry mop syndrome of computer guys
is starting to go away a little bit,
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but it's still very prevalent in in
the world. But so I love
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that that piece. But how was
the transition from going from acting to to
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now doing something different? Like again, you have the attitude, you of
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everything that was caring carrying with you. So how did you apply that really
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when you were when you were making
that transition to a new career field.
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Well, the thing is is,
when you're a performer, you're always a
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performer. Like that's like you can
you put me onto you know, podcasts
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and we can promote whatever. You
talk about the business, talk about the
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book. I'm still gonna be me, I'M gonna be my personality and I'm
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gonna come through shining as a performer
always. And that was one of the
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first lessons that I learned from a
business perspective is when you try to be
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something that you're not, it reads
false right away. And I can't be
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worried about what my clients think about
me. I can't change my personality because
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my clients are going to figure it
out at some point and if they don't
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like it, they weren't the ideal
client for me anyways. You can't.
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You can't get everyone. It's the
same as an audition, like you just
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you can't all the work out there
is so an abundance of work out there
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if you look and and there's enough
to share that I don't need to book
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every client because, you know,
my life would get really chaotic and hectic
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and it would be stressful if everybody
came to me. I wouldn't be able
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to serve the world. Um.
So I learned very quickly not to temper
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who I am, to embrace who
I am, that those who appreciated my
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personality, we're going to work with
me and work with me well and like
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it back, and those who didn't
were not my ideal clients and I didn't
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and the beautiful thing about it is
then I stopped wasting energy trying to attract
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them, and that has been one
of the greatest gifts that I've ever been
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given, is the freedom to not
have to chase every potential lead, because
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that's all they are. They are
leads and they're not not every lead is
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going to translate into business for me, and I like that. I like
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the twenty rule. I like generating
eight percent of my income from the clients
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that I work with, because those
are the ones that I'm going to focus
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on, those are the ones that
are going to get the majority of my
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time, they're the ones that are
going to get my focus and my energy,
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and that frees me up to have
this other to explore all the different
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things that I do. I mean, I'm wearing so many hats. I've
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got three businesses going Um, two
of them. Thankfully, I have a
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very passive input into Um. The
speaker training is my active focus and it's
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great because now I get to help
people tell their stories, get their messages
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out, find out why they were
put on earth like that's some of the
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funnest things, things that I get
to do with my job right now is
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help people figure out what is my
story, Why am I here? WHO
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CAN I help? And I mean
that's where I'm getting the reward. Running
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the safety business has been rewarding in
that I know that I'm keeping people safe
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and as somebody who lost their father
to a workplace incident, nothing drives me
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and motivates me more than making sure
that somebody else's spouse gets home that day.
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But it's exhausting because nobody likes safety
and you're you're just, you're you're
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preaching to the choir. You know
when you find it that nobody's nobody's listening,
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you might as well be talking into
my empty void room. And so
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to be able now to empower people
to find their own message, to find
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their own story, to find their
own motivation, that has been rewarding and
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then some, and it just it
just feels good. It feels good every
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time I can see somebody's lightbulb go
off and see them click and gain confidence.
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That's the thing. S of Americans
claim that they have this mysterious fear
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of public speaking, and the reality
is they don't. The majority of the
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people who feel that they have this
fear of public speaking aren't afraid to speak
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in public, or they would never
be able to order food in a restaurant.
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But they do have a fear of
judgment. And so getting people to
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overcome that and then find the confidence
to take the stage and really express themselves
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and find out who they are,
to like, be authentic and find out.
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For me, I hate the word
authentic. It's so overused it just
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drives me insane. I think authenticity
is synonymous with self awareness and so having
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people really figure out who they are
at their court, what drives them,
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what motivates them, what their values
are, and then be able to have
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them articulate that to another group and
have impact. Oh it lights my heart
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up every time. I love that. You said that that because authenticity it
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is when you are because we're always
showing up as what we believe to be
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authentic. I mean we're we're trying. And there are some cases, like
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you said, if you go to
a job interview and you you try to
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put on whatever, but and okay, so those are the rare cases.
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But even still we're still showing up
as as authentic as we know how to
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be, because that that's where our
self awareness is. And and I love
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when people go through personal development journeys
or personal discovery and and really working with
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you know, people like you who
are helping them to get on and and
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express their voice, express their story. There's a power when they begin to
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realize who they are right and and
so I love that you distinguished the authenticity
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is as being just just become more
self aware, and that's that's the key.
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But people don't don't go on those
research journeys. They don't. They
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don't know they've and we're just we
we've become complacent to where we're at and
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and we I always get very intrigued
to people like why I feel so exhausted
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all the time and this and then
because your body really wants your spirit,
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00:38:54.039 --> 00:39:00.559
everything about you wants to grow,
it wants to expound, expand and you're
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forcing it to constrict it into place. So no wonder you're tired. It's
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really interesting when you begin to self
awareness piece, and this is where you
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know your story is coming into play
too, and how you feel. So
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because that's what you're doing. You're
helping people do that because you've done it,
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00:39:15.840 --> 00:39:19.320
and you're like yes, you're with
me, we're riding this way together
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00:39:19.760 --> 00:39:22.480
and you're both are growing and you
feel free. You don't feel exhausted anymore.
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You feel just rejuvenated and energized because
you are doing that self awareness,
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that self discovery. It's an amazing
thing that people don't understand well and one
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of my good friends, Jason Krauss, has a phenomenal book that I'm sure
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you can pick up on bookshop dot
org, called the science of success,
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and one of the first things that
he talks about in it he's a former
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Olympic Bob slayer. So, forgive
me, I'm from Canada, so winter
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sports Um, and but he played
football, Canadian football, but football nonetheless,
515
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three downs instead of four. And
then when he finished with his Um
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football career, he's really short and
stocky and fast. He is lightning fast
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and he was just made to pilot
a Bob's way. And in his book
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he talks about how you can really
only be in two states. You're in
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growth or contraction, and contraction is
death and there are times where you need
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something to contract and die like.
It's not a thing to fear necessarily,
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but you it's better when you are
consciously aware of what you're rejecting and what
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you're not nurturing and you're consciously aware
of what you're accepting and nurturing, versus
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allowing random circumstance and unconscious biases uh
to have these things propagate. Because,
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00:40:45.000 --> 00:40:52.320
again, rule, there are relationships
that I shouldn't foster. They are energy
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draining, they are not financially lucrative
Um, they just don't serve me and
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subsequently, if they're not serving me, I can't possibly be serving them either.
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So those are things, those are
energies that need to contract, but
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we need to be able to focus
on those growth because, as you pointed
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out, it's one of the two. You're either in growth or contraction,
530
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and Jason's book runs it really,
really well. Like I I understand the
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concepts, but the way that he
lays them out, step by step by
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step in science of success is Um
is just a genius thing, especially because
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00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:35.039
he comes from it from a performance
athlete perspective. And now he's, you
534
00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:40.880
know, he's a very um lettered
coach and executive coach and he works with,
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you know, very large name fortune, five C C suite executives and
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UH and so, you know,
I I trust the advice that he gives
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because he's helping some great people find
their greatness and be even better. So
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he it's it's a great book,
but I love when he talks about it
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growth versus contraction and that you can't
be in the two states at the same
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time and to be consciously aware of
them versus subconsciously. Yeah, well,
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let's since you brought up book,
Let's Talk About your book. I mean
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we briefly discussed about people know where
to go, the right right place to
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go, but let's talk more about
what's in the book, what inspired the
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Book and who is it? Who
is it really for? So the book
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is not for. I can say
who it's not for. It's not for
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people who are already big name public
speakers. They they, you know,
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people who it's for the people who
are afraid to get onto the stage and
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for the people who know that they
want to be on stage. But don't
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know where to start. It's a
real beginner handhold for people. It's thirty
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five years of my experience compressed into
ten chapters and gives very actionable advice.
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That's one of the things when I
first started writing the book book, more
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specifically when I first started performing the
book, I wanted to make sure that
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it was actionable, that people could
read it, that it was easy to
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digest and that they had things that
they could implement right now, because otherwise
555
00:43:13.599 --> 00:43:15.400
why read like if you if you
can't do a thing out of the book,
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if you can't implement something out of
the book, there's no point in
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reading that book. And the book
actually came about through my training. So
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I record everything because I'm a performer, so I don't go anywhere without a
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camera. The beautiful thing about current
society is that everybody has at least one
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camera on them at all times,
because they we've got cell phones and a
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lot of the cell phones have fantastic
lenses on them, like mine's got as
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Zeiss Um Lens that that captures images
and just a way that even my Webcam
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can't, and this is an HD
Webcam that I'm using, but my cell
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phone actually has a better picture quality, and so I record everything that I
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do and what we did was we
took the training and all the video,
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grab the Audio, transcribe that and
then compiled it into segments that made sense
567
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based on how I train and how
I conduct my workshops and my seminars and
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00:44:15.159 --> 00:44:20.719
my webinars and all of the training
that I do. We compiled it into
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the book and and people seem to
enjoy it. The Nice thing is is
570
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that it's because it's transcribed from my
audio. It's in my voice. It
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makes me cringe when I read it
because, Um, I think I'm articulate
572
00:44:37.920 --> 00:44:44.000
and come across educated when I speak, and I think I do, until
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I see it down word for word
for word, and then I go wow,
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I would amend that and I was. I'm lucky that I had a
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really good team behind me who were
like no, no, it's your voice,
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trust us, trust us, trust
the process. Keep it that way,
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00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:05.159
and that's been the main feedback from
people is that is really easy to
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read and they get a very clear
sense of who I am and if they
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want to work with me further after
having read the book, because they know
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what they're getting like. There's no
surprise you get in a room. Live
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with me. There's no surprise after
you've read the book, and Vice Versa,
582
00:45:19.960 --> 00:45:22.800
because you may ever notice that sometimes
you'll go to one of those big
583
00:45:22.880 --> 00:45:27.000
events and they got the big speakers
and they're raw, Rah Rah, and
584
00:45:27.000 --> 00:45:30.039
they're promoting you know, and you're
like wow, this person is a genius,
585
00:45:30.039 --> 00:45:36.599
and then you pick up their book
and the content is there but the
586
00:45:36.679 --> 00:45:42.280
context is different and you're like uh, it's a subconscious bias and you're like,
587
00:45:42.320 --> 00:45:45.519
I don't know why this doesn't buy, but just something doesn't feel right
588
00:45:45.559 --> 00:45:47.519
about it. The Nice thing is
is that doesn't happen with my book.
589
00:45:47.760 --> 00:45:52.679
Really, well, get me,
that's just how it is. Right.
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00:45:52.800 --> 00:45:57.039
Well, that's good. Well,
so what was? What's the telling about
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the title? Because it's the power
to speak naked. Um, the power
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to speak naked. By the way, this cover is banned by Jeff Bezos.
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That's another reason to go um and
shop for it on Bookshop Dot Org.
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You can get it on Bezos site, but I can't advertise for it
595
00:46:16.039 --> 00:46:22.639
because it doesn't meet their advertising content
because it contains overt and graphic content in
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a sexualized manner. And facebook feels
the same way. So I can't even
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00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:30.239
promote the book on facebook. But
I like the cover. I think it
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has impact, so I change the
thing. Yeah, I love it,
599
00:46:36.119 --> 00:46:37.239
but I don't know why we get
so hang up, hung up on it's
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not like you're full frontal right there, but hey, you know, it
601
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is what it is. So I
mean cool. So, as the keynote
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00:46:45.800 --> 00:46:50.880
speaker goes, like you do have
this really good persona, this this amazing
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persona, and I could see why, as a keynote speaker like, people
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would really be drawn. So,
like, I want you to come speak
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00:46:57.760 --> 00:47:04.519
to this and just your background Um
just just makes that serve right, is
606
00:47:04.679 --> 00:47:07.800
like, because it's interesting how you
apply everything that you've gone through, you
607
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know, from from the being paralyzed
to your journey through Um casting calls and
608
00:47:15.440 --> 00:47:16.920
being, you know, the Child, the child actor, and then the
609
00:47:17.039 --> 00:47:22.199
adult actor and then the Um,
the engineer aspect of you, and now
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00:47:22.360 --> 00:47:27.239
the teacher, coach person that helps
people find their voice. And so I
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can see that the appeal for people
wanting to have you come talk. So
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is that something that people can request
from you? Be Like Hey, Tyler
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meed, we have this event and
I think you're gonna be an awesome speaker
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at it. And so how how
do they get in touch with you?
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To do that? The best way
to do that is on Sean Tyler Foley
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Dot Com, and Sean is spelled
the proper Irish way, s e a
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N T U I L E R
F O l e Y. Sean Tyler
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Folly Dot Com, and has all
my socials there. It has Um,
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all my contact information, how to
book me, Um, how to get
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into one of our works ops,
whether they're live or prerecorded or virtual,
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Um, and basically everything about me
is on Sean Tyler Folly Dot Com.
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And for anybody who does go,
we have a free gift for them if
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they do visit the website. Right
on the front page, above the fold,
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there's a big banner called the method
and if you click on the method
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it's an eleven page booklet with five
insider secrets that I've put together that are
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very easy to use and will help
anybody be a more confident public speaker.
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And they don't have to pick up
the power to speak naked to get those
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secrets. They can just go and
get them free and if they like what
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they here, then by all means
go to bookshop dot org pick up the
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book and see if that helps you
in any way. And I am always,
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always, always happy to do a
corporate facilitation. I have a lot
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of corporate clients who bring me in
to work with their executives, to work
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with their management team and their supervisory
team so that they're giving better presentations,
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because that's the worst thing about business
and when you have to go into the
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boardroom and get a lot botomy like
that, it's just unfortunate and it doesn't
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need to be that way. I
get that some of the information maybe isn't
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flashy like a Hollywood film, but
there are ways that you can present any
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data, any information, in a
way that's compelling and make sense to your
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audience and brings them in as opposed
to pushing them away. So that's again,
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I I love that. I love
doing that, and that comes back
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to the safety background, because if
you can't explain your messaging, if you
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can't sell somebody on your idea or
your program your employees are really spinning without
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direction and that is one of the
worst places for a company to be in.
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You Need Clear Direction. You need
to be able to articulate what you
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want out of your company and your
vision and where it's going and why.
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You need that and you need those
who viewed empowered to lead and and direct
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that uh, to be able to
do the same. And if the messaging
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is offer and congruent, that's when
things start to go really wrong really quickly
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with businesses. So I love doing
those corporate facilitations perfect well. I'm sure
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that I don't know how many corporation
guys are are gonna listen to it and
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they're out there. So now they
have it right. And Tyler, I
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just I appreciate you so much for
taking the time to come on and a
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lot of really good insights in this
conversation and just your your knowledge that you
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have towards towards the mindset and how
it's applied and in a lot of different
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aspects is I think it's gonna be
refreshing for people and that's going to really
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help them. So I just want
to say I appreciate you taking time and
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and sharing this knowledge with my listeners. Um, it was. It was
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a great conversation well and I enjoyed
it, Garrett, and if any,
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if everybody who was on live right
now or who was listening later h enjoyed
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what you were doing with moving upstream
without a paddle. I would strongly encourage
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them. Right now, you're you're
watching anyways, so just click the light
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fucking give a share out or a
comment. If you're listening to this on
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your podcast, whatever device you're listening
to this on, whatever service you've downloaded
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this from, do Garrett a favor
give it a five star review, because
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it is not easy putting these things
together. Um, and I know I
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got value out of this conversation.
I really enjoyed what we were doing here
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today, Garrett. So if your
audience is listening right now and they they're
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getting value out of moving upstream without
a paddle, then I would strongly,
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strongly encourage them. Stop what you're
doing right now, because you're already on
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the device. Just hit pause.
We'll be here, while we're wrapping up,
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we'll be here. You just hit
that button like subscribe, five Star
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Review, leave a comment, share
with your friends, let them know,
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get the word out, because if
you're getting value out of it, that's
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the only way that Garrett's going to
be able to get better guests than I
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on to give you as much value
as we can. I appreciate that it's
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it's my listen. I have the
one is that I know just show up
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all the time and this is how
I always in it. And so again,
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thank you, and I'll end it
this way again, that I just
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appreciate the listeners so much because they
do show up, they're constantly connected and
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I always say that when you're trying
to shift mindsets and you're trying to to
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to go through that personal development,
that personal discovery is a continuous thing.
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So you constantly have to keep yourself
connected in in these aspects and listen to
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the messages, like Tyler and other
guts are on here. So, Um,
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I appreciate you guys always showing up
and, as usual, we were
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going to be having another conversation real
soon. Thanks for tuning in. If
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you've found value in this episode,
the best thing you can do is to
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subscribe, rate or review this podcast. If you would like to further investigate
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how you can Filip your mindset,
feel free to contact me through my website
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at www dot garrett goggins dot com. Can't wait to catch you on the
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next episode.