Growth or Contraction? - Tyler Foley

WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.560 --> 00:00:07.400 Hey, Dr g here. Thank you for listening to moving upstream without a 2 00:00:07.400 --> 00:00:11.160 paddle. I would like to work with businesses, authors, coaches and the 3 00:00:11.320 --> 00:00:16.039 like who understand the importance of shifting perspectives to obtain the results we're looking for, 4 00:00:16.760 --> 00:00:20.239 and pleased to announce that moving up stream without a paddle is now offering 5 00:00:20.239 --> 00:00:25.160 commercial spots to be aired during the episodes. If you believe your organization would 6 00:00:25.199 --> 00:00:29.239 benefit from advertising on the PODCAST, I would love to have you be a 7 00:00:29.280 --> 00:00:34.280 part of this continuously growing show. Let's get connected and inspire the world together. 8 00:00:37.880 --> 00:00:41.679 I am always, always, always happy to do a corporate facilitation. 9 00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:44.640 I have a lot of corporate clients who bring me in to work with their 10 00:00:44.679 --> 00:00:48.399 executives, to work with their management team and their supervisory team so that they're 11 00:00:48.439 --> 00:00:53.240 giving better presentations, because that's the worst thing about business and when you have 12 00:00:53.280 --> 00:00:59.880 to go into the board room and get a lobotomy. What's everybody? Welcome 13 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:03.920 Act to another episode of moving up stream without a paddle. I have another 14 00:01:03.959 --> 00:01:08.480 amazing guest, but before we introduced him, I wanted to send out another 15 00:01:10.040 --> 00:01:14.879 invite to all the listeners who are going through their personal development, personal discovery 16 00:01:14.959 --> 00:01:19.200 journey and are looking to get connected with some like minded individuals. See, 17 00:01:19.239 --> 00:01:23.040 I created the moving up stream without a paddle facebook group as an extension to 18 00:01:23.079 --> 00:01:27.439 this podcast where we can get together, share some wins, you work through 19 00:01:27.439 --> 00:01:33.920 our struggles and anything else that might actually uplift our community or or even ourselves. 20 00:01:33.920 --> 00:01:38.079 So you head on over to Facebook, look up moving up stream without 21 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:42.120 a paddle the group and let's get you plugged in. But with that, 22 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:48.239 I'm really excited to introduce the Mr Tyler Foley. Um. I think this 23 00:01:48.319 --> 00:01:53.359 is gonna be a really good conversation. But he's just he has really as 24 00:01:53.599 --> 00:01:56.159 a lot of my guests do. He has a very interesting career. For 25 00:01:56.200 --> 00:02:00.200 the past three or five years he's been a part of a slew of TV 26 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:04.159 series and movies and Um, for the past ten years he has been a 27 00:02:04.319 --> 00:02:10.400 safety consultant, instructor and keynotes presenter. He's also the author of the number 28 00:02:10.439 --> 00:02:15.360 one best selling book, the power to speak naked, UM, which is 29 00:02:15.360 --> 00:02:19.560 a very interesting title and I can't wait to dive more into his book his 30 00:02:19.680 --> 00:02:23.560 story. Um, he's thriving. He says he's thriving today despite a medical 31 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:30.479 incident that he had at the age of seventeen that left him paralyzed on his 32 00:02:30.639 --> 00:02:34.759 left side. Um, he but he does contribute all of his success primarily 33 00:02:34.800 --> 00:02:38.520 to his mindset. And you know, I really hope you're ready for another 34 00:02:38.680 --> 00:02:44.319 life changing conversation, because my talk with Tyler is going to happen right after 35 00:02:44.360 --> 00:02:53.080 this. Welcome to moving upstream without a paddle, the podcast that helps develop 36 00:02:53.159 --> 00:02:57.240 a mindset for success. I'm your host, Dr Garrett Coggins, but most 37 00:02:57.240 --> 00:03:00.759 people call me Dr Chet. Now I've dedicated my life to helping others understand 38 00:03:01.120 --> 00:03:06.879 that if you have the proper mindset, you can propel yourself up that proverbial 39 00:03:06.919 --> 00:03:12.240 stream with no paddle needing. After constantly feeling like you're going against the flow 40 00:03:12.599 --> 00:03:16.039 but you're never happy with your results, it's really time to flip your mindset. 41 00:03:16.599 --> 00:03:20.719 If that's something that you're ready to do, you've come to the right 42 00:03:20.759 --> 00:03:38.240 place. Now let's get to it. Hello, Tyler, welcome to the 43 00:03:38.280 --> 00:03:44.560 show. Oh, dctor Garrett, I am looking forward to this one. 44 00:03:45.680 --> 00:03:49.560 I am too. I go back her bio a lot and we were just 45 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:53.199 brigefly. We're talking for and that's not even know the full bio. That 46 00:03:53.199 --> 00:03:57.919 when we were introduced, that I read. It's it's it's very entertaining and 47 00:03:57.960 --> 00:04:01.080 we were saying that this is going to be an enter teeny discussion and I 48 00:04:01.159 --> 00:04:05.280 just the personality that exudes just from you, know, the things that you 49 00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:08.879 sent me and what you've written. I just I know this is gonna be 50 00:04:08.919 --> 00:04:13.120 true, but I really like, Um, to start off the show with 51 00:04:13.360 --> 00:04:16.600 letting you take the center stage, because it's you are the reason why we 52 00:04:16.720 --> 00:04:20.399 are all here. So if you don't mind just taking the MIC and kind 53 00:04:20.399 --> 00:04:25.639 of give it this just more of a deeper background than what I could possibly 54 00:04:25.639 --> 00:04:28.439 do. Is just that's your brief bio. Yeah, no, sure, 55 00:04:28.519 --> 00:04:30.839 and I'm not going to take up much more time because the bio covers it 56 00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:36.040 all pretty good. But I uh, I'm a former child actor. Started 57 00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:40.360 on stage when I was six years old. I went to a fine arts 58 00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:44.480 high school. As you had mentioned, I had a medical incident when I 59 00:04:44.519 --> 00:04:48.399 was seventeen that left the left side of my body paralyzed. Took over a 60 00:04:48.519 --> 00:04:55.199 year of really intense physiotherapy in order to get that back. A lot of 61 00:04:55.240 --> 00:04:58.920 that had to do with, as you mentioned, my mindset on that and, 62 00:04:59.040 --> 00:05:01.639 more specifically, be be able to surround myself with people who had my 63 00:05:01.720 --> 00:05:08.040 best interest at heart. Medical Professionals, friends, family and have a really 64 00:05:08.040 --> 00:05:14.040 good support net that could keep me afloat when I didn't feel like it anymore, 65 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:17.480 who could push me forward, who helped me find the metrics to see 66 00:05:17.519 --> 00:05:21.839 incremental change and and get better. And then, when the Nice thing is, 67 00:05:21.920 --> 00:05:26.000 my face started working again, I was able to continue acting in film 68 00:05:26.000 --> 00:05:30.360 and television. Stayed with that career for an additional seven to eight years and 69 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:32.680 then, at the right old age of five, after having been in show 70 00:05:32.720 --> 00:05:39.920 business for twenty years, it's time to retire. I went back got engineering 71 00:05:39.959 --> 00:05:47.839 degree, um or not a diploma, more specifically an engineering discipline at school 72 00:05:48.120 --> 00:05:57.040 and College, started my own company doing aerial surveying and then moved from planes 73 00:05:57.199 --> 00:06:00.680 to carts on the ground and doing interior more mapping, because planes are expensive. 74 00:06:01.439 --> 00:06:08.160 Unfortunately, my business was about ten years ahead of the curve and there 75 00:06:08.199 --> 00:06:11.920 wasn't a lot of demand and what we had to charge was significant, and 76 00:06:12.199 --> 00:06:16.199 that that business unfortunately went under. But out of it I became a safety 77 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:19.759 professional, which is nice because starting the business we needed to put together a 78 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:26.279 safety program and a friend of mine encourage me to go along the safety route 79 00:06:26.560 --> 00:06:33.600 and then doing safety and training people on how to give better presentations with a 80 00:06:33.600 --> 00:06:39.800 safety aspect ended up leading to this wonderful career where now I don't have to 81 00:06:39.839 --> 00:06:43.560 do the safety anymore, which is exhausting, and I get to train people 82 00:06:43.600 --> 00:06:46.360 on how to public speak better, which is rewarding. And, as you 83 00:06:46.399 --> 00:06:50.199 had mentioned, we've got the number one best seller out, which just came 84 00:06:50.240 --> 00:06:55.120 out September seven, so everybody out there can get a copy of it, 85 00:06:55.319 --> 00:06:59.319 and I would strongly encourage anybody who is listening if they want to, they 86 00:06:59.319 --> 00:07:02.399 can check that out on bookshop dot org, because that's where you can find 87 00:07:02.560 --> 00:07:06.959 every book or title that you want online, but connect you with your local 88 00:07:08.199 --> 00:07:12.000 mom and pop retailer shop and that that does a lot to help out the 89 00:07:12.000 --> 00:07:14.920 people who could probably use the help right now. So I don't care if 90 00:07:14.920 --> 00:07:16.600 you're buying my book, but if you're buying books right now, bookshop dot 91 00:07:16.720 --> 00:07:19.480 org would be the place to go. And that that's me and how I 92 00:07:19.560 --> 00:07:27.360 came around security a sleeve, from performer two engineer to safety professional back to 93 00:07:27.959 --> 00:07:33.240 performer and instructor. Now I love it. I love it and I truly 94 00:07:33.279 --> 00:07:41.680 appreciate that you the bookshop dot org because it's the local right and people don't 95 00:07:41.720 --> 00:07:44.199 do that anymore. We have these amazons that are out there, but there 96 00:07:44.199 --> 00:07:47.279 are local mom and pop bookshops there. I mean there's some here, because 97 00:07:47.319 --> 00:07:51.879 I'm in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and there's some that I've been here forever 98 00:07:53.160 --> 00:07:58.879 that we're almost shut down, like they were just poor richards was a place 99 00:07:58.959 --> 00:08:03.560 that we as college students would always go and hang out and have coffee, 100 00:08:03.600 --> 00:08:05.399 but it was a bookshop and it was just but then, you know, 101 00:08:05.519 --> 00:08:09.439 covid hit and destroyed, almost destroyed, that place. So I'm glad that 102 00:08:09.519 --> 00:08:13.160 you pushed that out there because it's so important to support your local community. 103 00:08:13.199 --> 00:08:18.480 And nothing against Amazon, but they have better that. They're not going anywhere. 104 00:08:18.560 --> 00:08:22.639 So Jeff Bezos just flew to space. He has enough money. We 105 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:26.720 don't need to line his pockets anymore. If you're buying books, and as 106 00:08:26.759 --> 00:08:28.160 you said, they're the people who really need it the most and they're the 107 00:08:28.199 --> 00:08:33.919 ones who are in business for a passion. You know, like you don't 108 00:08:33.919 --> 00:08:37.279 go into a bookstore because you're looking to make money. You're you're there because 109 00:08:37.399 --> 00:08:41.480 you like the atmosphere, you believe in literature. You know there's there's something 110 00:08:41.559 --> 00:08:48.440 about hard bound book that it's it's magical to me, I mean, and 111 00:08:48.480 --> 00:08:52.519 I'm a kid who spent a lot of time in a library, so uh, 112 00:08:52.759 --> 00:08:56.200 to me it's are the most wonderful places on the earth, especially ones 113 00:08:56.240 --> 00:08:58.799 like you described, where you've got the mom and pop shop where you can 114 00:08:58.840 --> 00:09:01.519 go, you can pick up your book, you can get a nice artistan 115 00:09:01.639 --> 00:09:05.480 coffee, have a relax chat with friends, browsed through the most recent title 116 00:09:05.519 --> 00:09:09.240 that has piqued your interest, and and that's that's why I think more people 117 00:09:09.360 --> 00:09:13.879 need to go to bookshop dot org. It's the same online shopping experience. 118 00:09:13.480 --> 00:09:16.679 Your book just doesn't come to you from a drone. So right, right, 119 00:09:18.360 --> 00:09:22.039 well, let's let's go backwards. We'll go back, not backwards, 120 00:09:22.120 --> 00:09:26.000 let's go back to you, because there are some points that you, you 121 00:09:26.480 --> 00:09:30.840 Um, you put out when you were going when you were paralyzed, and 122 00:09:30.840 --> 00:09:33.759 you were talking about the support that you had, and I like that piece 123 00:09:35.120 --> 00:09:41.360 because it's important in the mindset, realm right too. All too often we 124 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:46.960 go through these journeys and and we feel like we're going it alone, you 125 00:09:46.000 --> 00:09:54.440 know, especially those who are chasing entrepreneurialship or just this these high dreams that 126 00:09:54.480 --> 00:09:58.679 are these audacious goals. Right, they just feel out there alone, but 127 00:09:58.759 --> 00:10:01.399 you don't have to be. You can get the support that you need. 128 00:10:01.399 --> 00:10:07.679 That really helps develop the mindset, because that self talk that happens when you 129 00:10:07.720 --> 00:10:11.960 feel like you're just in this world trying to do this and there's no one 130 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:16.159 else and that thing, it's it's a lie, because there's so many other 131 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:18.879 people out there. There are there to support and we just need to find 132 00:10:18.879 --> 00:10:24.200 that support. So talk about how that really did boost your mindset and help 133 00:10:24.240 --> 00:10:30.960 you um progress forward, because, I mean, being paralyzed on one side 134 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:33.240 could not have been a fun experience for you. So I'm sure there was 135 00:10:33.279 --> 00:10:37.039 some self talk going on there going out, this sucks and and where do 136 00:10:37.080 --> 00:10:41.679 I go from here? And and and all that kind of jazz that happens 137 00:10:41.720 --> 00:10:46.120 with us. Yeah, no, it was. It was a real and 138 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:54.279 it and it was instant too. So, New Year's Eve, designated driver, 139 00:10:54.879 --> 00:10:58.600 out having fun with my friends, getting everybody home. I was out 140 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:07.200 till morning. Yeah, ended up bringing a friend's sister home with me who 141 00:11:07.240 --> 00:11:09.080 probably shouldn't have been out that late. Probably shouldn't have slept over at a 142 00:11:09.080 --> 00:11:16.919 boy's house, for sure, and her parents finally tracked her down about in 143 00:11:16.960 --> 00:11:18.879 the morning when everybody was like, well, where is she? There was 144 00:11:18.919 --> 00:11:24.159 a Welsh went with tyler and so they phoned the house and mom came in 145 00:11:24.279 --> 00:11:28.919 screaming you have to drive her home, and I thought I probably should. 146 00:11:28.039 --> 00:11:33.919 Yes, but then I went to get up and you know when you fall 147 00:11:33.960 --> 00:11:39.960 asleep on your arm and you get that numbness that and just before you get 148 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:41.480 the shooting pain that comes from it, it's just straight and numb. You 149 00:11:41.519 --> 00:11:46.559 can't feel anything. That's what I woke up to and I figured I had 150 00:11:46.639 --> 00:11:50.360 just slept weird. It was New Year's Day. But New Year's Day I 151 00:11:50.399 --> 00:11:56.399 woke up and nothing on this side was working and I didn't really realize it 152 00:11:56.440 --> 00:12:03.000 at first until I got up and I was brushing my teeth um and all 153 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:05.759 the toothpaste was just pouring out the side of my mouth and it was just 154 00:12:05.799 --> 00:12:11.559 folding and I couldn't I couldn't stop it from coming out. I didn't understand 155 00:12:11.559 --> 00:12:15.519 why. And Mom's looking at me, going, are you drunk? I 156 00:12:15.519 --> 00:12:16.759 said no, my I don't drink. She's like no, I know you 157 00:12:16.840 --> 00:12:20.879 say that, but are you really? I said no, really, mom, 158 00:12:20.919 --> 00:12:24.879 I I was out all night. I was the D D. I'm 159 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:28.960 I am sober as a judge, but this is not working. And then 160 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:35.039 she really took a good look at me and my eye was drooping, my 161 00:12:35.440 --> 00:12:39.639 mouth was drooping, I couldn't really move my arm and when I was walking 162 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:46.080 it was in this weird kind of shuffling perambulation. And the worst part is 163 00:12:46.120 --> 00:12:52.559 is I drove a Honda accord at the time, five speed manual. My 164 00:12:52.679 --> 00:12:56.879 leg wasn't working so I couldn't clutch. So I'm trying to get this girl 165 00:12:56.919 --> 00:13:01.240 little and finally a mom was like, okay, I'm getting you to the 166 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:03.440 hospital, then I will get her home and then I'll come back and check 167 00:13:03.480 --> 00:13:09.480 on you. And Uh, and that's when the whole ordeal really began to 168 00:13:09.559 --> 00:13:16.240 unfold. And when you're seventeen and you've been a performer in film and television 169 00:13:16.399 --> 00:13:20.399 at that point, for me eleven years, my whole career had been mapped 170 00:13:20.399 --> 00:13:22.039 out for me. I knew what my life was. I was going to 171 00:13:22.120 --> 00:13:24.399 go to New York or I was gonna go to L A. I was 172 00:13:24.399 --> 00:13:26.879 gonna be on Broadway or I was going to be in Hollywood. I was 173 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:28.200 going to be a star name in lights. I was going to be a 174 00:13:28.240 --> 00:13:35.200 performer and all of that got ripped out from under me New Year's Day because 175 00:13:35.279 --> 00:13:39.039 when you're facing your body don't respond to the commands and the cues that you 176 00:13:39.080 --> 00:13:46.480 wanted to do, it is really hard to be an actor and I had 177 00:13:46.519 --> 00:13:52.120 to withdraw from the musical that I was in. Um just everything kind of 178 00:13:52.240 --> 00:13:56.639 looked like it was tunneling in around me and I got very, uh, 179 00:13:56.799 --> 00:14:01.159 single mindedly focused on the fact that of all these things that I couldn't do, 180 00:14:01.960 --> 00:14:11.600 and by Grace and divine influence, I have um a very large number 181 00:14:11.919 --> 00:14:16.279 of influential men in my life who all kind of stepped up after my father 182 00:14:16.360 --> 00:14:24.559 passed away when I was six, to be father figures, and Dr Robert 183 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:30.639 Corbett and his wife, Dr Joanne Corbett, Bob and Joe really stepped in. 184 00:14:31.480 --> 00:14:35.440 Um. They were kind of the first to try and assess me because 185 00:14:35.080 --> 00:14:39.960 when I was initially at the hospital New Year's Day and the subsequent week or 186 00:14:39.960 --> 00:14:46.039 two of tests afterwards, they really couldn't determine what I had. They wanted 187 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:50.759 to be able to rule out a stroke but couldn't, but they also couldn't 188 00:14:50.759 --> 00:15:00.320 confirm it. Looking back later it was likely more a palsy than anything else, 189 00:15:00.399 --> 00:15:03.720 just to the fact of my age and how I could overcome it. 190 00:15:03.759 --> 00:15:07.440 But they couldn't confirm that as a diagnosis either. Nobody could say why my 191 00:15:07.600 --> 00:15:09.799 face and my body wasn't working. They just knew that it wasn't. If 192 00:15:09.799 --> 00:15:13.720 it had only affected my face, it would have been likely more likely to 193 00:15:13.759 --> 00:15:18.039 be diagnosed as a palsy, but because I had the rest of my body 194 00:15:18.080 --> 00:15:24.039 impacted, AH, they don't know and probably never will. I don't. 195 00:15:24.120 --> 00:15:31.919 I mean I'm not seeking those answers now. But Bob stepped in and really 196 00:15:33.159 --> 00:15:37.240 guided me on mindset. You know, one of the first things he said 197 00:15:37.320 --> 00:15:41.919 is listen, if we don't know what it is, then you we there's 198 00:15:41.960 --> 00:15:45.720 no determination of if you can or can't get better. So let's assume that 199 00:15:45.759 --> 00:15:48.720 you can, because we don't know that you can't. You know, if 200 00:15:48.720 --> 00:15:52.600 it was x, Y or Z, you might be permanently like this. 201 00:15:54.080 --> 00:16:00.679 But since we don't know, you don't know, and that unknown is probably 202 00:16:00.679 --> 00:16:04.120 your greatest asset. And that was one of the first times somebody really started 203 00:16:04.120 --> 00:16:08.399 working on mindset with me. And you know he was. He was great 204 00:16:10.000 --> 00:16:17.639 in finding Um the metrics for me to hold onto. You know, he 205 00:16:17.679 --> 00:16:19.960 would, particularly when we were doing testing on my face. You know, 206 00:16:21.240 --> 00:16:23.879 there was a time where they would use one of those really sharp pin wheels, 207 00:16:23.879 --> 00:16:30.360 looks like a very small pizza cutter, and he runned across my face 208 00:16:30.879 --> 00:16:33.960 and I'd go allow, wow, wow, out, no, no, 209 00:16:34.200 --> 00:16:38.480 yeah, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. And you know, 210 00:16:38.639 --> 00:16:42.399 because it was hemispherical like that, that right side I could feel I 211 00:16:42.399 --> 00:16:45.639 could do everything, but the left side I couldn't. And then slowly and 212 00:16:45.679 --> 00:16:51.000 gradually that line started to change. I did start to get feeling back or 213 00:16:51.080 --> 00:16:56.360 I could move myself in different ways or my Um grip strength would start to 214 00:16:56.440 --> 00:17:02.200 increase. And just being able to know that, from last week to this 215 00:17:02.279 --> 00:17:06.640 week, these were the changes and to be able to track that progression and 216 00:17:06.720 --> 00:17:11.799 know that I was getting better has impacted basically everything I've done ever since. 217 00:17:11.359 --> 00:17:17.440 At that point I started tracking everything. I started tracking the auditions that I 218 00:17:17.440 --> 00:17:23.680 would do. So I can tell you, from seventeen to every day I 219 00:17:23.720 --> 00:17:27.319 went to an audition, what I was wearing, who the casting director was, 220 00:17:27.559 --> 00:17:32.319 if it was a film, television or commercial role, time of day 221 00:17:32.359 --> 00:17:36.519 that it happens, if or I did or did not eat prior to the 222 00:17:36.519 --> 00:17:40.119 audition, if I exercise prior to the audition, like I knew all kinds 223 00:17:40.160 --> 00:17:41.599 of things because I was like, what is the secret sauce to being able 224 00:17:41.640 --> 00:17:45.799 to work? Because when it was taken away from me and I was told 225 00:17:45.799 --> 00:17:48.559 that I wouldn't act again, that was one of the biggest motivating factors that 226 00:17:48.599 --> 00:17:52.039 I had. And when I was able to get back in front of the 227 00:17:52.079 --> 00:17:56.200 camera, when I was able to get back up on stage, that's when 228 00:17:56.200 --> 00:18:00.200 I appreciated it more than ever and I was never letting it go. And 229 00:18:00.359 --> 00:18:03.519 I know the reality of being a working actor and I wasn't going to be 230 00:18:03.599 --> 00:18:08.599 somebody who was struggling for less than minimum wage and never making a go of 231 00:18:08.640 --> 00:18:15.640 it. And so, for basically from the time I graduated high school until 232 00:18:15.680 --> 00:18:21.000 I was twenty five Um, I was a full time working actor, definitely 233 00:18:21.079 --> 00:18:25.960 earning more than minimum wage, very solid day player and and was on set 234 00:18:26.240 --> 00:18:29.240 very regularly, and I owe a lot of that to the fact that I 235 00:18:29.279 --> 00:18:32.480 was able to find out what the secret sauce was. Who should I be 236 00:18:32.519 --> 00:18:34.480 submitting who should I not be submitting to? How long do I need to 237 00:18:34.519 --> 00:18:37.160 redescript? All of these things came into play, and a lot of that 238 00:18:37.200 --> 00:18:48.880 came from the lessons that I learned at seventeen trying to regain the functionality of 239 00:18:48.920 --> 00:18:52.839 my body and the mindset, lessons that Bob and Joe and everyone else that 240 00:18:52.960 --> 00:18:56.680 was around me, my mom, my friends, helping support me. It 241 00:18:56.720 --> 00:19:06.559 was critical to my covery and and it's so important that just that that launch 242 00:19:06.680 --> 00:19:08.960 right from where he where he said. He's like, let's because most, 243 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:14.799 most will just get in those positions and let's just start focusing on the what 244 00:19:15.079 --> 00:19:18.000 was me aspect. Right, but just it seems like just that one little 245 00:19:18.000 --> 00:19:22.119 statements like we don't know what it is, so let's just be positive about 246 00:19:22.119 --> 00:19:30.240 this, let's let's go for the right the right Um approach and and just 247 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:33.160 believe that something's gonna Happen Right, that you're just going to get better. 248 00:19:33.160 --> 00:19:36.680 And obviously it did and that's great. But I think that when when we 249 00:19:36.720 --> 00:19:40.880 have people, when we have mentors and we have, uh, those figures 250 00:19:40.880 --> 00:19:45.880 in our lives that put us on that path, it does tend to build 251 00:19:45.960 --> 00:19:49.880 up every aspect, other aspects of our lives, and it's I think it's 252 00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:55.960 it's awesome that you took that and you built this whole. It was a 253 00:19:56.039 --> 00:19:57.960 lesson learned, like yeah, this sucks, but what am I gonna learn 254 00:19:59.000 --> 00:20:04.519 from this? I think that's the key point to failures or circumstances that we 255 00:20:04.559 --> 00:20:08.759 get tossed into is is it's out of our control sometimes, but cool. 256 00:20:08.839 --> 00:20:12.720 But what is in our control is how are we going to respond to that? 257 00:20:12.839 --> 00:20:18.039 And I love the way you responded and how you utilize that to push 258 00:20:18.079 --> 00:20:22.640 yourself forward in your acting career. And I mean in the bio I didn't 259 00:20:22.680 --> 00:20:26.240 live. There's a list like you're out there, man. That is like 260 00:20:26.759 --> 00:20:30.160 it's it's in the description, will be in the podcast notes, but some 261 00:20:30.359 --> 00:20:33.319 really awesome TV series and movies that that you are a part of, and 262 00:20:33.400 --> 00:20:38.480 so I love that. That is how you transition through that that portion of 263 00:20:38.519 --> 00:20:42.000 your life well. And the Nice thing is is I I had been used 264 00:20:42.039 --> 00:20:47.400 to that. I mean as an actor, one of the Um the biggest 265 00:20:47.400 --> 00:20:52.000 words that you hear is no, like no, you're not getting that rule, 266 00:20:52.119 --> 00:20:56.039 and in fact you don't even hear it you go a new audition and 267 00:20:56.079 --> 00:21:00.559 then you just you either hear that you've got it or you never hear again. 268 00:21:02.079 --> 00:21:08.880 And being used to that, um it was probably helpful for me too, 269 00:21:08.920 --> 00:21:11.319 because I never looked at a lot. There's people who look at it 270 00:21:11.359 --> 00:21:15.359 as rejection. You were rejected, they didn't like you, they didn't want 271 00:21:15.400 --> 00:21:18.839 you, you weren't good enough, you weren't talented enough. I've been blessed 272 00:21:18.839 --> 00:21:22.640 to be on both sides of the camera, so I've been both a performer 273 00:21:22.759 --> 00:21:26.440 in front of camera and on stage, but I've also helped produced shows, 274 00:21:26.200 --> 00:21:33.200 I've helped direct shows and I know I've been a reader in the room for 275 00:21:33.319 --> 00:21:41.039 casting directors and I know from that experience that talent isn't the thing that they're 276 00:21:41.079 --> 00:21:45.680 looking for. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but if you didn't have talent, 277 00:21:45.720 --> 00:21:49.519 you wouldn't have gotten the audition. Like you wouldn't have even been given 278 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:53.079 the opportunity. The fact that you were given the opportunity is proof that you 279 00:21:53.200 --> 00:21:59.960 have talent. Now it's the mystical everything else. Are you the right high, 280 00:22:00.359 --> 00:22:03.359 right weight, right eye color, right hair color? Do you have 281 00:22:03.440 --> 00:22:07.640 the right accent? Are you able to do the right accent? Do you 282 00:22:07.799 --> 00:22:11.920 fit with the other cast? You know if they've cast somebody who a leading 283 00:22:12.480 --> 00:22:18.000 actress who is five eight or five nine, she's probably gonna look awkward up 284 00:22:18.039 --> 00:22:22.960 to me, because I graciously list myself at five eight and the reality is 285 00:22:22.160 --> 00:22:26.599 I'm probably five seven in a little bit, a hundred and thirty five pounds. 286 00:22:26.799 --> 00:22:30.240 So if you don't get somebody who is slight, I'M gonna look ridiculous 287 00:22:30.240 --> 00:22:34.279 next to them. And depending on you know, if I'm not the leading 288 00:22:34.559 --> 00:22:40.480 role, they're going to cast around the lead, not around me, and 289 00:22:40.559 --> 00:22:44.119 so there's a lot of things that go into play that that are so outside 290 00:22:44.160 --> 00:22:47.079 of my control, so outside of my sphere of influence, that all I 291 00:22:47.079 --> 00:22:49.160 can do is, as you said, focus on what I can do and 292 00:22:49.319 --> 00:22:52.480 my reactions to them. I never got. You know, I know people 293 00:22:52.480 --> 00:22:56.359 who get mad at casting directors. You know, I've been to five auditions 294 00:22:56.359 --> 00:23:00.400 with her and she hasn't guy. I haven't even gotten a okay. Well, 295 00:23:02.200 --> 00:23:06.400 if that's the attitude you're going into the room with, there's probably her 296 00:23:06.400 --> 00:23:11.759 reason you're not booking and yet she's bringing you back. So you've got to 297 00:23:11.880 --> 00:23:15.160 have the talent. The talent is there, or they just, especially with 298 00:23:15.160 --> 00:23:18.039 that kind of attitude, they just wouldn't bring you back. You'd get blacklisted 299 00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:21.000 so quickly. And so for me I just realized, you know what, 300 00:23:21.160 --> 00:23:23.240 they're my friends, they're on my side, they brought me into the room. 301 00:23:23.480 --> 00:23:27.599 They don't want their time wasted. So I have to just do my 302 00:23:27.680 --> 00:23:32.599 best. I prep the best that I can and give my best performance that 303 00:23:32.640 --> 00:23:37.319 I can and then everything else is outside of my sphere of influence and that 304 00:23:37.359 --> 00:23:42.559 has served me going forward. You know, in my business relations, in 305 00:23:44.119 --> 00:23:48.000 the entrepreneurial things that I've tackled over the last five, ten years. I 306 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:52.799 mean I run three companies right now and I've had a fourth, one, 307 00:23:52.519 --> 00:23:56.640 fifth, two beyond the three that I have going right now to have failed 308 00:23:57.359 --> 00:24:03.519 miserably. Well, we're excellent learning opportunities because I know what not to do 309 00:24:03.640 --> 00:24:07.680 and subsequently my three that I have going right now are thriving. But they 310 00:24:07.680 --> 00:24:11.799 wouldn't be if I hadn't learned the lessons from that. So there's always there's 311 00:24:11.799 --> 00:24:14.839 always a lesson to learn. There's always grace in the events that happened in 312 00:24:14.839 --> 00:24:21.839 our life. You know, I my father passing away was tragic. It 313 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:26.599 drastically altered the course of my life. But if it weren't for it, 314 00:24:26.119 --> 00:24:30.920 I would have never gotten on stage. If it weren't for it I wouldn't 315 00:24:30.920 --> 00:24:41.319 have had the extreme number of mentors in my life that I did because everybody 316 00:24:41.319 --> 00:24:47.039 in my I grew up in a very small town in rural Alberta, and 317 00:24:47.279 --> 00:24:48.799 everybody stepped up to support my mom. You know, they say it takes 318 00:24:48.799 --> 00:24:56.279 a village to raise the children, while I had an entire town and you 319 00:24:56.319 --> 00:25:00.039 know, so many men and women stepped up to the plate to help me 320 00:25:00.079 --> 00:25:03.720 and guide me and be there for me and help me with things. You 321 00:25:03.759 --> 00:25:07.200 know, get me into hockey so that I could play because mom couldn't afford 322 00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:12.680 the gear. Um Get me into baseball, get me out and playing music. 323 00:25:12.720 --> 00:25:17.680 I started drumming because of some of the guidance and mentorships that I had. 324 00:25:17.720 --> 00:25:25.640 So all of those things happened because my father passed away and there was 325 00:25:25.680 --> 00:25:30.920 a void to fill and because of that, Bob and Joanne were very large 326 00:25:32.000 --> 00:25:34.920 parts of my life and so when I needed them the most, in my 327 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:38.160 darkest time, they were already there, they were already prepped. We had 328 00:25:38.200 --> 00:25:42.599 a pre existing relationship. They knew who I was and that is incredible grace. 329 00:25:44.160 --> 00:25:47.759 So I look at all the events that have happened in my life and 330 00:25:47.880 --> 00:25:51.400 it's, you know, it's a series of dominoes that are set up on 331 00:25:51.440 --> 00:25:55.440 a string and if one was taken away, the whole thing would not cascade 332 00:25:55.440 --> 00:25:57.799 the way that it has right now. And I need each one of those 333 00:25:57.839 --> 00:26:02.759 events to be where I am it now. And so it's finding Um the 334 00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:07.400 lessons in why those dominoes were placed in the area that they were, in 335 00:26:07.440 --> 00:26:11.200 the orientation that they were and why they've fallen the way that they have. 336 00:26:11.160 --> 00:26:17.480 And for me, just piecing not together is my my daily challenge, but 337 00:26:17.599 --> 00:26:19.680 it's also my daily reward when I when I figure out the lessons. 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If you're 345 00:27:07.720 --> 00:27:11.240 finding value in this podcast, you should really check out where it all began. 346 00:27:11.839 --> 00:27:15.680 See, I wrote the book moving up stream without a paddle as a 347 00:27:15.759 --> 00:27:19.799 guide to develop the foundation for a successful mindset. Learn what I believe to 348 00:27:19.799 --> 00:27:25.319 be four of the most fundamental principles to find success in any endeavor. And 349 00:27:25.400 --> 00:27:30.119 if you apply these principles in your own life, you will indeed find that 350 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:37.920 you can move up stream with no paddle needed. Get it on Amazon today. 351 00:27:38.960 --> 00:27:44.759 Well, and I like that piece too, is that's that's that success 352 00:27:44.759 --> 00:27:48.359 stacting in my mind. And so, well, what's what's? What's the 353 00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:52.680 success? And that will I learned a lesson. Amy, at least I 354 00:27:52.759 --> 00:27:55.400 learned it and I didn't have to go through that, that whole lesson one 355 00:27:55.440 --> 00:27:59.119 more time. And but, and I the other little pieces that you put 356 00:27:59.160 --> 00:28:03.119 in there to your attitude that you had um in in these casting calls. 357 00:28:03.160 --> 00:28:08.599 and and how someone come to the same casting director and and but there is 358 00:28:08.640 --> 00:28:12.799 an attitude then a lot of people don't understand that too, like the energy 359 00:28:12.839 --> 00:28:17.000 that you're putting out. Um, even though you have the talent, they 360 00:28:17.039 --> 00:28:19.279 may not have been Lin the VIBE. And so if you but with since 361 00:28:19.319 --> 00:28:22.960 you go into these things with this this high energy and this high vibration, 362 00:28:23.039 --> 00:28:26.680 that's you're like yeah, man, this is cool, you're my friend and 363 00:28:26.680 --> 00:28:30.039 and you're here to support that's that's that's a connection. That um is not 364 00:28:30.160 --> 00:28:34.279 seen, but it's definitely felt, and sometimes you can't just you can't pinpoint 365 00:28:34.359 --> 00:28:37.279 that. So I feel like maybe a lot of those other guys are shooting 366 00:28:37.319 --> 00:28:41.200 themselves in the foot with the attitude that they came into that with a what's 367 00:28:41.240 --> 00:28:45.839 cool with you? As you you learned that and that was again that lesson, 368 00:28:45.880 --> 00:28:49.480 that tool for your tool belt for when you transition from acting to now 369 00:28:49.559 --> 00:28:55.359 go into the entrepreneurship. So you had this attitude going into that and still 370 00:28:56.039 --> 00:28:59.720 lessons learned. And you have the two companies that failed miserably. But what 371 00:28:59.799 --> 00:29:02.799 kin I pull from that? Because I'm not done, my life isn't over. 372 00:29:03.240 --> 00:29:06.559 I still need to progress forward. So these are really good lessons for 373 00:29:06.680 --> 00:29:11.240 the listeners to hear because it's it's it's quantifiable. But when more people come 374 00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:15.240 out and start saying these things that look, we see it in memes all 375 00:29:15.279 --> 00:29:19.000 the time. It's an inspirational quotes. It is the failures are lessons and 376 00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:23.000 and look at how to to utilize that. Well, now here's a real 377 00:29:23.000 --> 00:29:29.960 world of real world example on how that works and why it works and and 378 00:29:30.359 --> 00:29:34.480 that it does work well and I think what you the word that you use, 379 00:29:34.599 --> 00:29:41.359 quantifiable, is the most important. I love metrics. Again, I 380 00:29:41.440 --> 00:29:45.359 have an engineering mind which is warped because I also have a performance mind. 381 00:29:45.440 --> 00:29:48.480 So, trust me, I am the odd man out in my engineering circles. 382 00:29:48.960 --> 00:29:56.079 Um, there's some dry characters where I used to work. But you 383 00:29:56.119 --> 00:30:02.000 know, I like the numbers, I like to know and it helps me 384 00:30:02.200 --> 00:30:04.200 with my tracking, because that's the other thing too. I knew statistically when 385 00:30:04.200 --> 00:30:07.400 I was acting that I was booking one in eight auditions. So if I 386 00:30:07.559 --> 00:30:11.720 go on a streak where it was twelve or thirteen or fourteen auditions and I 387 00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:15.359 hadn't booked, I'd go, okay, great, that means I'm gonna I'm 388 00:30:15.960 --> 00:30:19.680 statistically bound for like the next two or three to really fall into place. 389 00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:23.720 And you're right, the energy is palpable. It's the thing that I missed 390 00:30:23.759 --> 00:30:30.039 the most right now, coming to you from my blank gray void, you 391 00:30:30.079 --> 00:30:36.799 know, is that I don't have that room to have energy in and I 392 00:30:36.839 --> 00:30:40.880 have. I have found that Um, as good a performer as I'd like 393 00:30:40.960 --> 00:30:44.640 to think that I am, and statistically I have a resume to back that 394 00:30:44.799 --> 00:30:52.839 up. I'm booking less in these virtual casting calls because you just get no 395 00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:56.720 sense of my personality. You know, I have a literally a five second 396 00:30:56.759 --> 00:31:00.160 slate where I get to say hi, my name is Tyler Foley, I'm 397 00:31:00.200 --> 00:31:07.359 represented by Roxanne and I'm reading for the role of whatever, and that that's 398 00:31:07.440 --> 00:31:10.960 not enough to know who the essence of me is. But you get me 399 00:31:10.960 --> 00:31:14.680 in a room and while they're setting up and the cameraman's fiddling around and casting 400 00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:19.200 directors asking how your day is, they get they know you and and so 401 00:31:19.279 --> 00:31:23.400 that's that's been really missing from this. I think I've had I'd have to 402 00:31:23.480 --> 00:31:29.559 check back, but it's fifteen or sixteen auditions in the last year and I've 403 00:31:29.599 --> 00:31:34.519 literally booked one day player role and the likelihood that I ever actually make the 404 00:31:34.599 --> 00:31:38.359 show, I'm paid for it, so I'm happy, I don't mind. 405 00:31:38.920 --> 00:31:44.720 But the likelihood that anybody actually sees me in that performance is a about five 406 00:31:45.480 --> 00:31:48.640 based on how that role went. So you know, there it's not the 407 00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:52.599 size the role, it's the it's the attitude of the actor and and I 408 00:31:52.759 --> 00:31:56.640 was so gracious grateful to be on that set. It's a show that I've 409 00:31:56.640 --> 00:32:01.200 been trying to get on for literally fifteen years. So yeah, day player 410 00:32:01.279 --> 00:32:04.359 role, but I got to say that I was on it. It's tact 411 00:32:04.440 --> 00:32:07.759 upon my resume. Now I've booked a thing and maybe, maybe they'll start 412 00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:12.279 to come through the way that they used to. But I also know that 413 00:32:12.319 --> 00:32:15.079 I'm missing this, I'm missing the connection and I bet when I get back 414 00:32:15.119 --> 00:32:20.200 into the room, well, I'll slay it then, I don't doubt it. 415 00:32:20.880 --> 00:32:24.039 Let's let's what was the transition like for you then, because you came 416 00:32:24.039 --> 00:32:30.480 out of acting and you went to and I love your analytical because you so. 417 00:32:30.519 --> 00:32:32.279 I have my my doctor is actually in computer science, and so it's 418 00:32:32.279 --> 00:32:37.960 the same as far as computer science guys go. I have a personality that 419 00:32:38.000 --> 00:32:42.759 then, and that's that's I mean, it's it's not, it's not. 420 00:32:43.359 --> 00:32:46.160 That dry mop syndrome of computer guys is starting to go away a little bit, 421 00:32:46.200 --> 00:32:51.039 but it's still very prevalent in in the world. But so I love 422 00:32:51.079 --> 00:32:53.720 that that piece. But how was the transition from going from acting to to 423 00:32:53.880 --> 00:33:00.039 now doing something different? Like again, you have the attitude, you of 424 00:33:00.119 --> 00:33:02.559 everything that was caring carrying with you. So how did you apply that really 425 00:33:02.559 --> 00:33:06.480 when you were when you were making that transition to a new career field. 426 00:33:07.359 --> 00:33:09.279 Well, the thing is is, when you're a performer, you're always a 427 00:33:09.279 --> 00:33:15.119 performer. Like that's like you can you put me onto you know, podcasts 428 00:33:15.119 --> 00:33:17.000 and we can promote whatever. You talk about the business, talk about the 429 00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:20.839 book. I'm still gonna be me, I'M gonna be my personality and I'm 430 00:33:20.839 --> 00:33:25.559 gonna come through shining as a performer always. And that was one of the 431 00:33:25.640 --> 00:33:30.680 first lessons that I learned from a business perspective is when you try to be 432 00:33:30.839 --> 00:33:37.720 something that you're not, it reads false right away. And I can't be 433 00:33:37.759 --> 00:33:43.279 worried about what my clients think about me. I can't change my personality because 434 00:33:43.319 --> 00:33:45.200 my clients are going to figure it out at some point and if they don't 435 00:33:45.240 --> 00:33:47.920 like it, they weren't the ideal client for me anyways. You can't. 436 00:33:49.119 --> 00:33:52.799 You can't get everyone. It's the same as an audition, like you just 437 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:55.400 you can't all the work out there is so an abundance of work out there 438 00:33:55.400 --> 00:34:04.119 if you look and and there's enough to share that I don't need to book 439 00:34:04.160 --> 00:34:07.719 every client because, you know, my life would get really chaotic and hectic 440 00:34:07.760 --> 00:34:12.039 and it would be stressful if everybody came to me. I wouldn't be able 441 00:34:12.079 --> 00:34:17.360 to serve the world. Um. So I learned very quickly not to temper 442 00:34:17.400 --> 00:34:22.199 who I am, to embrace who I am, that those who appreciated my 443 00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:25.880 personality, we're going to work with me and work with me well and like 444 00:34:27.039 --> 00:34:30.599 it back, and those who didn't were not my ideal clients and I didn't 445 00:34:30.639 --> 00:34:36.039 and the beautiful thing about it is then I stopped wasting energy trying to attract 446 00:34:36.079 --> 00:34:39.800 them, and that has been one of the greatest gifts that I've ever been 447 00:34:39.840 --> 00:34:46.480 given, is the freedom to not have to chase every potential lead, because 448 00:34:46.519 --> 00:34:53.000 that's all they are. They are leads and they're not not every lead is 449 00:34:53.079 --> 00:34:59.400 going to translate into business for me, and I like that. I like 450 00:34:59.639 --> 00:35:04.599 the twenty rule. I like generating eight percent of my income from the clients 451 00:35:04.599 --> 00:35:07.239 that I work with, because those are the ones that I'm going to focus 452 00:35:07.239 --> 00:35:08.239 on, those are the ones that are going to get the majority of my 453 00:35:08.280 --> 00:35:12.360 time, they're the ones that are going to get my focus and my energy, 454 00:35:12.480 --> 00:35:15.760 and that frees me up to have this other to explore all the different 455 00:35:15.760 --> 00:35:22.679 things that I do. I mean, I'm wearing so many hats. I've 456 00:35:22.719 --> 00:35:28.800 got three businesses going Um, two of them. Thankfully, I have a 457 00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:35.599 very passive input into Um. The speaker training is my active focus and it's 458 00:35:35.679 --> 00:35:38.800 great because now I get to help people tell their stories, get their messages 459 00:35:38.840 --> 00:35:43.760 out, find out why they were put on earth like that's some of the 460 00:35:43.800 --> 00:35:47.199 funnest things, things that I get to do with my job right now is 461 00:35:47.280 --> 00:35:51.159 help people figure out what is my story, Why am I here? WHO 462 00:35:51.159 --> 00:35:55.840 CAN I help? And I mean that's where I'm getting the reward. Running 463 00:35:55.840 --> 00:36:00.559 the safety business has been rewarding in that I know that I'm keeping people safe 464 00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:08.480 and as somebody who lost their father to a workplace incident, nothing drives me 465 00:36:08.599 --> 00:36:15.320 and motivates me more than making sure that somebody else's spouse gets home that day. 466 00:36:15.760 --> 00:36:20.480 But it's exhausting because nobody likes safety and you're you're just, you're you're 467 00:36:20.519 --> 00:36:24.039 preaching to the choir. You know when you find it that nobody's nobody's listening, 468 00:36:24.360 --> 00:36:30.840 you might as well be talking into my empty void room. And so 469 00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:35.880 to be able now to empower people to find their own message, to find 470 00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:42.000 their own story, to find their own motivation, that has been rewarding and 471 00:36:42.039 --> 00:36:45.000 then some, and it just it just feels good. It feels good every 472 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:50.119 time I can see somebody's lightbulb go off and see them click and gain confidence. 473 00:36:50.159 --> 00:36:54.360 That's the thing. S of Americans claim that they have this mysterious fear 474 00:36:54.360 --> 00:36:58.840 of public speaking, and the reality is they don't. The majority of the 475 00:36:58.840 --> 00:37:01.920 people who feel that they have this fear of public speaking aren't afraid to speak 476 00:37:01.920 --> 00:37:06.039 in public, or they would never be able to order food in a restaurant. 477 00:37:07.719 --> 00:37:10.000 But they do have a fear of judgment. And so getting people to 478 00:37:10.079 --> 00:37:15.519 overcome that and then find the confidence to take the stage and really express themselves 479 00:37:15.679 --> 00:37:19.960 and find out who they are, to like, be authentic and find out. 480 00:37:20.480 --> 00:37:22.719 For me, I hate the word authentic. It's so overused it just 481 00:37:22.840 --> 00:37:28.400 drives me insane. I think authenticity is synonymous with self awareness and so having 482 00:37:28.480 --> 00:37:30.960 people really figure out who they are at their court, what drives them, 483 00:37:30.960 --> 00:37:35.079 what motivates them, what their values are, and then be able to have 484 00:37:35.199 --> 00:37:39.159 them articulate that to another group and have impact. Oh it lights my heart 485 00:37:39.199 --> 00:37:45.199 up every time. I love that. You said that that because authenticity it 486 00:37:45.320 --> 00:37:50.559 is when you are because we're always showing up as what we believe to be 487 00:37:50.639 --> 00:37:53.599 authentic. I mean we're we're trying. And there are some cases, like 488 00:37:53.639 --> 00:37:57.199 you said, if you go to a job interview and you you try to 489 00:37:57.199 --> 00:37:59.960 put on whatever, but and okay, so those are the rare cases. 490 00:38:00.159 --> 00:38:04.880 But even still we're still showing up as as authentic as we know how to 491 00:38:04.920 --> 00:38:08.960 be, because that that's where our self awareness is. And and I love 492 00:38:09.000 --> 00:38:14.760 when people go through personal development journeys or personal discovery and and really working with 493 00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:17.360 you know, people like you who are helping them to get on and and 494 00:38:17.440 --> 00:38:22.039 express their voice, express their story. There's a power when they begin to 495 00:38:22.119 --> 00:38:29.760 realize who they are right and and so I love that you distinguished the authenticity 496 00:38:29.840 --> 00:38:34.639 is as being just just become more self aware, and that's that's the key. 497 00:38:34.760 --> 00:38:38.000 But people don't don't go on those research journeys. They don't. They 498 00:38:38.000 --> 00:38:45.199 don't know they've and we're just we we've become complacent to where we're at and 499 00:38:45.199 --> 00:38:50.599 and we I always get very intrigued to people like why I feel so exhausted 500 00:38:50.639 --> 00:38:54.000 all the time and this and then because your body really wants your spirit, 501 00:38:54.039 --> 00:39:00.559 everything about you wants to grow, it wants to expound, expand and you're 502 00:39:00.320 --> 00:39:04.639 forcing it to constrict it into place. So no wonder you're tired. It's 503 00:39:04.719 --> 00:39:07.559 really interesting when you begin to self awareness piece, and this is where you 504 00:39:07.559 --> 00:39:10.079 know your story is coming into play too, and how you feel. So 505 00:39:12.239 --> 00:39:15.800 because that's what you're doing. You're helping people do that because you've done it, 506 00:39:15.840 --> 00:39:19.320 and you're like yes, you're with me, we're riding this way together 507 00:39:19.760 --> 00:39:22.480 and you're both are growing and you feel free. You don't feel exhausted anymore. 508 00:39:22.519 --> 00:39:28.320 You feel just rejuvenated and energized because you are doing that self awareness, 509 00:39:28.360 --> 00:39:34.800 that self discovery. It's an amazing thing that people don't understand well and one 510 00:39:34.840 --> 00:39:37.760 of my good friends, Jason Krauss, has a phenomenal book that I'm sure 511 00:39:38.119 --> 00:39:42.239 you can pick up on bookshop dot org, called the science of success, 512 00:39:42.559 --> 00:39:45.159 and one of the first things that he talks about in it he's a former 513 00:39:45.199 --> 00:39:47.400 Olympic Bob slayer. So, forgive me, I'm from Canada, so winter 514 00:39:47.480 --> 00:39:52.960 sports Um, and but he played football, Canadian football, but football nonetheless, 515 00:39:53.079 --> 00:39:58.800 three downs instead of four. And then when he finished with his Um 516 00:39:59.039 --> 00:40:04.719 football career, he's really short and stocky and fast. He is lightning fast 517 00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:12.800 and he was just made to pilot a Bob's way. And in his book 518 00:40:13.119 --> 00:40:15.119 he talks about how you can really only be in two states. You're in 519 00:40:15.159 --> 00:40:22.440 growth or contraction, and contraction is death and there are times where you need 520 00:40:22.559 --> 00:40:28.519 something to contract and die like. It's not a thing to fear necessarily, 521 00:40:29.159 --> 00:40:32.599 but you it's better when you are consciously aware of what you're rejecting and what 522 00:40:32.639 --> 00:40:38.039 you're not nurturing and you're consciously aware of what you're accepting and nurturing, versus 523 00:40:38.039 --> 00:40:45.000 allowing random circumstance and unconscious biases uh to have these things propagate. Because, 524 00:40:45.000 --> 00:40:52.320 again, rule, there are relationships that I shouldn't foster. They are energy 525 00:40:52.400 --> 00:41:00.239 draining, they are not financially lucrative Um, they just don't serve me and 526 00:41:00.280 --> 00:41:05.400 subsequently, if they're not serving me, I can't possibly be serving them either. 527 00:41:05.480 --> 00:41:08.000 So those are things, those are energies that need to contract, but 528 00:41:08.119 --> 00:41:10.559 we need to be able to focus on those growth because, as you pointed 529 00:41:10.559 --> 00:41:14.599 out, it's one of the two. You're either in growth or contraction, 530 00:41:15.039 --> 00:41:19.599 and Jason's book runs it really, really well. Like I I understand the 531 00:41:19.599 --> 00:41:22.119 concepts, but the way that he lays them out, step by step by 532 00:41:22.119 --> 00:41:29.760 step in science of success is Um is just a genius thing, especially because 533 00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:35.039 he comes from it from a performance athlete perspective. And now he's, you 534 00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:40.880 know, he's a very um lettered coach and executive coach and he works with, 535 00:41:42.119 --> 00:41:50.400 you know, very large name fortune, five C C suite executives and 536 00:41:49.639 --> 00:41:52.480 UH and so, you know, I I trust the advice that he gives 537 00:41:52.480 --> 00:41:58.000 because he's helping some great people find their greatness and be even better. So 538 00:41:58.360 --> 00:42:00.800 he it's it's a great book, but I love when he talks about it 539 00:42:00.880 --> 00:42:05.159 growth versus contraction and that you can't be in the two states at the same 540 00:42:05.159 --> 00:42:08.800 time and to be consciously aware of them versus subconsciously. Yeah, well, 541 00:42:08.880 --> 00:42:12.599 let's since you brought up book, Let's Talk About your book. I mean 542 00:42:12.639 --> 00:42:15.679 we briefly discussed about people know where to go, the right right place to 543 00:42:15.679 --> 00:42:20.880 go, but let's talk more about what's in the book, what inspired the 544 00:42:20.920 --> 00:42:24.280 Book and who is it? Who is it really for? So the book 545 00:42:24.599 --> 00:42:29.320 is not for. I can say who it's not for. It's not for 546 00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:34.599 people who are already big name public speakers. They they, you know, 547 00:42:34.639 --> 00:42:39.519 people who it's for the people who are afraid to get onto the stage and 548 00:42:39.599 --> 00:42:43.039 for the people who know that they want to be on stage. But don't 549 00:42:43.039 --> 00:42:49.119 know where to start. It's a real beginner handhold for people. It's thirty 550 00:42:49.159 --> 00:42:55.599 five years of my experience compressed into ten chapters and gives very actionable advice. 551 00:42:55.679 --> 00:43:00.360 That's one of the things when I first started writing the book book, more 552 00:43:00.400 --> 00:43:05.760 specifically when I first started performing the book, I wanted to make sure that 553 00:43:05.840 --> 00:43:07.599 it was actionable, that people could read it, that it was easy to 554 00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:13.599 digest and that they had things that they could implement right now, because otherwise 555 00:43:13.599 --> 00:43:15.400 why read like if you if you can't do a thing out of the book, 556 00:43:15.440 --> 00:43:19.360 if you can't implement something out of the book, there's no point in 557 00:43:19.440 --> 00:43:24.679 reading that book. And the book actually came about through my training. So 558 00:43:24.880 --> 00:43:29.920 I record everything because I'm a performer, so I don't go anywhere without a 559 00:43:29.920 --> 00:43:34.159 camera. The beautiful thing about current society is that everybody has at least one 560 00:43:34.239 --> 00:43:37.360 camera on them at all times, because they we've got cell phones and a 561 00:43:37.400 --> 00:43:40.960 lot of the cell phones have fantastic lenses on them, like mine's got as 562 00:43:42.039 --> 00:43:50.000 Zeiss Um Lens that that captures images and just a way that even my Webcam 563 00:43:50.079 --> 00:43:52.280 can't, and this is an HD Webcam that I'm using, but my cell 564 00:43:52.280 --> 00:43:58.679 phone actually has a better picture quality, and so I record everything that I 565 00:43:58.719 --> 00:44:02.559 do and what we did was we took the training and all the video, 566 00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:08.800 grab the Audio, transcribe that and then compiled it into segments that made sense 567 00:44:08.920 --> 00:44:15.679 based on how I train and how I conduct my workshops and my seminars and 568 00:44:15.159 --> 00:44:20.719 my webinars and all of the training that I do. We compiled it into 569 00:44:20.719 --> 00:44:25.320 the book and and people seem to enjoy it. The Nice thing is is 570 00:44:25.360 --> 00:44:32.039 that it's because it's transcribed from my audio. It's in my voice. It 571 00:44:32.119 --> 00:44:37.440 makes me cringe when I read it because, Um, I think I'm articulate 572 00:44:37.920 --> 00:44:44.000 and come across educated when I speak, and I think I do, until 573 00:44:44.079 --> 00:44:47.440 I see it down word for word for word, and then I go wow, 574 00:44:49.880 --> 00:44:52.039 I would amend that and I was. I'm lucky that I had a 575 00:44:52.039 --> 00:44:54.880 really good team behind me who were like no, no, it's your voice, 576 00:44:54.920 --> 00:45:00.480 trust us, trust us, trust the process. Keep it that way, 577 00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:05.159 and that's been the main feedback from people is that is really easy to 578 00:45:05.239 --> 00:45:08.320 read and they get a very clear sense of who I am and if they 579 00:45:08.360 --> 00:45:13.360 want to work with me further after having read the book, because they know 580 00:45:13.400 --> 00:45:15.559 what they're getting like. There's no surprise you get in a room. Live 581 00:45:15.599 --> 00:45:19.679 with me. There's no surprise after you've read the book, and Vice Versa, 582 00:45:19.960 --> 00:45:22.800 because you may ever notice that sometimes you'll go to one of those big 583 00:45:22.880 --> 00:45:27.000 events and they got the big speakers and they're raw, Rah Rah, and 584 00:45:27.000 --> 00:45:30.039 they're promoting you know, and you're like wow, this person is a genius, 585 00:45:30.039 --> 00:45:36.599 and then you pick up their book and the content is there but the 586 00:45:36.679 --> 00:45:42.280 context is different and you're like uh, it's a subconscious bias and you're like, 587 00:45:42.320 --> 00:45:45.519 I don't know why this doesn't buy, but just something doesn't feel right 588 00:45:45.559 --> 00:45:47.519 about it. The Nice thing is is that doesn't happen with my book. 589 00:45:47.760 --> 00:45:52.679 Really, well, get me, that's just how it is. Right. 590 00:45:52.800 --> 00:45:57.039 Well, that's good. Well, so what was? What's the telling about 591 00:45:57.039 --> 00:46:01.000 the title? Because it's the power to speak naked. Um, the power 592 00:46:01.039 --> 00:46:07.960 to speak naked. By the way, this cover is banned by Jeff Bezos. 593 00:46:08.000 --> 00:46:13.000 That's another reason to go um and shop for it on Bookshop Dot Org. 594 00:46:13.519 --> 00:46:16.000 You can get it on Bezos site, but I can't advertise for it 595 00:46:16.039 --> 00:46:22.639 because it doesn't meet their advertising content because it contains overt and graphic content in 596 00:46:22.679 --> 00:46:27.960 a sexualized manner. And facebook feels the same way. So I can't even 597 00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:30.239 promote the book on facebook. But I like the cover. I think it 598 00:46:30.239 --> 00:46:35.079 has impact, so I change the thing. Yeah, I love it, 599 00:46:36.119 --> 00:46:37.239 but I don't know why we get so hang up, hung up on it's 600 00:46:37.239 --> 00:46:40.960 not like you're full frontal right there, but hey, you know, it 601 00:46:42.079 --> 00:46:45.760 is what it is. So I mean cool. So, as the keynote 602 00:46:45.800 --> 00:46:50.880 speaker goes, like you do have this really good persona, this this amazing 603 00:46:50.880 --> 00:46:54.239 persona, and I could see why, as a keynote speaker like, people 604 00:46:54.280 --> 00:46:57.679 would really be drawn. So, like, I want you to come speak 605 00:46:57.760 --> 00:47:04.519 to this and just your background Um just just makes that serve right, is 606 00:47:04.679 --> 00:47:07.800 like, because it's interesting how you apply everything that you've gone through, you 607 00:47:07.840 --> 00:47:15.360 know, from from the being paralyzed to your journey through Um casting calls and 608 00:47:15.440 --> 00:47:16.920 being, you know, the Child, the child actor, and then the 609 00:47:17.039 --> 00:47:22.199 adult actor and then the Um, the engineer aspect of you, and now 610 00:47:22.360 --> 00:47:27.239 the teacher, coach person that helps people find their voice. And so I 611 00:47:27.280 --> 00:47:30.519 can see that the appeal for people wanting to have you come talk. So 612 00:47:30.599 --> 00:47:32.719 is that something that people can request from you? Be Like Hey, Tyler 613 00:47:34.719 --> 00:47:37.199 meed, we have this event and I think you're gonna be an awesome speaker 614 00:47:37.199 --> 00:47:38.639 at it. And so how how do they get in touch with you? 615 00:47:38.679 --> 00:47:43.360 To do that? The best way to do that is on Sean Tyler Foley 616 00:47:43.440 --> 00:47:45.639 Dot Com, and Sean is spelled the proper Irish way, s e a 617 00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:50.280 N T U I L E R F O l e Y. Sean Tyler 618 00:47:50.280 --> 00:47:52.800 Folly Dot Com, and has all my socials there. It has Um, 619 00:47:52.840 --> 00:47:58.880 all my contact information, how to book me, Um, how to get 620 00:47:58.920 --> 00:48:02.199 into one of our works ops, whether they're live or prerecorded or virtual, 621 00:48:04.440 --> 00:48:08.519 Um, and basically everything about me is on Sean Tyler Folly Dot Com. 622 00:48:08.760 --> 00:48:13.519 And for anybody who does go, we have a free gift for them if 623 00:48:13.559 --> 00:48:16.119 they do visit the website. Right on the front page, above the fold, 624 00:48:16.440 --> 00:48:22.440 there's a big banner called the method and if you click on the method 625 00:48:22.599 --> 00:48:27.840 it's an eleven page booklet with five insider secrets that I've put together that are 626 00:48:28.039 --> 00:48:31.519 very easy to use and will help anybody be a more confident public speaker. 627 00:48:31.880 --> 00:48:35.760 And they don't have to pick up the power to speak naked to get those 628 00:48:35.760 --> 00:48:37.719 secrets. They can just go and get them free and if they like what 629 00:48:37.760 --> 00:48:42.360 they here, then by all means go to bookshop dot org pick up the 630 00:48:42.400 --> 00:48:45.840 book and see if that helps you in any way. And I am always, 631 00:48:45.880 --> 00:48:49.920 always, always happy to do a corporate facilitation. I have a lot 632 00:48:49.920 --> 00:48:52.239 of corporate clients who bring me in to work with their executives, to work 633 00:48:52.280 --> 00:48:57.480 with their management team and their supervisory team so that they're giving better presentations, 634 00:48:57.480 --> 00:49:01.440 because that's the worst thing about business and when you have to go into the 635 00:49:01.480 --> 00:49:08.039 boardroom and get a lot botomy like that, it's just unfortunate and it doesn't 636 00:49:08.119 --> 00:49:13.840 need to be that way. I get that some of the information maybe isn't 637 00:49:13.960 --> 00:49:20.000 flashy like a Hollywood film, but there are ways that you can present any 638 00:49:20.400 --> 00:49:23.960 data, any information, in a way that's compelling and make sense to your 639 00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:28.960 audience and brings them in as opposed to pushing them away. So that's again, 640 00:49:29.079 --> 00:49:31.440 I I love that. I love doing that, and that comes back 641 00:49:31.480 --> 00:49:37.559 to the safety background, because if you can't explain your messaging, if you 642 00:49:37.679 --> 00:49:43.800 can't sell somebody on your idea or your program your employees are really spinning without 643 00:49:43.840 --> 00:49:46.519 direction and that is one of the worst places for a company to be in. 644 00:49:46.679 --> 00:49:51.159 You Need Clear Direction. You need to be able to articulate what you 645 00:49:51.199 --> 00:49:53.000 want out of your company and your vision and where it's going and why. 646 00:49:53.079 --> 00:50:00.719 You need that and you need those who viewed empowered to lead and and direct 647 00:50:00.840 --> 00:50:04.960 that uh, to be able to do the same. And if the messaging 648 00:50:05.000 --> 00:50:08.760 is offer and congruent, that's when things start to go really wrong really quickly 649 00:50:08.840 --> 00:50:14.559 with businesses. So I love doing those corporate facilitations perfect well. I'm sure 650 00:50:14.639 --> 00:50:17.280 that I don't know how many corporation guys are are gonna listen to it and 651 00:50:17.599 --> 00:50:22.119 they're out there. So now they have it right. And Tyler, I 652 00:50:22.199 --> 00:50:25.159 just I appreciate you so much for taking the time to come on and a 653 00:50:25.159 --> 00:50:31.639 lot of really good insights in this conversation and just your your knowledge that you 654 00:50:31.719 --> 00:50:37.360 have towards towards the mindset and how it's applied and in a lot of different 655 00:50:37.400 --> 00:50:39.599 aspects is I think it's gonna be refreshing for people and that's going to really 656 00:50:39.599 --> 00:50:43.679 help them. So I just want to say I appreciate you taking time and 657 00:50:43.679 --> 00:50:46.679 and sharing this knowledge with my listeners. Um, it was. It was 658 00:50:46.719 --> 00:50:51.079 a great conversation well and I enjoyed it, Garrett, and if any, 659 00:50:51.239 --> 00:50:55.239 if everybody who was on live right now or who was listening later h enjoyed 660 00:50:55.280 --> 00:51:00.000 what you were doing with moving upstream without a paddle. I would strongly encourage 661 00:51:00.000 --> 00:51:02.400 them. Right now, you're you're watching anyways, so just click the light 662 00:51:02.519 --> 00:51:08.000 fucking give a share out or a comment. If you're listening to this on 663 00:51:08.159 --> 00:51:13.400 your podcast, whatever device you're listening to this on, whatever service you've downloaded 664 00:51:13.440 --> 00:51:16.239 this from, do Garrett a favor give it a five star review, because 665 00:51:16.840 --> 00:51:21.920 it is not easy putting these things together. Um, and I know I 666 00:51:22.000 --> 00:51:23.920 got value out of this conversation. I really enjoyed what we were doing here 667 00:51:23.920 --> 00:51:28.920 today, Garrett. So if your audience is listening right now and they they're 668 00:51:28.960 --> 00:51:31.760 getting value out of moving upstream without a paddle, then I would strongly, 669 00:51:31.800 --> 00:51:35.519 strongly encourage them. Stop what you're doing right now, because you're already on 670 00:51:35.559 --> 00:51:38.480 the device. Just hit pause. We'll be here, while we're wrapping up, 671 00:51:38.599 --> 00:51:44.480 we'll be here. You just hit that button like subscribe, five Star 672 00:51:44.519 --> 00:51:46.079 Review, leave a comment, share with your friends, let them know, 673 00:51:46.159 --> 00:51:49.360 get the word out, because if you're getting value out of it, that's 674 00:51:49.400 --> 00:51:52.360 the only way that Garrett's going to be able to get better guests than I 675 00:51:52.079 --> 00:51:57.320 on to give you as much value as we can. I appreciate that it's 676 00:51:58.000 --> 00:52:00.079 it's my listen. I have the one is that I know just show up 677 00:52:00.079 --> 00:52:02.960 all the time and this is how I always in it. And so again, 678 00:52:04.079 --> 00:52:06.119 thank you, and I'll end it this way again, that I just 679 00:52:06.199 --> 00:52:09.559 appreciate the listeners so much because they do show up, they're constantly connected and 680 00:52:09.719 --> 00:52:15.320 I always say that when you're trying to shift mindsets and you're trying to to 681 00:52:15.320 --> 00:52:20.480 to go through that personal development, that personal discovery is a continuous thing. 682 00:52:20.599 --> 00:52:24.400 So you constantly have to keep yourself connected in in these aspects and listen to 683 00:52:24.440 --> 00:52:29.440 the messages, like Tyler and other guts are on here. So, Um, 684 00:52:29.440 --> 00:52:31.440 I appreciate you guys always showing up and, as usual, we were 685 00:52:31.440 --> 00:52:37.719 going to be having another conversation real soon. Thanks for tuning in. If 686 00:52:37.760 --> 00:52:40.880 you've found value in this episode, the best thing you can do is to 687 00:52:40.920 --> 00:52:45.760 subscribe, rate or review this podcast. If you would like to further investigate 688 00:52:45.760 --> 00:52:50.760 how you can Filip your mindset, feel free to contact me through my website 689 00:52:50.760 --> 00:52:54.679 at www dot garrett goggins dot com. Can't wait to catch you on the 690 00:52:54.719 --> 00:53:05.039 next episode.